According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
Kate & William Leave In Helicopter To Spend Easter Weekend At Anmer Hall Privately With Their Family
The British royal family was shocked to learn of grave health concerns in the beginning of 2024. On January 17, 2024, Buckingham Palace declared that King Charles III would be admitted to the hospital the following week to receive treatment for an enlarged prostate. Charles was described as feeling “fine” and “looking forward to getting back to work” by his wife, Queen Camilla, the following day.
The Princess of Wales, Kate Middleton, underwent stomach surgery at the London Clinic on the same day that it was scheduled, according to a statement released by Kensington Palace the day before. It stated that the princess would stay at the hospital for a 10-to 14-day recuperation period and that the procedure had been “successful.” The statement did note, though, that Kate was not expected to return to her regular royal responsibilities until after Easter.
As word spread that the two were hospitalized, their followers all around the world showered the pair with love and support. Given that Charles and Kate are two of the most well-liked members of the royal family, this was not surprising.
On September 8, 2022, Queen Elizabeth II, the queen with the longest reign in British history, passed away, and Charles took the throne. In his capacity as king, Charles worked to maintain the public’s positive opinion of the royal family while ensuring that the institution was kept up to date by embracing modernity.
It was disclosed in February 2024 that King Charles III had received a cancer diagnosis. After that, when Kate hadn’t been spotted in public for a while, people were curious about how she was doing. Following weeks of conjecture, Kate shot down the allegations and made an emotional video appearance to reveal a devastating update on her health.
On January 26, 2024, King Charles III was admitted to the London Clinic for specialized care. After spending three nights, he was released. Later, the palace declared that all of his previous appointments would be rescheduled to give him enough time to rest and recover. After the therapy, Queen Camilla reiterated in the days that followed that Charles had been “doing his best” before the couple’s first public appearance together on February 4, 2024, at Sandringham Church. There, Charles lifted everyone’s spirits by waving reassuringly at the assembly. This comfort was short-lived, however, as the following day Buckingham Palace revealed heartbreaking news.
It stated that “diagnostic tests have identified a form of cancer” during Charles’ prostate treatment, emphasizing that it was not prostate cancer. The monarch had “commenced a schedule of regular treatments,” according to the statement, and his doctors had advised delaying his public engagements. The 75-year-old monarch would, meanwhile, “continue to undertake State business and official paperwork as usual,” the statement continued.
Kensington Palace, meanwhile, emphasized at the time that Kate Middleton’s health problem was unrelated to cancer but did not specify what ailment she was dealing with. As the media kicked things into high gear, the public was eager to express their best wishes for a swift recovery, with allegations that the princess had fallen into a coma being categorically denied as “total nonsense.” Hundreds of photographers were dispatched to the London Clinic to try to get pictures of the princess before she left. They were, however, ineffective because it was later revealed that Kate had fled the hospital without anyone noticing.
A further statement from the palace was made twelve days later, on January 29, 2024, stating that Kate had returned to her home at Windsor Castle to finish her recovery from the surgery and that she was “making good progress.”
Duchess Catherine of Cambridge (2021), (Getty Images/Owen Humphreys-WPA Pool))
Kate moved into Adelaide Cottage in Home Park, Windsor, after leaving the hospital. She rested well there surrounded by family and supported by their devoted employees, which included long-term nanny Maria Teresa Turrion Borrallo. According to a Sunday Times source, Prince William took the lead in raising their three children, putting “100% family first, day job second.”
It is typically anticipated that patients recovering from abdominal surgery may need to wait two to three months before being able to move around comfortably, according to the National Health Service (NHS). Additionally, they have to refrain from lifting anything heavier than two or three kilograms, or 4.4 to 6.6 pounds. Exercises that involve standing and sitting are advised to aid in rebuilding the core. For a complete recovery, the abdominal area may not regain its previous strength for up to two years.
Although Kate’s return to her royal duties will undoubtedly depend on the recommendation of her doctors, several experts predicted that her recuperation would take longer than anticipated—up to nine months, in fact. As one insider with knowledge of the royal household told People, others praised the princess for taking the time she required to rest and recover:
It seems sense to take your time. You are frequently advised to return to work as quickly as possible, which might be detrimental, so that sets a fantastic example for the rest of us. It is in everyone’s best interests to see her take her time, heal fully, and then return. From that, all of us can learn.
Others, however, took solace in the knowledge that William had already partially resumed his royal duties by showing up at a London Air Ambulance event on February 7, 2024. There, he made his first public remarks regarding the health challenges his family has been facing lately. He praised the crowd, saying it “means a great deal to us all,” and expressed gratitude for “the kind messages and support for Catherine and for my father.”
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