A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.
Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.
Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.
Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.
Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.
A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”
Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.
While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?
Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”
With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.
There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).
A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.
Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.
Bless!
“Ridiculous,” Demi Moore Rocks a Shiny Blue Gown, but People Are Urging Her to Cut Her Long Hair
Demi looked flawless in a strapless blue Balenciaga gown covered in sequins that sparkled under the lights. She posted her stunning look on Instagram, but her followers were all pointing out the same thing.
Demi Moore, Eva Longoria, and Lily Gladstone looked stunning as they led the stars at the Chopard Trophée Awards ceremony during the 77th Annual Cannes Film Festival on Friday.
For the event held at Carlton Beach in Cannes, France, Moore, 61, put on a dazzling display in a strapless Balenciaga gown, which was covered entirely with sapphire blue sequins. Her dress also featured structured hip details to accentuate her glamorous figure.
Demi looked flawless in the gown, which sparkled under the lights. Her physique looked incredible in the form-fitting dress, which also boasted a floor-sweeping train.
As if her dress didn’t sparkle enough, Demi accessorized it with dazzling Chopard jewelry. She wore a Haute Joaillerie Collection necklace featuring 70.40 carats of Paraíba tourmaline and 43.38 carats of diamonds set in 18k white gold.
Her jet-black hair flowed sleek and straight, parted down the middle in her signature style, framing her face with effortless chic. She played up her features with a sultry, smokey eye, drawing attention to her captivating gaze. Her lips were finished with a nude gloss, adding a hint of glamour without overpowering her natural beauty.
When she shared photos on Instagram, her followers went all out with compliments, ranging from praising her timeless beauty at 60 to admiring her dress that “shone like a diamond,” a reference to a famous Rihanna song.
However, as always, some couldn’t resist pointing out what seemed to bother them: her long hair. “I wish she would cut her hair ridiculous,” someone wrote. Another user went like: “Too old for long hair like that.” People seemed a bit taken aback by Demi’s choice to wear such long hair at her age. On the flip side, it’s a key part of her iconic look, and let’s be honest, Demi’s unconventional super long hair only adds to her charm.
Demi’s appearance often ignites quite a few reactions, just like the ones she rocked at the 2024 Met Gala.
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