Mum, Dad, my brother Michael: everyone in the family got more affection from our ridgeback-staffie cross. And guess whose bed she used to poo on…
I think the tone was set when Ella threw up over me on the way back from the Dogs Trust. She was three months old, rolling around on the back seat between me and my twin brother, Michael (we’d just turned seven), and wasn’t enjoying her first trip in a car. She could have been sick anywhere – over the seat, over the floor – but for some reason she decided to climb on to me first.
It was the start of a beautiful but strangely one-sided friendship. Ella, a ridgeback-staffie cross, was the perfect dog: playful, energetic, naughty and tolerant. She would let us poke and prod her without complaint, turn her ears inside-out or dress her up in T-shirts or the thick woollen poncho my Greek Cypriot grandma knitted her for the British winter. And she was endlessly loving, at least to the other members of the family. Me? Too often it was as if I didn’t exist. If Michael and I were sitting on the sofa, she’d bound up to him. If I came home after a day out with my dad, he was the one she’d jump at. If I tried to take her for a walk by myself, she’d drag her feet and insist that I fetch my brother.
To add insult to injury, about once a year she would do a poo in the house. Not just anywhere, though: she’d climb the stairs to my room and leave it in a neat pile on top of my bed.
I can’t pretend I wasn’t offended by Ella’s attitude – I loved her just as much as anyone. But it took me a while to realise that in her eyes we were both bitches fighting for our place in the pack. I read that dogs are 98.8% wolf, even yappy little chihuahuas. Ella was a definite she-wolf and my mother (she who opened the tin of dog food every night) was the undisputed alpha female. Ella could handle that fact, but she didn’t want to be the omega female. That was me.
Working out the reasons for Ella’s lack of sisterhood, understanding that her indifference was atavistic and not just casual, didn’t make me any less jealous of my brother, who always took great pleasure in the fact that Ella seemed to prefer him. But I resigned myself to the situation. And then one day (happy ending, anyone?) everything changed. I must have been 16 or 17, we’d been away for a fortnight in France, and when we got back it was me she ran up to first, whining and twisting with pleasure at seeing me again. After that it was like all those years of competition had never happened. We were best friends for ever, or at least for the couple of years she had left. Ella finally loved me.
Mom starts a furor on the internet by disclosing the reason she won’t be returning her shopping cart.
The Contentious Video of Dr. Leslie Dobson’s Shopping Cart
Dr. Leslie Dobson, a forensic and clinical psychologist from sunny California, probably had no clue that a routine grocery store excursion would set off such a tempest. But that’s exactly what occurred when she posted a TikTok video—which is currently more viral than cat memes—expressing her fairly strong opinions about shopping carts.
The Internet Video
Imagine this: a brilliant 16-second TikTok video. “I’m not returning my shopping cart and you can judge me all you want,” asserts Dobson, standing her stance. I’m not loading up my kids and groceries into my car, then abandoning them to return the shopping cart. Therefore, f— off if you’re going to give me a filthy look. Mic drop, am I correct?
Safety Issues
Dobson provided some important background information as the internet as a whole lifted itself up off the ground. She clarified in an interview with Today.com that the video’s goal was to draw attention to safety issues. “I wanted to give people permission to not return their carts if their intuition tells them they aren’t safe because predators watch our patterns and routines,” the woman said. First and foremost, safety!
Growing Numbers of Kidnappings
The worries of this mother bear are not unjustified. 265 children were kidnapped during automobile thefts in 2023, according to a disturbing “all-time high” study by Kids and automobile Safety. Anybody would be tempted to clutch their pearls at those numbers.
Public Response
Ahh, the internet, the place where everyone goes to air their grievances. Although Dobson’s video was meant to be a PSA, the public’s opinions were divided. She was praised by some, but others brought up the controversial “shopping cart theory.” In case you missed it, the theory posits that you may evaluate an individual’s moral fiber based on whether or not they give back their shopping cart. It serves as the grocery store etiquette equivalent of the philosopher’s stone.
Views Regarding the Theory of Shopping Carts
The argument continued. Isn’t returning a shopping cart an indication of moral decay, or is this just common sense parenting? There were rude tweets and angry Facebook posts. And views poured in from all directions, akin to an overfull shopping trolley.
In summary
Listen, people, Dr. Dobson brings up legitimate safety concerns. Not to mention, in a world where doing the “right” thing is paramount, she injects a dash of grounded reality. Let’s not fool ourselves, though; there may be other secure ways to return carts without endangering the security of the kids. What do you think about this story of the shopping cart? Post a remark anywhere you’d like on the internet. Just remember to bring the groceries in your vehicle.
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