I never liked my own family—call it dysfunctional if you may. But I still couldn’t fathom how my sister would betray me like this, twice, even though I helped her and our father out.
Sometimes I wonder what would happen if I was born into a better family. You know, with better parents who actually know how to be parents? But you don’t always get what you want in life, isn’t it?
I can’t really blame my mother actually—she ran away from the family when I was just ten, presumably since my father was abusive and manipulative. I still wish she took me and my sister away with her at that time, but then again, it is what it is. Sometimes there’s no use in looking back at things and constantly thinking about “what could’ve been.”
That’s what my therapist kept telling me. Don’t look back on the things you can’t change and think about what could’ve been. Look forward, time is linear, there’s no going back.
But she also said writing it out might help—so here it is, I guess.
I grew up in a dysfunctional family | Source: Shutterstock
As I said, my father was an abusive and manipulative monster—self-centered, arrogant … he only cared about himself and the things that actually concerned him. Sometimes I wonder how come my mother actually married him. That’s something I’d never find out, I guess.
As for my younger sister Cheryl, you can probably understand what kind of person she’d grow up to be under such circumstances. We were close when we were kids—at least before everything happened —but after my mother ran away, it had gotten worse since then.
My father never liked me since I was a kid, but he hated me even more after my mother ran away. Why? I have no idea. He probably thought I was the reason why she ran away—he never thought it was his fault.
Well, he blamed the stripper when he was drunk sometimes, but it takes two to tango, isn’t it? Or that it took two to have a lapdance, in this context.
Anyway. My sister Cheryl.
Cheryl and I used to be close when we were kids | Source: Pexels
Ever since mother left, Cheryl became dad’s favorite, presumably since she was still too young to understand what happened. Since I was too old to be converted into daddy’s little girl at that time, he focused on Cheryl instead.
That’s what I meant when I said things began to go downhill from there—he and Cheryl began to gang up on me, alienating me in the house. It wasn’t pleasant, and to be honest, I don’t really want to go into details about what happened. Let’s just say I wish I had a more functional family.
Cheryl grew up to be a spoiled brat. That’s the thing about my father. He might be an absolute jerk of a person, but he wasn’t stupid. In fact, he made himself a fortune by setting up a trading company. It made sense though since he had every single trait of being a psychopathic CEO.
Chery, being daddy’s little girl of the family, had everything she needed and wanted—and even things she didn’t know she wanted. I can still remember the Gucci bag my father gave her when she was just 12. Can you believe that? A 12-year-old girl holding a Gucci bag?
Needless to say, Cheryl grew up to be a dysfunctional human being.
I remember how I used to smell like fast food every night after work | Source: Pexels
As for myself, I had to work hard for everything that I had. Since I wasn’t getting any allowances from my father, I began taking up part-time jobs here and there just to get by. I worked in McDonald’s, Wendy’s, and even handed out leaflets outside Sears at some point. I can still remember how I used to smell like French fries after my shifts. You just cannot get rid of that stench.
In a way, I am thankful for the experience, since all of these things taught me things I needed to know in life. It made me who I am—it taught me how to be resilient and got me through some dark times.
I moved out as soon as I could. I remember I was 18 at the time—it was a long and hot summer, and I packed up my things and went off to California in my old Honda Civic without even saying goodbye. I probably had $400 in my account at the time, but it was liberating. I can still remember the sweet summer breeze of youth and freedom along the Pacific Coast.
I found myself an IT job in California | Source: Pexels
Fast forward 10 years from there, I got my college degree and began working for an IT company. I wouldn’t say I had a great career, but I managed to have a decent life and save some money of my own. To be honest, I wouldn’t stay in IT if not for the money. But hey, we all gotta make a living somehow.
It was then when I received an email from Cheryl. I hadn’t spoken to her nor my dad since the day I moved out, not that they cared anyway. They could’ve reached out to me somehow, but they did not. Ten years, not a single message from them.
But surprise surprise, Cheryl actually asked me for help in the email. How things have changed, I thought to myself.
It started with a bunch of formal addresses like “Dear Emma,” “I hope this email finds you well,” and my favorite—“Sincerely yours.”
I received an email from Cheryl while at work one day | Source: Pexels
She was asking me for money since her kid got sick and needed surgery, but her ex-boyfriend ran away with some chicks and left her with nothing. She said she hadn’t been talking to dad for a few years already due to some argument … bla bla bla. That was why she needed my help.
I was hesitant at first, but then I opened the attachment in the email—it was a picture of my nephew. He was adorable.
After looking at that picture, I debated on what I would do—or rather, the right thing for me to do. You see, I might not like my family, but the kid was innocent. He shouldn’t be pulled into the whole family feud that we had.
After a night of turning over and over again in my bed, I decided to wire her the money.
Cheryl didn’t respond to my emails after I wired her the money | Source: Pexels
The next month I sent her an email, asking her if everything was alright with the kid—alas, no response.
So I did a bit of research and found out where she lived. Well, as it turned out, she didn’t move far—basically six or seven blocks from where we used to live. I decided to drop by and give her a visit.
It had been more than ten years since I left—but that’s the thing about small American towns … scenery might change, but people don’t. I can still recognize the same shops and people I used to know. Older, but not necessarily wiser.
Then, as if God intervened through some twisted manner, before getting to Cheryl, I bumped into an old classmate of mine who happened to know my family cause you know, small town.
I bumped into John at a gas station—it was truly a strange coincidence | Source: Pexels
John was a classmate of mine back then. His mother and my father were neighbors growing up, so he was kind of a family friend. He was beyond surprised when he saw me at the gas station.
“Hey. Is that you, Emma?” he said as he approached me from his car.
“ …John? God, could barely recognize you there, man,” I said.
“What brought you back here? Haven’t seen you in years,” he continued. “Came here to see your old man?”
I assumed he didn’t know what happened to my family all these years.
“Nah, just wanna check on Cheryl and my nephew,” I said, trying to shrug it off and make it sound as natural as I could.
“Your nephew? I didn’t know Cheryl had a kid,” responded John, with a pair of confused eyes. “That’s strange, I would’ve known since I live across the road from her,” he added.
Now things were getting weird.
John happened to live across the road from Cheryl | Source: Pexels
Out of curiosity, I asked John about my father after a brief explanation that we haven’t been talking for quite a few years.
“Yea, he goes over to Cheryl’s every weekend. His business partner screwed him over, I heard, so he lost quite a bit of money there. He seemed sad for a while but he seems alright now,” he said. “I think Cheryl managed to bail him out or something.”
“His partner screwed him over? When was that?”
“Maybe a month or two ago? I remember seeing him walking around Cheryl’s driveway, calling and cursing at his phone—must’ve been around that time.”
I decided to pay Cheryl a visit. I had to know what happened.
I knocked on Cheryl’s door, not entirely sure what I was expecting | Source: Pexels
So, I pulled up in front of Cheryl’s house, rang the doorbell, and she opened the door for me.
From the door I could see my father sitting in the living room, having a glass of wine in his hand—and no, I did not see any kid in the house.
Cheryl was surprised to see me there, as you can guess by now. “Emma? What’re you doing here?” she asked.
“Just trying to check up on my nephew,” I responded.
For a fleeting moment, I could see it in her eyes that she was trying to avoid the topic.
“Oh, a friend of mine is babysitting Anthony now,” she responded. “Do you want to come in? We haven’t seen you in years,” she added.
I was still hesitant at the time—just one step, and I could step inside the house and perhaps deal with all that trauma sown within me years ago. It was so close, that feeling of being able to make things right at last.
But I wasn’t ready. I told them I was a bit under the weather and got back into my car and drove to a nearby motel.
Unable to face Cheryl and my father, I drove to a motel nearby for the night | Source: Pexels
The next day I bumped into John again at a local diner. God certainly works in mysterious ways.
But it was a bit different this time—when he saw me at the diner he simply turned around without saying a single word.
That was strange, I thought to myself. Considering we were on good terms the whole time, there was something odd about it. I decided to walk towards him and asked him what’s up.
“Hey man, sup? Is everything alright?” I asked him when he sat down at his table.
He tried to avoid having eye contact with me, but I just stood there, utterly bewildered by his reaction.
“Hey, I know it’s none of my business, but I think you might need some help,” he said.
Now this just got way more confusing.
“What? Why? I don’t think I understand,” I said.
“Look, I talked to Cheryl last night, about her having a kid—she told me that … well, she told me why you left,” he said meekly.
“What? What did she say?”
“She said you were … imagining things, and they had to send you away to the hospital.”
“W—what? How?”
I bumped into John again in the diner, but I could tell that something was wrong | Source: Pexels
“She doesn’t have a kid and I don’t understand why you said she has. So last night I went over to her place and asked her about it, and she told me what happened,” he said, but then he paused for a moment. “She said you just showed up out of nowhere and started asking about her kid … Look, I don’t want any trouble here.”
That … wretched woman. I don’t know if I can still call her my sister anymore. Did she just throw me under the bus after all I did for her and presumably our father? Am I hallucinating? No, I was pretty sure I was not.
“Wait a second,” I said to John as he was about to leave. I then went through my inbox and showed the email to John. He looked at it and went quiet for a while. But at last, he responded.
“Look, it’s really none of my business, just leave me out of this,” he said, and he simply left the diner without touching his pancakes.
Here I am, back in San Francisco, wondering if I did the right thing | Source: Pexels
So here I am, back in San Francisco at my own apartment. I just drove all the way back here after that interaction with John—Lord knows what other folks in town were talking about right now. Can you imagine that? My very own sister, fabricating a lie so that I could save our father who never cared about me, and then throwing me under the bus and telling the folks that I was crazy? Seriously?
I am not sure how I should feel about it—I admit that writing it down did make me feel better. But still … I couldn’t help but wonder if it would have made a difference if I actually walked into the house and talked to them. Maybe I had a chance to change something? Maybe things wouldn’t end up the way they are now?
I don’t know. I really don’t know.
What can we learn from this story?
Sometimes we just have to let things go. It is what it is, sometimes there’s just nothing we can do about it. Let go and start living.
Look forward. We cannot change the past, whatever that is, but we can try and move on, one way or another.
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My Stepdaughters Made My Daughter Sleep on the Floor After Her Mom Died – Shocked, I Stepped in Immediately
When my grieving daughter called, sobbing that her stepsisters made her sleep on the floor the night of her mother’s funeral, my heart broke. With no support from my wife, I took matters into my own hands.
Blending families was never easy. After eight years of marriage to Candace, I thought we’d figured it out.
A happy family with kids | Source: Pexels
My daughter, Shiloh, is 16. She’s quiet and thoughtful, always preferring a book or a sketchpad to the chaos of her stepsisters, Anna, 19, and Sophie, 17.
Anna and Sophie, on the other hand, are the life of the party. Over the years, I’ve watched Shiloh try to fit in, but she’s always been the outsider.
A sas girl in her bedroom | Source: Pexels
Candace assured me it was normal sibling dynamics, but there were moments that felt like more than that. I’d catch Shiloh retreating to her room with her lips pressed together in that tight way she has when she’s holding back tears after a comment from Anna or Sophie.
Then, last week, the unthinkable happened.
A crying girl covering her face with her hands | Source: Midjourney
Shiloh’s mother, my ex-wife, passed away unexpectedly. I was away on a business trip, and the call left me stunned. My mind raced through disbelief, grief, and worry for my daughter. She was incredibly close to her mom. This would shatter her.
I left immediately, driving through the night to get to her. Candace offered to take the girls ahead, and while I was grateful, something about the hotel arrangements left me uneasy.
A thoughtful man outside | Source: Pexels
Two rooms — one for Candace and me and one for the girls. “It’ll keep the peace,” Candace had said, brushing off my concerns. I trusted her to handle it, but a knot of doubt had settled in my chest.
I was halfway through my drive when my phone buzzed. It was Shiloh.
“Hey, sweetheart,” I said, my voice soft.
A man looking at his phone while driving | Source: Midjourney
She didn’t answer right away. When she finally spoke, her voice was small and shaky. “Dad… I’m sleeping on the floor.”
I blinked, gripping the steering wheel tighter. “What? Why?”
“Anna and Sophie said the bed’s too small for three people,” she mumbled. “They told me it’d be better if I slept on the floor.”
A crying girl sitting on the floor | Source: Pexels
I felt my jaw tighten. “Did you tell Candace?”
“She said it’s just for one night and to let it go,” Shiloh said, her voice cracking. “It’s fine, Dad. I didn’t want to make a big deal.”
I could hear the tears in her voice, and it broke something inside me. “No, honey,” I said, my voice firm. “It’s not fine. You shouldn’t have to do this.”
A shocked man in his car | Source: Midjourney
I pulled the car onto the shoulder of the road and ran a hand through my hair, trying to calm the anger that was building.
“Listen to me,” I said. “You’ve done nothing wrong, okay? This isn’t about making a big deal — it’s about what’s fair. You don’t deserve this, especially not now.”
Her sniffles on the other end of the line made my chest tighten.
A crying young woman | Source: Pexels
“Dad,” she said quietly, “it’s okay. I don’t want to fight with them.”
“Sweetheart,” I said, forcing my voice to stay calm, “you just lost your mom. The last thing you need is to feel like this.”
When I hung up, I didn’t hesitate. I called Candace immediately. She picked up quickly, her tone light.
“Hi, honey! Still on the road?”
A woman on her phone | Source: Pexels
“What’s going on over there, Candace?” I said, skipping any pleasantries.
There was a pause. “What do you mean?”
“Shiloh just called me. She’s crying because Anna and Sophie made her sleep on the floor. Why didn’t you step in?”
Candace sighed. “The girls said the bed was too cramped. It’s just one night, Robert. She’ll be fine.”
An annoyed woman talking on her phone | Source: Midjourney
“She’s not fine,” I snapped. “She’s grieving, Candace. And now she’s being pushed onto the floor like she doesn’t matter?”
“She’s not being pushed!” Candace shot back. “They’re just trying to be comfortable. I don’t see the problem here.”
“The problem,” I said, my voice rising, “is that Shiloh is there all by herself, and instead of supporting her, you’re letting her feel like an outsider. How can you be okay with this?”
An angry man talking on his phone | Source: Midjourney
Candace’s tone grew sharper. “What do you expect me to do, Robert? Force Anna and Sophie onto the floor? They’re kids too! This isn’t easy for them either.”
“They didn’t just lose a parent!” I snapped. “Shiloh is trying to hold herself together, and instead of making things easier for her, you’re brushing it off like it’s nothing!”
Candace let out a frustrated sigh. “You’re blowing this out of proportion. It’s one night. Shiloh can handle it.”
A frustrated woman talking on her phone | Source: Midjourney
I felt a bitter laugh escape my throat. “This isn’t about handling anything. It’s about showing her that she’s not alone. How do you not see how important this is?”
I was still hours away when my phone buzzed again. Candace’s name lit up the screen, and I braced myself as I answered.
“What did you do, Robert?” she demanded, her voice low but furious.
An angry woman talking on her phone | Source: Midjourney
“What I had to,” I said flatly, gripping the wheel. “Shiloh called me crying because Anna and Sophie made her sleep on the floor. You brushed her off, so I called the hotel manager, booked her another room, and asked them to escort her there.”
“You booked her a private room?” she snapped. “Without even talking to me?”
A smiling man talking on his phone | Source: Midjourney
“I didn’t have time to talk, Candace,” I said, my voice tightening. “You made excuses instead of standing up for my daughter. I had to act.”
“She could have handled one night, Robert!” Candace said, her tone sharp. “Do you realize what you’ve done? Anna and Sophie are furious. They think you’re playing favorites.”
An angry woman talking on her phone in a hotel room | Source: Midjourney
“Playing favorites?” I repeated, anger flaring. “This isn’t about favorites. Shiloh is living through possibly the worst moment of her life, Candace. She doesn’t need a lesson in ‘toughing it out’ right now. She needs support.”
“You’re undermining me,” she shot back. “Do you know how this looks? I’m supposed to be in charge while you’re away, and you went behind my back to fix something that wasn’t even that big of a deal!”
An angry man talking on his phone in his car | Source: Midjourney
“It was a big deal,” I countered. “Shiloh deserved better, and no one stood up for her — not even you. How do you think that makes her feel?”
When I arrived at the hotel early the next morning, the tension was already simmering. I walked into the lobby and called Candace to let her know I was there.
“She’s in her new room,” Candace said curtly. “Anna and Sophie are upset, and I don’t know how you’re planning to fix this.”
A couple having a serious talk in a hotel room | Source: Midjourney
“Candace, this isn’t about fixing their feelings,” I said. “It’s about doing the right thing.”
The heated argument continued after I left the funeral preparations that morning.
“Anna and Sophie won’t even look at you,” Candace said. “They feel like you’ve chosen Shiloh over them. This could ruin everything we’ve built.”
“Built?” I said, incredulous. “Candace, if what we’ve built can’t survive me standing up for my grieving daughter, maybe it wasn’t as strong as you think.”
An angry man talking in a hotel room | Source: Midjourney
“That’s unfair,” she said quietly, but her voice lacked conviction.
“What’s unfair is how you let her be treated,” I said, my frustration boiling over. “She’s a kid who just lost her mom, Candace. I expected you to show some compassion. Instead, you treated her like an inconvenience.”
“I care about Shiloh,” she insisted.
An offended woman with her arms crossed | Source: Freepik
“Then why didn’t you act like it?” I asked, my voice softening but still firm.
At the funeral, I stayed close to Shiloh. She clung to my arm, her head bowed low, her face pale with grief. The service was heartbreaking, but I couldn’t take my eyes off her.
Her hands trembled as she wiped at her tears, and my heart ached watching her hold it all in. When the service ended, she turned to me and whispered, “Thank you for everything, Dad.”
A black and white photo of a crying girl | Source: Pexels
Her words were simple, but they meant everything.
Once we were back home, I sat Candace down for a serious conversation.
“We need to talk,” I said.
“Robert, I’m tired of rehashing this,” she replied, crossing her arms.
An angry woman sitting on the couch | Source: Midjourney
“Candace, this isn’t about arguing,” I said firmly. “It’s about making sure this never happens again. Shiloh needs us — needs you — to be better. She’s already lost her mother. She shouldn’t feel like she’s losing her place in this family too.”
Candace sighed, looking away. “I didn’t handle it right,” she admitted quietly. “But you made me feel like I don’t have a say.”
A serious man in his living room | Source: Midjourney
“You always have a say,” I replied gently. “But when it comes to Shiloh, I won’t compromise on making sure she feels loved and safe. I hope you can understand that.”
Candace nodded reluctantly. “I’ll try to do better,” she said, though her tone held a trace of resentment.
Later that evening, Shiloh hugged me tightly. “Thank you for standing up for me, Dad,” she whispered.
A father hugging his daughter | Source: Midjourney
I held her close, realizing that I’d made the right choice. From now on, I resolved to set clearer boundaries, ensuring that Shiloh always felt supported, no matter what it cost me.
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