For someone who was called “fatso” and had no intention of becoming a famous Hollywood star, this actress has certainly made a name for herself. After her breakout role, she garnered so much attention that she earned a special accolade.
This actress once revealed that her mother never wanted a daughter, and she grew up sheltered because of her strict father. Despite being bullied and called ugly, she eventually found peace and married the love of her life.
What was Her Childhood like?
In her memoir, “This Is Just My Face: Try Not To Stare,” the actress wrote about her childhood and mother, who she confirmed during an interview in 2017 still sang in subways.
The actress’ mother had been a teacher at her school until the fourth grade. Originally from the southern state of Georgia, her mom then took a sabbatical and started singing in the subway.
Her mother realized she could make more money performing than working for the Board of Education and decided to stick with it. The celebrity recalled her mother taking her and her brother to the subway, where she would sing for around five hours.
The actress remembered sitting on a bench within eyesight or earshot, doing her homework or reading books. Her mother performed at New York City’s Penn Station while she wandered around the station or visited a nearby bookstore.
At the bookstore, she was allowed to pull books off the shelves and read without paying. She suspected they permitted this because they knew her mother. Every now and then, she’d ask her mother for money to buy a new “Clue” book or the latest “Nancy Drew.”
Her mother always gave her the money, encouraging her to focus on reading. On the other hand, her father was very strict. He was from Senegal, studied architecture in France, and later became a cab driver when he moved to New York.
The actress shared that both her parents spanked her growing up, but she rejected labeling it as abuse, even when directly challenged. She emphasized that people often interpret others’ experiences through their own lens.
For her, spanking was a culturally rooted form of discipline common in communities of color, not an act of cruelty. She explained that her father’s upbringing in Africa, where safety and community were stable, shaped his beliefs about discipline.
After moving to Bed-Stuy, Brooklyn—a much more dangerous environment—he felt strong discipline was necessary to protect his children. Although it took years for father and daughter to fully understand each other, she never considered him abusive, especially seeing how relaxed he became with his younger children later.
She recalled a tender memory of her father carefully granting her small bits of independence, such as letting her fetch the mail while he watched closely from the doorway.
He would warn her against using the staircase, fearing for her safety, and waited to hear her shout from the elevator when she entered it out of his view. Ironically, her brother, who was only 11 months older, had far more independence. Unfortunately, part of her childhood also involved bullying.
Life’s Harsh Realities
When she turned six, the actress, who was raised in Harlem, started noticing what other children said about her. She spoke about the bullying she endured at that age regarding her weight, “You know, it’s, like, that weird thing where, like, I realize this thing about myself – I’m not magic, so now I have to pick you apart. And I have to pick myself apart.”
The star added, “And I think that was the age where people started calling me Fatso and you-this and you-that, blah, blah blah. That’s what helped me to notice.” In her book, she wrote about praying in the fourth grade for God to make her less sensitive because of how badly she was mocked.
At that time, her parents’ marriage was crumbling; they separated when she was 12, leaving her feeling “unhinged.” She recalled crying for hours and experiencing tightness in her chest when someone said something hurtful.
Panic attacks made breathing difficult, and she sometimes felt like she might die. Noticing that she could cry for up to three hours during school, she began praying about her sensitivity, unaware she was dealing with a medical condition.
The actress battled depression and anxiety unnoticed throughout elementary and junior high school. The issues persisted into high school, with the panic attacks intensifying during her commute to school.
After transferring schools, her struggles worsened, and she realized her issues were not just about being bullied for her weight. She eventually sought medical help and spoke about her struggles.
The actress on “Saturday Night Live” on April 24, 2010 | Source: Getty Images
Another painful memory was the rejection she felt from her mother. She recalled, “My mom always told me that she never wanted to have a daughter.” The star acknowledged how harsh that sounded but explained it prepared her for understanding that “being a Black woman was not going to be easy. That’s what my mom told me.”
Her mother believed having a daughter was hard because girls lead difficult lives. The actress said, “Those were the first lessons I got about being a Black woman. Today, as an adult, I would really like to erase that narrative from my life.” Despite these challenges, stardom found her.
The star on “Saturday Night Live” | Source: Getty Images
Becoming an Actress and Getting Hate
By 2010, the actress had become a well-known celebrity, staying in luxurious hotel suites for interviews. That year, she was based in the UK for the London Film Festival. She confessed that she hadn’t planned for the life she now had.
Just two years earlier, at 24, she was working as a receptionist to support her psychology studies in college when she auditioned for a film on a whim. She had just enrolled for her third year when she auditioned. Her resume listed only three minor college theater roles, yet she secured the lead role in “Precious.”
Andy Samberg and his co-star on “Saturday Night Live” | Source: Getty Images
She canceled her classes to star in the film, which became a breakout hit at Sundance in early 2009. The movie received three Golden Globe nominations, including Best Actress for Gabourey Sidibe, along with an Academy Award nomination.
After her nomination, a famous radio host went on air, claiming it was an anomaly. He alleged that Sidibe’s Hollywood peers were only “pretending” she was one of them and said she would never act again because of her weight.
Kristen Wiig and Gabourey Sidibe on “Saturday Night Live” | Source: Getty Images
The star shared that she had never dreamed of becoming an actress and felt overwhelmed by the film’s success. She explained that she has a neutral accent, stating, “I don’t have what we call the blackccent.”
However, despite no formal acting training, she recognized that her character would have an accent, so she deepened her voice to fit the role. Part of her Hollywood success came from her hustle and hard work.
Gabourey Sidibe at the “Our Idiot Brother” screening in New York on August 22, 2011 | Source: Getty Images
Despite two psychics predicting fame for her, Sidibe never believed she would gain the same recognition as her Hollywood idols. Today, she excels both in front of and behind the camera, although her journey also included a significant decision regarding her health.
Gabourey Sidibe at the “Win Win” screening party in New York on March 16, 2011 | Source: Getty Images
Going Under the Knife
In May 2016, after enduring bullying and struggling with weight loss, Sidibe underwent laparoscopic bariatric surgery. She made the decision after she and her brother were diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes.
The actress did the procedure because she didn’t want to worry about the effects that come with having diabetes. She explained, “I genuinely [would] worry all the time about losing my toes.”
Gabourey Sidibe at the 13th premiere and after party of the New York Film Festival Opening Night Gala on September 30, 2016 | Source: Getty Images
Sidibe expressed frustration that people assumed they cared more about her health than she did. “But I care more than anybody really knows. Of course I care. It’s been my body my whole life, and I didn’t want to be afraid anymore. And I’ve been feeling like that for some time,” she said.
Even after surgery, she continued to obsess over her body, eating habits, and weight. However, she learned to trust herself and embraced the mantra “faith over fear,” understanding that her decisions were personal.
Gabourey Sidibe at the 27th Annual Beat the Odds ceremony in Los Angeles on December 7, 2017 | Source: Getty Images
Initially, she weighed herself five or six times daily, tracking natural fluctuations. Eventually, she stopped that behavior and now weighs herself every two weeks or whenever she feels the need.
For the first 17 days post-surgery, Sidibe consumed only liquids and became depressed. However, by 2017, she was following meal plans, eating five times a day, cooking, consulting her nutritionist, and using apps to log her meals.
Gabourey Sidibe at the NAACP Image Awards in Los Angeles on February 11, 2017 | Source: Getty Images
She also became more active, using her Apple Watch to track her movements. The actress had tricycles both at her Los Angeles home and on set in Chicago, riding them during lunch breaks.
She revealed that she felt stronger, more mobile, and no longer feared losing her toes. After her breakout role in “Precious,” she was featured in People magazine’s World’s Most Beautiful issue, an honor she called “really dope!”
Gabourey Sidibe at the Variety Cannes Lions Studio at the Cannes Lions Festival in France on June 21, 2017 | Source: Getty Images
Still, Sidibe acknowledged that she likely would not have been included if she weren’t an actress. She pointed out that such lists typically feature celebrities, not regular people.
While she believes she’s beautiful—crediting her parents for her features—she often doubts whether others genuinely see her that way. “Other than my very obvious beautiful [expletive] features, like my cheekbones, my skin-tone? Get out of here. Gorgeous!” she said, affirming her self-worth with humor.
The actress admitted that she spent much of her life hearing she was ugly, both from outsiders and within her own community. Even after being named one of the Most Beautiful at 26, internalizing that recognition was difficult.
Decades of negative conditioning weren’t easily undone, even by career success. Though she now believes in her own beauty, she remains skeptical of outside praise.
“Yeah, I’m beautiful, but I’m not convinced that you’re convinced of that,” she said. Sidibe described her beauty as something deeply personal: “My beauty is like my own secret in this way.” She explained that maintaining confidence is a daily practice, not a permanent achievement.
Confidence, for her, is like applying lipstick—it needs daily renewal. High heels, a good hairstyle, intelligence, friends, and humor all contribute to her sense of self-worth. For Sidibe, confidence isn’t automatic; it’s something she cultivates consciously. Despite her size, she enjoys photo shoots and embraces her body.
Accepting Herself and Fighting for Others
Sidibe once said about photo shoots, “I feel like a model. It justifies everyone in my life who told me I wouldn’t be anything until I lost weight.” It also justified the little girl who cried, thinking she didn’t belong in front of a camera.
However, reaching that confidence took time, only happening around age 21. She recalled becoming tired of letting others define her worth. Lee Daniels, the director of “Precious,” had high praise for her.
He said, “[Gabby] may be in a state of denial or on a higher plane than the rest of us, but either way, she breaks your heart in the movie.” Responding to his comment, she stated, “I was like, ‘What the hell? I’m in denial?’ No, I know what I look like. I’m very much aware.”
When asked where her confidence came from, she explained, “It came from me.” She added, “One day I decided that I was beautiful, and so I carried out my life as if I was a beautiful girl.”
Sidibe said what helps her is wearing the colors she loves and the makeup that makes her feel pretty. Advising others struggling with self-image, she said, “It doesn’t have anything to do with how the world perceives you. What matters is what you see. Your body is your temple, it’s your home, and you must decorate it.”
In 2021, she partnered with the Child Mind Institute and its May Mental Health Awareness campaign. Her own struggles with depression inspired her to work alongside the nonprofit organization to launch Getting Better Together.
The star revealed that she was 19 or 20 when she was diagnosed with anxiety, depression, and an eating disorder. In a video, the actress shared, “I remember having almost no one, really, to turn to. I couldn’t talk about it with my parents, or my friends or my friend’s parents. Everyone would tell me I was too young, too young to feel sad all the time or too young to feel stressed out.”
She explained how people around her tried to convince her that she wasn’t feeling what she felt. Fortunately, her instincts, which told her something was wrong, were louder, and she managed to save herself.
However, she recognized that not everyone had the ability to do the same or even to recognize that they needed help. That realization inspired her to start the Getting Better Together initiative. She urged, “If you or a young person you know is struggling, please go to ChildMind.org for resources and help.” Since then, she’s gotten married and welcomed children.
Celebrating Love and Growth
Gabourey Sidibe has since married Brandon Frankel, and together they share two children. In April 2025, the couple uploaded various images of their twins, Cooper and Maya, as they celebrated their first birthday.
The proud parents reflected on a full year filled with love and laughter. They described the twins as hilarious, sweet, and remarkably well-behaved. From walking and talking to dancing, hugging, and even demanding songs or calling every animal “CAT!”, the little ones have blossomed into vibrant mini humans.
Their parents expressed feeling honored to watch them grow and excited for all the learning and discovery ahead.
“We LOVE being your parents—the best is yet to come!” they wrote in a heartfelt celebration of the milestone.
The month before, the couple celebrated their wedding anniversary with help from Brides magazine.
For their fourth anniversary, they graced the magazine’s cover in 2022, and the publication honored them by inviting readers to revisit their love story through a special link in their bio.
I Bought a $20 Couch at a Garage Sale, and It Changed My Life in a Day
When Joshua buys an old couch at a garage sale, he’s expecting nothing more than a cheap addition to his garage. But when his dog uncovers a hidden package in the couch, his life takes a dramatic turn…
A couple of weeks ago, I decided my garage needed a bit of sprucing up. I’d been turning it into a cozy guest room, nothing extravagant, just a spot for family or friends to crash.
All I needed was a cheap couch, something sturdy, functional, and, ideally, dirt cheap.
The interior of a garage | Source: Midjourney
That’s how I ended up at a garage sale on a quiet Saturday morning.
The couch caught my eye immediately. It had faded floral upholstery, scuffed wooden legs, and the faint smell of lavender. It was perfect.
The seller, a tired-looking woman in her early forties, smiled as I approached.
A couch at a garage sale | Source: Midjourney
“You’ve got a good eye,” she said. “I’m Kristen. This belonged to my mom. She adored this old thing. I don’t know where she got it from, but it’s been around my entire life.”
“I’m Joshua. It’s got character,” I replied, running my hand over the worn fabric. “How much are you asking for it?”
“Twenty bucks,” she said quickly. “We’re clearing out her house. She passed away six months ago.”
A tired older woman | Source: Midjourney
Her voice softened as she looked over at the house.
“It’s been hard, but we need the money for my daughter’s treatments. She’s been unwell for a while now, leukemia. We’re going to miss the garden here.”
I nodded, suddenly unsure of what to say.
A man at a garage sale | Source: Midjourney
“You know what, Kristen, I’ll take it.”
She waved over her teenage son to help load it onto my truck, and as I drove away, I couldn’t help but think I’d scored a great deal. Sure, it was just an old couch that needed a re-upholstery soon, but $20 was something.
But…I wasn’t prepared for what happened next.
A couch on the back of a pick-up truck | Source: Midjourney
The moment I set the couch in the garage, my dog, Wasabi, lost his mind. He barked like a lunatic, darting around the room before zeroing in on one specific spot on the couch.
“What’s gotten into you?” I laughed, watching as he scratched at the fabric with wild determination.
Wasabi wasn’t letting up. He was practically digging into the couch with his tiny paws, and that’s when it hit me: stories about people finding hidden treasures in old furniture.
A dog sitting outside | Source: Midjourney
Could it really happen to me?
“Alright, alright,” I muttered, grabbing a knife. “Let’s see what’s got you so worked up.”
I made a small cut in the area Wasabi had been attacking, my hands trembling as I peeled back the fabric.
And there it was.
Bundles of cash.
A package of cash | Source: Midjourney
“Holy…” I whispered, staring at the wads of bills stuffed inside the couch. My heart raced as I pulled out stack after stack, laying them on the floor.
By the time I was done, there was over $20,000 sitting in front of me.
Wasabi barked triumphantly, wagging his tail like he’d just won the lottery.
“Good job, buddy,” I said, ruffling his fur.
A barking dog | Source: Midjourney
For a moment, I just stared at the money, my mind spinning. This could change everything.
Like everything.
Bills, savings, maybe even a dream vacation, every scenario ran through my head. But then I thought about the woman at the garage sale. Her daughter. The treatments.
A close up of a woman | Source: Midjourney
This wasn’t my money to use. This wasn’t my money to spend.
I drove back to the garage sale, the cash stuffed in my gym bag on the passenger seat. Kristen looked surprised to see me again.
“Hi! Do you remember me? I bought the couch earlier,” I said, trying to sound casual.
A bag on a car seat | Source: Midjourney
“Is there something wrong with it?” she asked, tilting her head.
“No, nothing at all,” I said. “I was just curious about it. Who did the couch belong to?”
Her expression softened.
“It was my mom’s, Joshua,” she said, remembering my name. “Like the house, she had it for decades. We found so many family photos with that couch in the background. Letting it go was hard, but we need the money, you know? My daughter’s very sick, I think I told you?”
A sick teenage girl | Source: Midjourney
I nodded.
“Anyway, it was either this or sell the house.”
I shifted on my feet, uneasy.
“Your mom never mentioned saving money, did she?” I asked.
Kristen hesitated, then nodded.
The exterior of a house | Source: Midjourney
“Actually, she did. She said she’d hidden some savings, but she couldn’t remember where. We searched everywhere. And I mean everywhere. All the drawers, closets, under floorboards, but never found anything. Why do you ask?”
“I… I think I know what happened to it,” I said carefully. “Can we talk privately?”
“Come to the kitchen,” she said. “Let’s have a glass of lemonade.”
An empty chest of drawers | Source: Midjourney
In her kitchen, I placed the bag onto the table, while Kristen set a glass of lemonade down.
“Kristen, I found this inside the couch,” I said, unzipping the bag.
She peered inside and gasped.
“Oh my goodness,” she whispered, tears brimming in her eyes.
A glass of lemonade on a kitchen table | Source: Midjourney
“Is this… Is this… Mom’s?”
“I think it’s the money your mom mentioned. I can’t keep it. It belongs to you and your child for her treatment.”
Her hands flew to her mouth as the first tear slipped down her cheek.
A woman in a kitchen with her hand on her mouth | Source: Midjourney
“This can pay for her treatment,” she said, her voice trembling. “You’ve saved her life. Mackenzie can… Mackenzie can get better. Thank you… thank you so much.”
She reached for my hands, squeezing them tightly.
“Joshua, please, let me take a picture of you. I want to remember this moment forever.”
A smiling man | Source: Midjourney
“Sure, I guess,” I said, smiling faintly.
She snapped a photo, her hands still shaking.
“You have no idea how much this means to us. Thank you.”
When I got home, I found my fiancée in the kitchen, chopping up vegetables to add to the roast chicken she was preparing. I told her everything.
A tray of food | Source: Midjourney
She listened, her expression a mix of disbelief and pride.
“You did the right thing,” Nicole said, wrapping her arms around me. “I’m so proud of you.”
The next morning, Kristen shared the entire story on social media. She described how a stranger had returned her late mother’s hidden savings, ensuring her daughter could get the care she needed.
The post went viral quickly.
A woman using her phone | Source: Midjourney
Within hours, the comments and shares exploded. Local news outlets picked it up, and people from across the country were calling me a hero.
It felt surreal.
Then, the ripple effects began.
A few days later, I got a knock on my door. A lawyer handed me a check for $20,000 from an anonymous donor who’d been moved by the story.
A new reporter at a studio | Source: Midjourney
“You gave it up willingly,” she said. “So, here you go. Use it wisely.”
A few days later at work, my boss called me into his office. He’d seen the post too.
“I wish we had more people like you on the team,” he said. “We need leaders with your integrity, Josh.”
By the end of the meeting, I had a promotion and a raise.
A smiling man | Source: Midjourney
But the moment that hit me the hardest came weeks later. I received a card in the mail from Kristen. Inside was a photo of Mackenzie smiling.
Because of you, my child gets to have a future. Endless appreciation for you, Josh.
That $20 couch didn’t just change my life. It reminded me of the kind of person I want to be: someone my kids can look up to, someone who does the right thing.
A smiling teenage girl | Source: Midjourney
Every time I sat on the couch in the garage, usually with Wasabi curled up beside me, I knew I made the right choice.
A month later, Nicole and I sat together on the couch in the garage, a large bowl of popcorn and a sprawled Wasabi between us. The black-and-white movie I’d picked was playing in the background, but neither of us were really watching it.
My mind kept drifting back to Kristen’s card and the picture of her daughter.
A dog sitting on a couch | Source: Midjourney
“I still can’t believe this all started with the couch,” I said, running my fingers along the couch.
Nicole turned to me, her face glowing in the dim light.
“I can,” she said softly.
“What do you mean?” I asked.
She smiled, tucking a strand of hair behind her ear.
A smiling woman | Source: Midjourney
“This is who you are, Josh,” she said. “You’ve always put others first. When we met it was us volunteering as elves for the orphanage’s Christmas party. Remember how you stayed late that one time at the senior citizens’ home? To build a second wheelchair ramp?”
“That was different,” I said, shrugging.
A wheelchair ramp | Source: Midjourney
“No, it wasn’t,” she insisted. “It’s who you are. You see people or animals… and they need help. And you just do the right thing without thinking about it. It’s what I love most about you.”
Her words hit me hard, and for a moment, I couldn’t say anything. I reached for her hand, lacing my fingers through hers.
“Now, we have a wedding to plan.”
A smiling bride | Source: Midjourney
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