Mariska Hargitay’s journey to motherhood is truly inspiring. Known for her iconic role on “Law & Order: SVU,” her real-life story revolves around love, resilience, and the joy of raising three children. The actress’s path to building a family is filled with unexpected blessings and deep gratitude.
Mariska Hargitay’s journey into motherhood began in her early 40s when she gave birth to her first child. Despite the challenges of being a first-time mother later in life, she wholeheartedly and joyfully embraced motherhood.
Her family grew when she and her husband, actor Peter Hermann, welcomed two more children within a year. Each child brought unique blessings into their lives, and Mariska cherishes the unexpected path that led her to become a mother of three.
Long before becoming a mother, Mariska always envisioned having her own family. From a young age, she knew motherhood was part of her life plans, a desire deeply rooted in her own upbringing.
A Childhood of Glitz and Heartbreak: The Early Life of Mariska Hargitay
Mariska is an actress, who added producing and directing to her list of talents. She was born to the glamorous actress Jayne Mansfield and the former Mr. Universe Mickey Hargitay on January 23, 1964.
Being born into Hollywood royalty, Mariska’s early life was surrounded by fame and glitz. This set a unique backdrop for her childhood. However, her early years were also marked by tragedy.
When Mariska was just three years old, her mother died in a car accident on June 29, 1967. This loss left a lasting scar on the actress, both physically and emotionally.
The actress expressed, “I clearly was in that frozen place for a lot of my childhood—of trying to survive, actually trying to survive. My life has been a process of unpeeling the layers and trust and trusting again.”
Despite this tragic beginning, Mariska’s parents’ legacy played a significant role in shaping her character. Her father, Mickey, raised her with discipline and love, teaching her the importance of hard work and resilience.
He ensured she had a normal upbringing. Mariska joined the swim team, ran cross-country, played volleyball, and by 1982, she was crowned Miss Beverly Hills. Despite her accomplishments, she was always aware of the darker side of life.
The actress later explained that she learned about crisis early and realized that life offers no guarantees, but we must keep moving forward and transform our experiences.
She considers this ability to be her superpower and sees it as a gift from experiencing trauma early in life. Despite these challenges, Mariska went on to live a full and fulfilling life.
Embracing Motherhood: Mariska’s Journey from Daughter to Mom
For Mariska, 2004 marked the beginning of a new phase in her life. That year, she married Peter, and on June 28, 2006, the actress welcomed her first child, August Miklos Friedrich Hermann, at 42.
Starting this journey into motherhood was easy for Mariska as she knew from a young age that she was meant for it. Despite losing her mother, she never lacked a maternal figure in her life. The actress was raised by her father’s third wife, Ellen Siano Hargitay, who never made her feel like an outsider.
Mariska reminisced, “I called her Mom. She really claimed us. She never had biological kids of her own, and to this day we are her kids. So we were blessed that she really embraced us and loved us so quickly. And I was very fortunate to have a maternal figure in my life after such a horrific accident.”
Additionally, while Ellen’s motherly act prepared Mariska for being a mom, it also stirred in her the desire to have children by other means. The actress had grown up realizing that being a mother did not have to be biological.
A Dream Fulfilled: The Adoption of Amaya Josephine
After a few years of becoming parents, Mariska and Peter, who came from big families, decided it was time to expand theirs. They were also not the only ones clamoring for more kids around the house. Their son August also wanted siblings.
However, the actress was over 40, and at her age at the time, pregnancies were never easy. Knowing she and her husband had so much love to give, Mariska was hopeful. She said, “I was really letting the chips fall as they might, because I do think so much is up to God.”
Mariska didn’t know how she was going to have more children, but she knew it was something that would happen. The actress remarked, “I always said, ‘I don’t know how this is going to end up. I don’t know if I’m going to get pregnant and have twins.’”
Despite having no clue, there was something she was sure of, and that was adoption. She recalled not knowing if someone would leave a baby on her doorstep. Nevertheless, she said, “But I really did think that down the line, Peter and I would adopt a child. That was always part of the plan.”
In early April 2011, Mariska and Peter’s plan came to fruition as they welcomed their second child, Amaya Josephine Hermann. Their daughter had been born in the United States about a week before her adoption.
As soon as the couple decided to adopt, they did not limit themselves as they considered international and domestic adoption. Mariska revealed they had talked about the idea of mixed-race adoptions, and were excited to become a multi-racial family.
The actress’s excitement began even before Amaya joined the family. Mariska had revealed, “I’m deliriously happy. From the minute she was born, she was just surprisingly alert and so full of love.”
The second time Mother was not alone in her excitement. August, who was less than five at the time, was also happy to have a baby sister. His Mom disclosed, “He is over the moon. He calls her his baby because he says the whole thing was his idea. He always talks about how he’s going to protect her. He’s going to be a great big brother.”
A Brother’s Dream: The Joyous Arrival of Andrew Nicolas
August, who prided himself as a big brother, was very hands-on in his sister’s life. He reportedly even participated in picking out her name. However, seeing as he thought it was his idea for her to join the family, he wanted yet another sibling.
Six months after Amaya came home as a newborn, August’s wish was fulfilled as he welcomed his baby brother, Andrew Nicolas Hermann, in October 2011. This time, Andrew was not a newborn, as he had been born in the summer of that year.
Mariska noted, “August thinks this was all his idea! He said, ‘I want a baby sister,’ and Amaya came. Then he said, ‘I want a baby brother,’ and Andrew came. August is feeling pretty good and pretty powerful!”
While August Miklos Friedrich Hermann felt powerful, Mariska was feeling a range of positive emotions. She said, “We adopted Amaya, and Andrew, I always describe it as this angel that fell out of the sky, because he was a little unexpected. [sic]”
Andrew Nicolas, Peter Hermann, and Mariska Hargitay at the ceremony honoring Mariska Hargitay with a Star on The Hollywood Walk of Fame on November 8, 2013, in Hollywood. | Source: Getty Images
The adoption of Andrew was not something Peter and Mariska had planned for at the time it happened. The couple had initially planned to adopt another baby a year or more after Amaya joined their household.
However, things happened differently. The actress revealed that their lawyer suddenly called them to inform them about Andrew. Their lawyer noted that it was an amazing opportunity, and the couple, in that moment, had never been more sure about having him in their lives.
The swiftness and timing of Andrew joining their family makes the actress believe her son “fell out of the sky.” Nevertheless, Mariska knows that it’s not an easy journey.
She once remarked, “I’m not gonna lie, there were wrenching moments. I say to everybody, ‘Adoption is not for the faint of heart.’” But, on some days, the actress feels like she’s living in a dream world. She said, “I just sit and pinch myself.”
Mariska Hargitay with Amaya, Andrew, and August at The Children’s Museum Of The East End 5th Annual Family Fair on July 20, 2013, in Bridgehampton, New York. | Source: Getty Images
Family and Fulfillment: Mariska Hargitay on Life as a Mother of Three
At 47, Mariska, who initially didn’t think it was possible to love more than one kid, had become a mom of three. She said, “You know you have one kid, and then you think, oh my gosh, I’ll never love another kid, and then the second one comes, and you can’t believe that you love them, and then the third one fell out of sky.”
Becoming a mother did not only teach Mariska about her capacity to love, it did more. She noted, “Becoming a parent erased many of my negative childhood feelings and filled them in with something new,” some of which include trying out new cultures when it comes to their cuisines.
The actress is not the only one to have spoken to the media about their family of five. Peter Hermann’s love for his family is always evident even though gets private about their kids. However, he expressed his thoughts on the unconventional manner in which their family grew.
The actor divulged, “It’s funny, I always get so private about our kids, but I think that the easiest way or the easiest answer is we just wanted a bigger family and we feel incredibly blessed.”
In 2018, Mariska also opened up about her life with the kids as she graced the cover of People’s magazine. She said, “The thing that’s made me a better parent is my kids. Because they taught me to really listen. My husband is my North Star, and my kids are my teachers.”
Not only did they make her a better parent, they also gave her something perfect in life. The actress revealed, “Our family is so perfect, or at least perfect for me. Together we’re just this whole, happy, joyful, chaotic, crazy unit. I’ve never known anything that was more right.”
Despite having a crazy and chaotic unit, Mariska and Peter work together to get the results they desire. Even though they have different parenting styles, the couple complement each other, with the actress revealing that her husband knows everything she doesn’t know.
Shortly before turning 60 in 2024, Mariska reflected on her life’s journey, career, motherhood, and more. The actress had countless reasons to be thankful.
Peter Hermann and Mariska Hargitay with their children, August, Andrew, and Amaya at the 2023 Stuttering Association For The Young (SAY) Benefit Gala on May 22, 2023, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images
One of the things Mariska was thankful for was the timing when she started her family. She said, “I’m so grateful that I’m an older mom. Grateful that I became successful older. I don’t know if I could have handled it when I was younger.”
The actress then compared what she was like in her younger days. She remembered that in her younger years, she struggled to be present, but as she got older, she learned to accept and appreciate life more deeply.
She noted, “And now I’m going to savor this moment. I want to share my lessons and where there is pain that I can fix that really inspires me to lighten the load.”
Mariska’s journey shows her strength and love. Starting her family in her early 40s, she faced the challenges and joys of raising three children with Peter. Their story is full of unexpected blessings and deep gratitude. As she cherishes her family, Mariska inspires us to embrace life’s surprises and the power of love at any age.
My Neighbors Had a House Fire, So We Took Them in, What They Discovered in Our Home Shocked Me
When a fire forced our neighbors to seek refuge in our home, I had no idea that a secret hidden in our basement would unravel my trust in my husband Jim and challenge the foundation of our seemingly perfect life.
Life with Jim was always calm. We had built a routine that was uniquely ours, and our little house on Maple Street felt like a haven. Jim, with his easygoing nature, balanced my more cautious, practical side. We shared everything—our morning coffee, late-night chats, and even our dreams and fears. It wasn’t a flawless marriage, but it was ours, and it worked.
One late night, the acrid smell of smoke woke us both. “Do you smell that?” I asked, sitting up in bed.
Jim sniffed the air. “Yeah, something’s burning.”
We rushed to the window and saw flames rising from our neighbors’ house. “It’s James and Eloise’s house!” I gasped.
We hurried outside and found them standing on the lawn in their pajamas, shaken and helpless. I grabbed a blanket and wrapped it around Eloise, who was sobbing uncontrollably. “It was the wiring,” she choked out. “Everything’s gone.”
I hugged her tightly. “What matters is that you’re safe. You can stay with us until you get back on your feet.”
Jim and I took them to our basement, which we had recently converted into a guest space. It wasn’t much, but it was warm and safe. For the first few days, things were calm. James and Eloise seemed to settle in, grateful for the temporary shelter. But then, one morning, James approached me quietly in the kitchen.
“Violet, don’t mention this to Jim, but something strange is going on,” he whispered, glancing around. “He told us not to open the door under the stairs because there was a mess, but we’ve been hearing noises coming from behind it. Could you check?”
My stomach tightened with dread. I rushed downstairs, fumbling for the key. As I unlocked the door and swung it open, a strong odor hit me. My heart dropped. Inside were five rabbits huddled together.
“Jim!” I screamed, panic surging through me.
He rushed to my side. “What’s wrong, Violet?”
I pointed toward the rabbits, my breath shaky. “You promised me—no rabbits in the house. You know I’m allergic!”
Jim’s expression turned sheepish. “I can explain,” he muttered, descending the stairs.
“Explain?” My voice wavered with frustration. “You promised to give them away two months ago! Why are they still here?”
Jim sighed, avoiding my eyes. “I couldn’t do it, Violet. I didn’t want to part with them, so I kept them down here. I’ve been taking care of them daily. I thought it wouldn’t be an issue since you didn’t know.”
I stared at him, torn between anger and betrayal. “You hid them, knowing my allergies—and my fear. You lied.”
“I didn’t mean to hurt you. I just couldn’t let them go,” Jim said softly, looking genuinely remorseful.
James and Eloise appeared at the top of the stairs, looking uncomfortable. “We’re so sorry,” James said. “We didn’t know. We just heard noises.”
Eloise stepped in, trying to calm things down. “Maybe we can help find a solution?”
I glanced at Jim, feeling the weight of everything we’d built together wobble beneath me. The rabbits were just a symptom of something deeper, something I wasn’t sure how to fix. But for now, the immediate issue was all I could focus on.
Just then, our other neighbors, Jules and Ethan, knocked on the door, concerned after hearing the commotion. Jim explained the situation, his voice tense. To our surprise, Jules’s face lit up.
“Rabbits? I love rabbits! We’ve got a big yard. Why don’t we take them? You can visit them anytime,” she offered.
Jim’s shoulders sagged in relief. “You’d really do that?”
“Of course,” Ethan chimed in. “We’ll pick them up later today.”
As they left, I turned to Jim, still raw with emotion. “We need to talk about this, Jim.”
“I know,” he said, his voice low. “I should have told you. I just couldn’t bear to give them up. They mean a lot to me.”
“I get that,” I replied quietly. “But keeping this from me wasn’t fair. You put my health at risk.”
He nodded, reaching for my hand. “I’m sorry, Violet. I’ll do better.”
That afternoon, Jules and Ethan returned with a large pet carrier. They gently gathered the rabbits, and I watched as my anxiety slowly lifted with their departure. Jules smiled at me. “We’ll take good care of them. And Jim, feel free to visit whenever you want.”
“Thanks again,” Jim said, his voice filled with gratitude.
That night, our house felt lighter, but there was still an underlying tension between us. Sitting on the couch, I looked at Jim. “This can’t happen again, Jim. We need to be honest with each other.”
He nodded. “You’re right. I never wanted to upset you, Violet.”
A week later, Eloise and James got word that their insurance company was expediting the reconstruction of their home, and soon they would be able to return. As they packed their things, James gave me a heartfelt hug. “We can’t thank you enough for everything.”
“You’ve been wonderful guests,” I replied with a smile. “We’re glad we could help.”
After they left, our house felt quieter, but it also felt more peaceful. The whole ordeal with the rabbits had been a wake-up call for Jim and me. We needed to communicate better, to be more open with each other.
True to his word, Jim visited Jules and Ethan’s house often to see the rabbits. He would come back with stories about their antics, his eyes sparkling with joy. It made me happy to see him still connected to them, without jeopardizing my health.
One evening, Jim came home with an idea. “Jules suggested we get a pet that wouldn’t affect your allergies. How about a fish tank? Something we can both enjoy.”
I smiled, warmed by the thought. “That sounds lovely.”
A few days later, we picked out a beautiful fish tank together, setting it up in our living room. Watching the fish swim gracefully in their new home brought a sense of calm we hadn’t felt in a while.
“This is nice,” Jim said, wrapping his arm around me as we admired our new pets. “Something we both can appreciate.”
“It really is,” I agreed, leaning into him.
In the end, we learned that secrets, no matter how small, can erode trust. But through communication and compromise, we found a way to move forward, building a stronger foundation for our life together.
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