Sonia Todd of Moscow, Idaho, died of cancer at the young age of 38. But knowing the end was near, she decided to write her own obituary before passing away. As she explained, obituaries were usually written a couple of different ways that she simply didn’t care for. So, as one of her last acts on this earth, she put pen to paper and decided for herself how her obituary would read.
The result of Sonia confronting her own mortality as she penned her obituary was a piece full of humor as well as wisdom, appearing in the Moscow-Pullman Daily News. The words were so honest and inspirational that long after her death, they will still ring true, giving others something to aspire to. Ironically, Sonia wrote, “I never really accomplished anything of note.” How wrong she was. The truth expressed in the obituary she wrote proved to be quite an accomplishment in and of itself.
“Other than giving birth to my two wonderful, lovable, witty and amazing sons (James and Jason), marrying my gracious, understanding and precious husband (Brian), and accepting the Lord Jesus Christ as my personal savior – I have done very little. None of which requires obit space that I have to shell out money for,” Sonia Todd began, explaining why she was writing her obituary and why it wouldn’t be like others.
Adding that she didn’t want a bunch of her loved ones sitting around to write a glowing report of her, which she says would be “filled with fish tales, half-truths, impossible scenarios, and out-right-honest-to-goodness-lies,” Sonia explained she simply didn’t like putting people in those kinds of situations. With the explanation out of the way, she got to her version of the truth about her own life.
“I just tried to do the best I could. Sometimes I succeeded, most of the time I failed, but I tried. For all of my crazy comments, jokes and complaints, I really did love people. The only thing that separates me from anyone else is the type of sin each of us participated in. I didn’t always do the right thing or say the right thing and when you come to the end of your life those are the things you really regret, the small simple things that hurt other people,” Sonia admitted.
Although she said that she mostly enjoyed life, she also said it wasn’t perfect and that she encountered many bumps in the road, especially in her teens and early 20s. Even though some parts of her life were harder than others, Sonia said, “I learned something from every bad situation and I couldn’t do any more than that.” She also claimed there were benefits to dying young. Jokingly, she wrote, “I still owe on my student loans and the jokes on them cuz I’m not paying them. Plus, I am no longer afraid of serial killers, telemarketers or the IRS.”Addressing the fact that some people have told her that writing her own obituary is morbid, Sonia Todd continued, “I think it is great because I get a chance to say thank you to all the people who helped me along the way. Those who loved me, assisted me, cared for me, laughed with me and taught me things so that I could have a wonderful, happy life. I was blessed beyond measure by knowing all of you. That is what made my life worthwhile.”
It was the conclusion of her obituary that was the most important, however. Sonia encouraged others to change their lives. “If you think of me, and would like to do something in honor of my memory do this: Volunteer at a school, church or library. Write a letter to someone and tell them how they have had a positive effect on your life. If you smoke – quit. If you drink and drive – stop,” she wrote.
Her advise continued, “Turn off the electronics and take a kid out for ice cream and talk to them about their hopes and dreams. Forgive someone who doesn’t deserve it. Stop at all lemonade-stands run by kids and brag about their product. Make someone smile today if it is in your power to do so.”
Today seems like a good day to honor Sonia’s memory by completing some of these simple requests and reminding others to do the same. Luckily for us, we still have time for these things. And, thankfully, with her dying wish, Sonia Todd left us these words of wisdom that few realize until it’s too late
This remarkable actor has undergone a profound transformation since his days as a heartthrob in the 1970s
At 83 years old, Nick Nolte, the once celebrated heartthrob American actor, recently celebrated another year. Known for his remarkable performances, he has been cast mostly in challenging roles that demonstrate his exceptional talent.
Nolte’s striking features, a strong jaw, prominent cheekbones and wild hair, often evoke the image of an impressive Shakespearean character. Over the years, his outstanding acting skills have earned him numerous awards and cemented his reputation as one of the finest actors in American film history.
While he may no longer be considered a heartthrob, Nolte’s remarkable contributions to film and unforgettable performances continue to resonate with audiences. His ability to bring passion and vulnerability to his roles captivates viewers, and his colleagues continually praise his impressive range.
In 1991, Nolte received a Golden Globe for Best Actor in a Drama for his role in “Prince of Tides”, which also earned him an Oscar nomination. His performances in “Affliction” and “Warrior” demonstrated his exceptional talent and reflected his ability to deliver powerful and authentic performances.
Despite his illustrious career, Nolte’s current appearance is a stark contrast to the handsome star he once was. However, his acting legacy remains firmly established, and recognition of his work is likely to last throughout his life.
In 2002, a controversial mugshot drew unwanted attention to Nolte’s personal problems and tarnished his once-shining reputation. The actor, who had previously been dubbed “the sexiest man alive”, found it difficult to maintain that image despite adversity.
Nolte’s journey began on February 8, 1941, in Omaha, Nebraska. He began modeling in the 1960s and eventually rose to fame as the face of Clairol’s “Summer Blonde” campaign in 1972, a groundbreaking moment for male models in the advertising world.
His breakthrough came in 1976 in the miniseries Rich Man, Poor Man, where his portrayal of Tom Jordache quickly earned him recognition. Based on his life experiences, Nolte brought authenticity to his characters, and this role marked a defining moment in his career.
The transformation into Tom required considerable physical effort; he lost weight and improved his physique over several years. His dedication paid off when he starred alongside Eddie Murphy in “48 Hrs.”, a film that broke new ground in racial dynamics on screen.
The 1990s marked Nolte’s peak as a star actor, with a string of successful films that further expanded his fan base. However, in the decade that followed, personal challenges overshadowed his professional life, leading to intense scrutiny.
Despite his difficulties, Nolte embraced his reputation for playing rebellious characters, which sometimes complicated his relationships on set. Nevertheless, he remained a respected actor dedicated to his craft.
Having been sober since 2002, Nolte has shifted his focus to a healthier lifestyle. He lives in a quiet treehouse in Malibu with his wife, Clytie Lane, and enjoys family hikes and quiet moments away from the spotlight.
As the father of Sophia and Brawley, both of whom have pursued acting careers, Nolte supports their individual paths while appreciating his role as a parent.
Although he has become less visible in recent years, Nolte’s passion for acting remains alive and well. He views aging as an adventure, embodies a youthful spirit and encourages others to pursue their dreams despite obstacles.
Nick Nolte’s enduring talent and positive attitude have cemented his status as a legendary actor, and his contributions to film will be remembered for generations to come.
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