Actor Ali MacGraw sacrificed her own career for Steve McQueen

Ali MacGraw became a Hollywood superstar overnight. But just as quickly as she rose to fame, she disappeared from show business altogether.

Ali MacGraw
Ali MacGraw – born Elizabeth Alice MacGraw – was born on April 1, 1939, in Pound Ridge, New York, USA. Her mother, Frances, was an artist and worked at a school in Paris, later settling in Greenwich Village. She married Richard MacGraw, who was also an artist. In 1939, Ali was born.

Ali’s father Richard supposedly had issues from his own childhood which made him a little bit different from others.

He had survived a terrible childhood in an orphanage, running away at the age of 16 to go to sea. He would later study at an art school in Munich, Germany.

“Daddy was frightened and really, really angry. He never forgave his real parents for giving him up,” Ali explained, saying said her father’s adult life was spent “suppressing the rage that covered all his hurt.”

Ali MacGraw – childhood
Money was short for their family, too. Frances and Richard, together with Ali and her brother, Richard Jr, had to move into a house on a Pound Ridge wilderness preserve which they shared with an elderly couple.

“There were no doors; we shared the kitchen and bathroom with them,” Ali said. “It was utter lack of privacy. It was horrible.”

Mom Francis worked with several commercial-art assignments and supported the family. At the same time, Richard had a hard time selling his paintings, and as a result became very frustrated. Ali’s brother Richard became a victim for his anger at home.

“On good days he was great, but on bad days he was horrendous,” she recalled. “Daddy would beat my brother up, badly. I was witness to it, and it was terrible.”

Ali was the daughter of artists, and she knew that she, too, wanted to go into a creative line of work as she got older. She earned a scholarship at the prep school Rosemary Hall, and in 1956, she moved to study at Wellesley College in Massachusetts

By the age of 22, Ali MacGraw moved to New York and got her first job as an assistant editor at Harper’s Bazaar, working with photographers as an assistant.

Fashion work in New York
Fashion editor Diana Vreeland hired Ali as, what she recalls as, a “flunkie”. Ever seen the film The Devil Wears Prada? Well, it was pretty much that.

“It was ‘Girl! Get me a pencil!’,” MacGraw recalled.

The future Hollywood celebrity worked her job as an assistant for several months. Then, about six months in, fashion photographer Melvin Sokolsky noticed her beautiful looks, and Ali MacGraw was hired as a stylist,and given a better salary. She’d end up staying in that position for six years.

“I don’t know where she got this work ethic, but Ali would come in at eight a.m., and many times I’d come back at one in the morning and she would still be doing things for the next day,” Ruth Ansel, a former art director of Vanity Fair and Harper’s Bazaar recalls.

Ali was great as a stylist. But soon, she was asked to work in front of the cameras as a model. It didn’t take long before she was on magazine covers all over the world, even appearing in television commercials. For thing led to another, and Ali tumbled headfirst into the profession of acting.


She had been sketched nude by Salvador Dali a couple of years earlier. But when the surrealist artist started sucking her toes, MacGraw decided that she’d rather be an actress than a model.

Ali MacGraw – films
Ali went straight from an unknown stylist and into the world of cinema, and boy, did she do it with a bang.

She was untutored in the art of film, which gave her acting another dimension. Her natural beauty was stunning, and the audience loved her.

Following a small role in A Lovely Way to Die (1968), she was asked to star in the 1969 film Goodbye, Columbus. It turned out to be a great call, with MacGraw receiving a Golden Globe for Most Promising Newcomer – Female. The following year, she got her big international breakthrough with a role that would pretty much sum up her career.

Ali MacGraw had received a script from her agent. She’d read it and wept twice because of how much she loved it. She decided she really wanted a part in it, and got herself a meeting with the film’s producer Robert Evans – who at the time was Paramount Picture’s head of production – at the Beverly Hills Hotel’s Polo Lounge. Not only did Evans think she was perfect for the part in the movie Love Story, he absolutely fell in love with her.

MacGraw – playing the role of Jenny – acted alongside Ryan O’Neal in the movie Love Story. The American romantic drama film, in which Ali played a working-class college student, became a smash hit.


Love Story hit the cinemas in 1970, and wow did the audience cherish it. It became the No. 1 film in the United States, and at the time, it was the sixth highest grossing movie in history in the US and Canada.

Award-winning actress
MacGraw earned an Academy Award nomination for her role, and the film itself earned her another win and five Academy Award Nominations. She also won herself a second Golden Globe as Best Actress in a Motion Picture – Drama.

Film producer Robert Evans not only loved her on screen, he had fallen in love with her in real life, and that love was reciprocated. In 1969, the couple tied the knot, and two years later, they welcomed their son, Josh Evans.

Ali MacGraw was the hot new star of the 1970s, but her private life and marriage with Evans would soon come to an end. Steve McQueen had visited their home to ask her to star alongside him in The Getaway, and the two Hollywood stars clicked right away.

“I looked in those blue eyes, and my knees started knocking,” MacGraw recalled. “I became obsessed.”


MacGraw and McQueen had an affair, and she soon left Evans to live with the actor in Malibu, along with her son Josh.

“Steve was this very original, principled guy who didn’t seem to be part of the system, and I loved that,” she said.

Ali MacGraw – Steve McQueen
But after a while, Ali realized that Steve McQueen had his own problems. Following his father abandoning his mother, a then-14-year-old Steve was sent to a school for delinquent children. MacGraw said he never trusted women after that.


He didn’t like that she worked and had her own career. For a while, Ali stayed home to raise their sons. But her husband’s demands were something Ali simply couldn’t accept in the long run.

Not only that, but he’d explode if she even looked at another man. He also wanted her to sign a prenuptial agreement, promising not to ask for anything if they’d divorce. She abided by the agreement when they did divorce in 1978.

“I couldn’t even go to art class because Steve expected his ‘old lady’ to be there every night with dinner on the table,” she recalled.

“Steve’s idea of hot was not me. He liked blond bimbos, and they were always around.”


This was the start of a pretty dark time in MacGraw’s life. She arrived on set to shoot the 1978 film Convoy both drunk and high, which prompted her to quit drugs.

Leaving show business
At the same time, several of her movies, such as Players (1970) and Just Tell Me What You Want (1980) flopped.

“It’s brutal for women,” MacGraw told The Guardian about returning to show business in the late 1970s.


“I don’t think there’s a woman over 40 who’s ever been conspicuously in the spotlight who doesn’t get sick of the kind of questioning the media lays on you, the fashion industry, all of it. It’s cruel.”

MacGraw had a short stint as a Hollywood superstar actress. Thereafter, she decided to start working in interior design instead, but didn’t fully give up on her show business career. She appeared in the television miniseries The Winds of War (1983) and China Rose (1985), but soon, her life would change for the worse.

Ali MacGraw simply couldn’t get any work in film, and she thought she was useless. At the same time, she didn’t feel complete unless she had a partner, describing being in love like “a drug high”.


She felt alone and desperate, and drank heavily. In 1986, she checked herself into the Betty Ford Clinic in California.

“The worst stuff happened when I drank,” she said. “I lost my judgment; I fancied other women’s husbands.”

Family tragedies
Her son Josh Evans was 15 at the time and had a hard time watching his mother suffering. MacGraw spent 30 days in group therapy and came out a stronger person.

In 1993, another family tragedy occurred when her house in California burnt down due to a wildfire. She then decided to move from Los Angeles and settled in a town near Santa Fe, New Mexico.


“I live in a little village north of Santa Fe, New Mexico called Tesuque,” she revealed last year.

According to McGraw, her neighbors don’t see her as a former Hollywood star – instead they appreciate all the community work she’s been doing.

For example, she has been doing volunteer work at the annual International Folk Art Market in Santa Fe, New Mexico.

Ali MacGraw left acting, but in 2006, she found herself once again on stage. She reunited with her Love Story co-actor Ryan O’Neal in the Broadway adaptation of the Danish film Festen.

Outside of the Broadway show, MacGraw’s been out of the spotlight the last couple of decades. She’s put her heart into work for animal rights … and produced plenty of successful yoga videos.

Speaking to the Herald-Tribune in 2019, MacGraw stated that she’s still open to new adventures and work.

“One of the lucky things for someone my age is that I’m open and curious,” MacGraw said. “There’s not just one thing I love to do and feel bereft if I can’t. But I know that I’m not happy when I’m not doing something creative.”

Josh Evans – Ali MacGraw
Even though Ali left acting, her family still has a foot in the business. Son Josh Evans is an actor and director, and he’s made a great name for himself in Hollywood.

Also, he looks so much like his mother!

Being the child of Hollywood celebrities Robert Evans and Ali MacGraw certainly came with plenty of pressure.

But for Josh Evans, born in January of 1971, it was pretty much show business he wanted to do from the start.

The first job he ever wanted to do, however, wasn’t in the film business. He didn’t dream about working as an actor, but it was just one of those things that happened.

In 1989, Josh Evans had a small part in Dream a Little Dream (1989), but he wanted to do more. As a teenager with nothing to lose, he used to go to the manager’s office to see the breakdowns of movies being made.

Josh Evans – actor & director
That’s when he met someone he recognized in famous director Oliver Stone. He was making Born on the Fourth of July at the time, starring Tom Cruise. And Josh wanted in.

“At the time I just knew [Oliver Stone] from Platoon. He was making a movie with Tom Cruise and there was a role for the little brother. I wanted to play that part, so he got me a meeting with Oliver Stone,” Josh Evans recalls.

“When I sat with him, Oliver asked ‘Oh, you think you look like Tom Cruise?’. Now knowing him, I realize he was mocking me, but I said, ‘Yeah, I do.’ So, he said, ‘We’ll see what happens.’ Four months later, I got a call to audition and I got the part. It was very exciting and you could feel how special that movie was going to be.”

Since then, Josh has had a great career both acting and directing. He starred in the biographic film The Doors in 1991 and since, he’s been both acting and directing.

With eight films on his resume as a director, he actually had Michael Madsen starring in his 2015 film Death in the Desert. But what does he like best?

“I am definitely more comfortable on the side of the camera that does not show myself,” Josh Evans says.

“If an interesting opportunity presents itself, I am not opposed to it. I think there are other people out there who are more qualified and want it more than I do. As far as directing and telling my stories, I would do that for free, whereas acting is more of a job, but I enjoy it once I do it.”

Josh Evans – family
Josh is a really handsome man, and the resemblance to her mother Ali MacGraw truly is great, especially in his big wonderful eyes.

In 2019, his father – Ali’s ex-husband – Robert Evans passed away. However, the family had the great memory of being together for him when he was honored with a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame in 2012.

Josh has been married twice. In October 2012, he married American singer and musician Roxy Saint. By then, their son Jackson was two years old – Grandma Ali MacGraw loves spending time with her wonderful family.

“He’s so wonderful,” MacGraw said about her son. “He’s my favorite human being on the planet, and he goes out with a girl I’m nuts about. Their relationship is so much about, among other things, friendship and respect.”

Ali MacGraw and Josh Evans surely are very proud of their wonderful family. We wish them all the best in the future, and who knows, maybe we’ll see them on the same stage or movie set in the future?

Entitled Neighbor Buried My Pond – I Showed Him Why You Don’t Cross an Older Woman

When Margaret’s entitled neighbor Brian filled in her beloved pond while she was away, he had no idea of the fierce, determined response he’d provoke. Margaret, who seemed like a lonely older woman, devised a plan that turned Brian’s life upside down.

Let me tell you, at 74 years old, I’ve seen my fair share of drama. But nothing could have prepared me for the hullabaloo that unfolded right in my own backyard.

An older woman | Source: Pexels

An older woman | Source: Pexels

I’m Margaret, and I’ve been living in this cozy little house for two decades now. It’s been my slice of heaven, where I’ve watched my three kids grow up and now welcome my seven grandkids for summer splashes and weekend barbecues. There’s always someone dropping by, filling the place with laughter and love.

The crown jewel of my property? A beautiful pond that my dear old granddaddy dug himself. It’s been the heart of our family gatherings for years.

A pond outside a house | Source: Midjourney

A pond outside a house | Source: Midjourney

My grandkids love splashing around in it, and I swear, sometimes I think they love the pond more than they love me!

Everything was peachy keen until Brian moved in next door about five years ago. From day one, that man had a bee in his bonnet about my pond.

“Margaret!” he’d holler over the fence. “Those frogs are keeping me up all night! Can’t you do something about them?”

A serious-looking man | Source: Midjourney

A serious-looking man | Source: Midjourney

I’d just smile and say, “Oh, Brian, they’re just singing you a lullaby. Free of charge!”

But he wasn’t having any of it. “And the mosquitoes! Your pond is breeding them like crazy!”

“Now, Brian,” I’d reply, “I keep that pond cleaner than a whistle. Those mosquitoes are probably coming from that heap of junk in your yard.”

He’d huff and puff, but I’d just go about my business. I figured he’d get used to it eventually, but I was wrong.

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An older woman holding a book | Source: Pexels

One fine day, I decided to visit my sister in the next state over. I was looking forward to a couple of days of gossip and gin rummy. Little did I know that I would return to a sight that would make my blood run cold.

As I pulled into my driveway, I noticed something was off. The usual shimmer of water that greeted me was gone. In its place was… dirt. My heart sank to my toes as I scrambled out of the car.

A pond partially filled with dirt | Source: Midjourney

A pond partially filled with dirt | Source: Midjourney

My neighbor from across the street, sweet old Mrs. Johnson, came hurrying over. “Oh, Margaret! I’m so glad you’re back. I tried to stop them, but they said they had orders!”

“Stop who? What orders?” I was in a daze, staring at the muddy patch where my beloved pond used to be.

“A crew came by yesterday. Said some company hired them to drain and fill the pond,” Mrs. Johnson said. “I told them you weren’t home, but they had paperwork and everything!”

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A close-up shot of an older woman | Source: Pexels

I felt like I’d been sucker-punched. Twenty years of memories were gone in a day. And I knew exactly who was behind it.

“Brian,” I muttered, my hands clenching into fists.

“What are you going to do?” Mrs. Johnson asked, worry etched on her face.

I squared my shoulders. “Oh, I’ll tell you what I’m going to do. That man thinks he can push around a sweet old lady? He’s about to learn why you don’t cross a woman like Margaret!”

A close-up shot of an angry older woman | Source: Midjourney

A close-up shot of an angry older woman | Source: Midjourney

First things first, I called my family. My daughter Lisa was outraged. “Mom, this is criminal! We need to call the police!”

“Hold your horses, sweetie,” I said.

“We need proof first.”

That’s when my granddaughter Jessie piped up. “Grandma! Remember that bird camera we set up in the oak tree? It might have caught something!”

Well, wouldn’t you know it, that little camera turned out to be our secret weapon.

A small camera on a tree | Source: Midjourney

A small camera on a tree | Source: Midjourney

We reviewed the footage, and there was Brian, clear as day, directing a crew to fill in my pond. He looked like a kid who’d just gotten away with stealing cookies from the jar.

“Gotcha,” I said, a grin spreading across my face.

It seemed like Brian thought I would just let it slide because I am old and live alone. Little did he know that I had a few tricks up my sleeve.

The first thing I did was call the local environmental agency.

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An older woman talking on the phone | Source: Pexels

“Hello,” I said sweetly. “I’d like to report the destruction of a protected habitat.”

The man on the other end sounded confused. “Protected habitat, ma’am?”

“Oh yes,” I replied. “You see, my pond was home to a rare species of fish. I registered it with your agency years ago. And someone just filled it in without permission.”

Well, let me tell you, those agency folks don’t mess around when it comes to protected species.

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An older woman using her phone | Source: Pexels

Within days, they were knocking on Brian’s door with a fine that would make your eyes water.

“Sir, we’re from the Environmental Protection Agency,” one of the officials said. “We’re here regarding the illegal destruction of a protected habitat on your neighbor’s property.”

Brian’s face paled. “What? Protected habitat? It was just a pond!”

“A pond that was home to a registered rare species of fish, Mr. Thompson. We have evidence that you ordered its destruction without proper authorization.”

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A close-up shot of a serious man | Source: Midjourney

“This is ridiculous!” Brian sputtered, his voice rising. “That old lady’s pond was a nuisance! I was doing the neighborhood a favor!”

“Well, sir, that ‘favor’ comes with a fine of $50,000 for violating environmental protection laws.”

Brian’s jaw dropped. “Fifty thou— You can’t be serious! This is all a misunderstanding. That pond was—”

I couldn’t help but smile when I secretly heard their conversation. But I wasn’t done yet.

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An older woman smiling | Source: Pexels

My grandson Ethan, bless his heart, is a hotshot lawyer in the city. I gave him a ring.

“Ethan, dear,” I said. “How would you like to help your grandma stick it to a neighborhood bully?”

Ethan was all too happy to help. Before Brian could say “frivolous lawsuit,” he was served with papers for property damage and emotional distress.

Now, I could have left it at that, but I had one more card to play.

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An older woman standing with her arms crossed | Source: Pexels

Brian’s wife, Karen, had always seemed like a decent sort. One evening, I saw her coming home from work and decided it was time for a little chat.

“Evening, Karen,” I called out. “Got a minute?”

She looked tired but managed to smile. “Of course, Margaret. What’s on your mind?”

I invited her over for a cup of tea and spilled the beans about the pond. I told her about my grandfather digging it, about the kids learning to swim in it, about the fish and the frogs, and the summer nights spent around it.

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A woman sitting in a living room | Source: Midjourney

Karen’s face went from confused to horrified as I spoke. “Margaret, I had no idea,” she gasped. “Brian told me the city ordered the pond filled for safety reasons!”

“Well,” I said, patting her hand. “Now you know the truth.”

The next few days were quiet. Brian’s car disappeared, and the neighborhood gossip mill went into overdrive. Word was that Karen had asked Brian to leave after learning what he had done.

Then, one morning, I woke up to the rumble of machinery.

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An excavator near a house | Source: Pexels

I peeked out my window and nearly fell over in shock. There was a crew in my yard, and they were digging!

I hurried outside to find Karen overseeing the whole operation. When she saw me, she smiled. “Morning, Margaret. I hope you don’t mind, but I thought it was time to set things right.”

Turns out, Karen had hired a crew to restore my pond. As we watched them work, she confided in me.

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A woman talking to her neighbor | Source: Midjourney

“Brian’s been mixed up in some shady business deals,” she said, her voice low. “This whole pond thing was just him lashing out because of his own problems.”

Well, with the pond being restored, the environmental agency dropped its charges. Meanwhile, Ethan also convinced me not to go ahead with the lawsuit. That boy always has a way with words.

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A man attending a phone call at work | Source: Pexels

As for Brian, he skulked off to another state, his tail between his legs. Karen, on the other hand, became a regular visitor. She even started helping me maintain the pond, saying it was the least she could do.

One evening, as we sat by my newly restored pond, watching the sunset reflect off the water, Karen turned to me with a twinkle in her eye.

“You know, Margaret,” she said, “I never thought I’d say this, but I’m glad Brian messed with your pond.”

I raised an eyebrow. “Oh? And why’s that?”

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A close-up shot of an older woman’s face | Source: Midjourney

She smiled. “Because if he hadn’t, I might never have known what a wonderful neighbor I had right next door.”

We clinked our iced tea glasses and laughed. Who would have thought that a little pond could cause so much trouble and bring about so much good?

So, here I am, 74 years young, with a restored pond, a new friend, and a story that’ll be told at family gatherings for years to come. Life sure has a way of surprising you, doesn’t it?

And let me tell you, if there’s one lesson to be learned from all this, it’s that you should never, ever underestimate a grandmother with a grudge and a good lawyer in the family!

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