Every day, the female body is exposed to more and more judgment from society. Social media feeds are full of unrealistic photos that can really make someone feel uncomfortable in their own skin. For women with postpartum bodies, this topic can be the most sensitive. To support others, this proud mother decided to stop hiding behind filters or pieces of clothing and embrace the flaws that truly make us special.
Most mothers aren’t prepared for the challenges that come after childbirth.
Danisha, a mom of 4, recently started sharing her journey about accepting her body on social media. At first, she was really ashamed and constantly tried to hide her postpartum belly, but with her last baby, she wanted a change.
“I didn’t know that I would have as much loose skin as I do now, and stretch marks. No one ever discussed it, my doctors didn’t discuss it,” the mother explained. “I didn’t know that my body just wouldn’t look the same anymore. But I want to embrace my body, and I’m happy where I’m at.”
Danisha believes a woman’s body creates miracles.
Seeing tons of celebrities and models posing with their pregnant bellies can give us the wrong image. They can make us believe that perfection can exist and that something might be wrong with our own bodies, even lowering our confidence to the point that we forget to love ourselves.
In one of her Instagram posts, she pointed out to other moms that they are loved, saying, “Don’t let society trick you into believing you need to be ’fixed.’ Your body is not wrong, society is!”
Society expects a different image of the female postpartum body.
Women are expected to quickly bounce back to their pre-pregnancy bodies. For many mothers, this can feel like they’re strangers in their own their skin. Fighting against your body means losing the battle in the end, but knowing how to accept it and start loving yourself from all angles is a different type of pure love that can only occur if the mother is 100% ready to do it.
The brutal honesty behind Danisha’s posts makes her even prouder of who she is. “Our body is meant to evolve and change, that is what happens with growth, not everyone’s body will change the same and that’s okay,” she admitted. “My wonderful body carried 4 beautiful blessings, my belly is a reminder of that and signifies growth. It has taken me a long time to accept her, love her, and appreciate her.”
Despite the negative comments that come from everywhere, knowing how to keep your positivity is one of the hardest jobs that people face when they show themselves at their most vulnerable online.
“I have a pouch, I have soft stretchy loose skin. My physical features are not what makes it beautiful, but the fact that my body was able to create life itself for a fourth time. I’m strong as a mother.”
Danisha doesn’t let the negative comments stop her. Showing the raw reality behind a mom’s body is a huge help for other mothers out there as well. “A lot of mamas are unprepared for postpartum.”
It’s a privilege to watch our bodies change as we grow older.
Sometimes, despite all our efforts and hard work to keep our bodies in shape, genetics can get involved and create a different person in the mirror. She explained, “I love it when people tell me that if I had moisturized my skin more then my belly wouldn’t have looked ’this way’ or if I wore a waist trainer I wouldn’t have a pouch and even greater if I dieted or exercised more, then my belly wouldn’t be as ’big.’”
The mother of 4 continued, “The reality is genetics play a big role. My belly is this way because of 4 reasons. I created life 4 times and no oils or creams would have miraculously prevented it. My sagging skin, stretch marks, and other love marks are reminders of bearing my children.”
Every mother is special in her own way and no one deserves to be discriminated against because of their appearance.
“To the mama looking at herself in the mirror: It’s completely normal not to fit into your pre-pregnancy clothes your body outgrew in order to make room for your beautiful blessing. Sizing up is nothing to feel ashamed of,” Danisha declared.
It wasn’t easy, but Danisha started accepting her body.
Understanding how to love stretch marks and accept body changes can be one of the hardest steps that a mom can do. They are a natural response from the body.
“Many would love to have tiger stripes. You can also have them without having children. My tummy was home to 4 of my children, and they love it,” she said.
Beauty comes from both inside and outside.
Regardless of what we look like on the outside, whether we differ in skin color or weight, all people are special in their own way, and our bodies do an amazing job at keeping us alive. In an effort to encourage others around her, this mother points out, “Whether you choose to cover your belly or not, you’re still worthy, still beautiful.”
Here are some similar stories that show us the beauty in every woman’s body.
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A Mother Was Told Her Stomach Was “Nasty,” but She Proves How Beautiful Women’s Bodies Really Are
9 Times Ashley Graham Embraced Her Motherhood Journey, From a Postpartum Body to Breastfeeding
8 Celebrity Moms Who Got Honest and Showed Us the Raw Reality of Motherhood
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KATIE HOLMES RAISES DAUGHTER IN COZY APARTMENT ALONE – RARE TIMES WE COULD SEE IT INSIDE
Katie Holmes, a single mother, has been residing in an apartment with her daughter ever since her divorce from Tom Cruise. The dissolution of their marriage was marked by acrimony, to the extent that the “Mission Impossible” star has been notably absent from their child’s life.
Suri, who has spent her entire life in Manhattan, New York, is on the brink of turning 18. Growing up, her mother intentionally shielded her from the public eye, particularly after parting ways with her father, partly due to ideological differences.
With this significant milestone approaching, Suri will legally become an adult according to New York state law. This newfound status grants her the opportunity to reconnect with her father and delve into the circumstances surrounding their estrangement, including discussions about his beliefs and the conflicts that ensued.
Tony Ortega, known for his extensive coverage of Scientology over the years, remarked in an interview, “Suri would have been too young to enter into any agreements, but now she is free to express herself if she chooses to, and it will be particularly intriguing if she has insights to share.”
Katie and Tom welcomed their only child together, daughter Suri Cruise, in April 2006. The couple exchanged vows months later, in November of the same year.
However, after nearly seven years of marriage, the actress filed for divorce from the actor in June 2012. Their divorce was finalized in 2013.
Allegedly, Katie decided to end the marriage out of concern for raising her daughter within Scientology, a religion to which Tom has been dedicated. Her departure from the institution and subsequent dissolution of the marriage created a significant divide between her and the movie star, leading to Tom’s distancing from their daughter over time.
Reports emerged that Katie had secretly leased a two-bedroom apartment in the Chelsea Mercantile building two weeks before filing for divorce from the “Top Gun: Maverick” star.
As the lease was nearing its end, she reportedly began planning a move from the $12,500-a-month apartment that she and her daughter had called home since the separation.
KATIE HOLMES RAISES DAUGHTER IN COZY APARTMENT ALONE – RARE TIMES WE COULD SEE IT INSIDE
Katie Holmes, a single mother, has been residing in an apartment with her daughter ever since her divorce from Tom Cruise. The dissolution of their marriage was marked by acrimony, to the extent that the “Mission Impossible” star has been notably absent from their child’s life.
Suri, who has spent her entire life in Manhattan, New York, is on the brink of turning 18. Growing up, her mother intentionally shielded her from the public eye, particularly after parting ways with her father, partly due to ideological differences.
With this significant milestone approaching, Suri will legally become an adult according to New York state law. This newfound status grants her the opportunity to reconnect with her father and delve into the circumstances surrounding their estrangement, including discussions about his beliefs and the conflicts that ensued.
Tony Ortega, known for his extensive coverage of Scientology over the years, remarked in an interview, “Suri would have been too young to enter into any agreements, but now she is free to express herself if she chooses to, and it will be particularly intriguing if she has insights to share.”
Katie and Tom welcomed their only child together, daughter Suri Cruise, in April 2006. The couple exchanged vows months later, in November of the same year.
However, after nearly seven years of marriage, the actress filed for divorce from the actor in June 2012. Their divorce was finalized in 2013.
Allegedly, Katie decided to end the marriage out of concern for raising her daughter within Scientology, a religion to which Tom has been dedicated. Her departure from the institution and subsequent dissolution of the marriage created a significant divide between her and the movie star, leading to Tom’s distancing from their daughter over time.
Reports emerged that Katie had secretly leased a two-bedroom apartment in the Chelsea Mercantile building two weeks before filing for divorce from the “Top Gun: Maverick” star.
As the lease was nearing its end, she reportedly began planning a move from the $12,500-a-month apartment that she and her daughter had called home since the separation.
During that period, the “Dawson’s Creek” alum sought to purchase her own spacious apartment in Manhattan. Sources indicated that Katie aimed to establish permanent roots for her daughter by becoming a homeowner.
Now, Suri has reached adulthood, and it was revealed that she was applying to colleges earlier this year with her devoted mother’s support. While her famous father remains estranged from her life, the three-time Golden Globe Award winner has agreed to cover his daughter’s college expenses.
Tom has been fulfilling his financial obligations by paying child support over the years, agreeing to provide $400,000 annually until Suri reaches 18. Despite the estrangement, he has consistently met his responsibilities in terms of financial support.
Expressing her desire to study fashion in New York City, Suri’s mother intends for her to remain close by so they can maintain their strong bond. Katie, described as “extremely overprotective,” is apprehensive about her daughter leaving the nest, according to insiders.
In a candid interview in 2017, Katie emphasized the paramount importance of motherhood and her unconditional love for Suri. She expressed her dedication to providing her daughter with a stable and nurturing environment, underscoring the joy she derives from witnessing her child thrive.
Additionally, Katie shared her enjoyment of spending quality time with Suri, particularly in the kitchen during mornings, reminiscing about preparing breakfast for her when she was ten years old.
When it comes to dinner, the brunette beauty shared that they often enjoy their favorite dishes, which include “pasta and lasagna.” During Suri’s early years, around the age of six, she and her mother would frequent the park at unconventional hours due to the heightened attention surrounding her parents’ publicized separation. Reflecting on this period in a July 2022 interview, Katie disclosed:
“We would head to the park at 6 a.m. just to spend time outdoors.”
Despite Tom’s decision to not engage with their daughter, Katie has remained steadfast in ensuring that it does not impact Suri’s upbringing, according to a source. The insider noted that being raised by a single parent has played a significant role in shaping Suri’s character.
The teenager holds an unwavering affection for her mother and has been characterized as “intelligent.” She is evolving into a “mature and insightful” individual who possesses a strong sense of her roots.
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