I was shocked when my husband, Jake, handed me a schedule to help me “become a better wife.” But instead of losing my temper, I decided to play along. Little did Jake know, I was about to teach him a lesson that would make him rethink his new idea of marriage.
I’ve always been the calm and reasonable one in our relationship. Jake, on the other hand, can easily get caught up in new trends or ideas, whether it’s a hobby or a YouTube video that claims to change his life in just a few easy steps.
Jake and I were fine until he met Steve. Steve was the type of guy who thought being loud made him right. He’d talk over anyone who tried to correct him. He was also always single (no surprise there), but that didn’t stop him from giving relationship advice to all his married friends, including Jake. Jake, who should’ve known better, was impressed by Steve’s confidence.
I didn’t worry about it much at first, but then Jake started saying things like, “Steve says marriages work best when the wife handles the household,” or “Steve thinks women should always look good for their husbands, no matter how long they’ve been married.” I’d roll my eyes and make sarcastic comments, but it was bothering me. Jake was changing. He’d raise an eyebrow if I ordered takeout instead of cooking, and he’d sigh if I let the laundry pile up—forgetting that I also had a full-time job.
Then one night, it happened. Jake came home with The List.
He sat me down, unfolded a piece of paper, and slid it across the table. “I’ve been thinking,” he began, sounding condescending in a way I’d never heard before. “You’re a great wife, Lisa, but there’s room for improvement.”
My eyebrows shot up. “Oh really?”
He nodded, not realizing he was walking into dangerous territory. “Yeah, Steve helped me realize that our marriage could be even better if you, you know, stepped up a bit.”
I looked at the paper in front of me. It was a schedule, titled “Lisa’s Weekly Routine for Becoming a Better Wife.” Jake had actually written out a plan for me based on what Steve—a single guy with no relationship experience—thought I should do to “improve” as a wife.
I was supposed to wake up at 5 a.m. every day to make Jake a gourmet breakfast, then go to the gym to “stay in shape.” After that? Cleaning, laundry, ironing—all before heading to work. Every evening, I was to cook dinner from scratch and make snacks for Jake and his friends when they came over. It was sexist and insulting on so many levels, I didn’t know where to start. I just stared at Jake, wondering if he had lost his mind.
“This will be great for you, and us,” he continued, unaware.
“Steve says it’s important to have structure, and I think you could benefit from—”
“Benefit from what?” I interrupted, keeping my voice calm. Jake blinked, surprised, but quickly recovered.
“Well, from having some guidance and a schedule.”
I wanted to throw the paper in his face, but instead, I surprised myself—I smiled.
“You’re right, Jake,” I said sweetly. “I’m lucky you made me this schedule. I’ll start tomorrow.”
He looked relieved, and I almost felt sorry for him as I stuck the list on the fridge. Almost. He had no idea what was coming.
The next day, I looked at the ridiculous schedule and smiled. If Jake thought he could hand me a list of “improvements,” he was about to learn a lesson. I opened my laptop and started a new document titled, “Jake’s Plan for Becoming the Best Husband Ever.” If he wanted perfection from me, there was a cost.
I started by listing all the things he’d suggested for me, beginning with the gym. “$1,200 for a personal trainer,” I typed, barely holding back a laugh.
Next was the food. If Jake wanted gourmet meals, that wasn’t happening with our current grocery budget. Organic, non-GMO, free-range everything? That wasn’t cheap. “$700 per month for groceries,” I wrote. And if he wanted fancy meals, he’d need cooking lessons too—those were expensive.
I leaned back, laughing as I imagined his face when he saw this. But I wasn’t done. The best part was yet to come.
There was no way I could manage all these demands and keep my job. If Jake wanted me to follow his absurd schedule full-time, he’d have to cover my lost income. I calculated my salary and added it to the list. “$75,000 per year to replace Lisa’s salary since she will now be your full-time maid, chef, and personal assistant.”
By now, I was laughing so hard my stomach hurt.
And just for fun, I added a note about expanding the house. If Jake was going to have friends over all the time, they’d need a separate space. “$50,000 to build a man cave so Jake and his friends don’t disrupt Lisa’s new routine.”
I printed out the list, set it on the kitchen counter, and waited for Jake to come home. When he arrived, he was in a good mood.
“Hey, babe,” he called, spotting the paper. “What’s this?”
Keeping a straight face, I said, “Oh, just a little list to help you become the best husband ever.”
He chuckled, thinking I was playing along, but as he read the list, his smile faded. “$1,200 for a trainer? $700 a month for groceries? What the hell, Lisa?”
I crossed my arms. “Well, you want me to follow your plan, right? I figured we should budget for it.”
His face turned pale as he flipped through the pages. “$75,000 a year? You’re quitting your job?”
“How else can I follow your plan?” I asked. “I can’t work and be the perfect wife, right?”
Jake looked stunned. The numbers and the absurdity of his demands hit him all at once. His smugness disappeared, replaced by the realization that he had messed up.
“I didn’t mean for it to be like this,” he stammered. “I just thought—”
“You thought you could ‘fix’ me like a project?” I said, my voice calm but firm. “Jake, marriage is about respect. And if you ever try to ‘fix’ me like this again, it’ll cost you a lot more than what’s on that paper.”
There was a long silence. Jake sighed and looked at me, defeated.
“I’m sorry,” he whispered. “I didn’t realize how ridiculous it was. Steve made it sound reasonable, but now I see… it’s toxic. I’ve been such a fool.”
I nodded. “Yes, you have. And honestly, Steve has no idea what he’s talking about. Why would you listen to him?”
Jake’s face softened as the truth hit him. “You’re right. He has no clue.”
We tore up both lists, and for the first time in weeks, I felt like we were back on the same team. It was a reminder that marriage isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being better together.
Two Surprising Reasons William and Kate Are Keeping Their Distance from Harry and Meghan
Tensions in the royal family have been growing for a long time. Here’s a look at the family split and the surprising reasons why Prince William and Princess Kate might not welcome Prince Harry and Meghan Markle back into the royal family.
The British royal family used to seem very close, with Prince William and Harry often seen as best friends. However, that image started to fall apart, especially after Harry married Meghan Markle.
While many people still hope for a reconciliation, sources close to the royals say that the chances are now more uncertain than ever. So, what are the main issues preventing a royal reunion? The answers shed light on the ongoing divide within the family.
How Prince Harry and Meghan Markle’s Relationship with the Royal Family Frayed Over Time
The tensions between Prince Harry and the royal family, especially with his brother Prince William, have been growing for years. What began as a close bond between two brothers turned into a significant rift, made worse by personal issues, family dynamics, and public scrutiny.
By 2019, it was clear that Prince Harry’s relationship with the rest of the royal family, particularly his brother, had reached a breaking point.
This was a tough year for the Duke and Duchess of Sussex as they faced constant media attention, which took a heavy emotional toll on them.
Meghan shared that she felt deep emotional distress because of the ongoing criticism from British tabloids, which Prince Harry noted included a “race element.”
Prince Harry reflected on the trauma of losing his mother, Princess Diana, when he was just 12. He expressed his fears, saying, “I worried that I could lose my wife in the same way.”
By the end of that year, it was obvious that the brothers were heading in very different directions. Tensions had escalated, and Prince Harry shared a specific incident at his Kensington Palace cottage that highlighted the growing divide between them.
Prince Harry described a heated argument in early 2019 where tensions reached a breaking point. He claimed that Prince William became so frustrated that he physically attacked him. What started as a shouting match escalated into a physical confrontation, with Prince Harry ending up on the floor, landing on a dog bowl.
For Harry, this wasn’t just a typical brotherly fight; it was also about defending his wife, as William’s anger was aimed at Meghan.
Prince Harry explained that Prince William had been influenced by his staff and the negative coverage from the tabloids about Meghan. The media’s focus on her being American, biracial, divorced, and an actress only added to the royal family’s concerns.
Harry believed that many of the stories William accepted were unfounded, but they fueled the growing tension between the two brothers.
When Prince Harry introduced Meghan to the royal family in 2016, the reaction wasn’t as positive as he had hoped. King Charles III seemed to like Meghan, but Prince William was skeptical and cautious about the new relationship.
He reportedly dismissed Meghan by calling her “an American actress.” Over time, the distance between the brothers grew. When Meghan and Prince Harry announced they would step back from royal duties in early 2020, it became clear that the rift had deepened.
Their departure shocked the public and caught Prince William off guard, increasing his frustrations. The brothers, who had once been seen as inseparable after their mother’s tragic death, were now living very different lives.
While Prince William focused on his future role as king, Prince Harry chose a new life outside the royal spotlight, putting his family’s well-being first.
In a personal moment from his 2021 memoir, “Spare,” Prince Harry shared his thoughts on his relationship with Prince William. He recalled a meeting where he noticed how much his brother had changed over the years.
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