Betty, the chimpanzee that had been at the Dublin Zoo for the longest and the oldest living chimp under human care, passed away last week at the age of 62. She was one of the zoo’s most cherished and well-known inmates.
A zoo blog article claims that Betty had age-related ailments that were impairing her quality of life, and the tough choice to end her life was made to spare her from suffering in the future.
Although it is heartbreaking to lose Betty, she enjoyed a lengthy life that exceeded the average lifespan of a chimpanzee in captivity. According to the zoo, she was also the oldest chimpanzee in human care at the time of her death.
Team leader Helen Clarke Bennett of Dublin Zoo, who has worked as a zookeeper since 1987 and has known Betty for many years, paid tribute to her.
In 1964, a West African chimpanzee named Betty made her way to Dublin. Bennett notes that Betty participated in archaic practices like “Chimp Tea Parties” and that the Dublin Zoo continued to operate in the “style of the early Victorian era zoos” throughout that period.
Betty saw major advancements in zoo standards throughout her decades-long confinement. For example, in the 1990s, the chimp habitat was transformed from a metal-barred concrete “pit” to an island with trees.
Bennett claimed to have known Betty since the zoo’s early years since Michael Clarke, Betty’s father, was looking after her at the time. The chimp was “always strong-minded,” according to him, and would not give up on her goals.
After Wendy moved in 1964, Betty’s best friend, Wendy, became an integral part of her life for the majority of it. One of the cutest pairs in the zoo was formed by the two monkeys.
“Wendy had a cheeky side, but Betty could hold her accountable!” Bennett penned the piece. “When Wendy was obstinately refusing to go outside while the habitat was being cleaned, Betty putting her arm around her to encourage her to go outside with the rest of the troop will always be one of my favorite pictures.”
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Betty and Wendy celebrated their 50th birthdays together in 2012 at the zoo. The zoo workers believed that Betty, who was devastated by Wendy’s death in 2014, wouldn’t be far behind.
She even managed to live on for a further ten years, rising to the rank of dominating female chimpanzee and earning the title of longest-serving inhabitant of the zoo.
Bennett stated that Betty experienced reduced kidney function and chronic arthritis in her latter years, which affected her weight and mobility. She was also under continuous wellness management.
They had to make the tough but humane decision to end the beloved chimp’s life after all medicinal and surgical alternatives had been tried. Even though Betty is no longer with us, she will always be cherished as a unique original and a zoogoer’s favorite for many decades to come.
“Although I am really saddened to bid farewell to a friend I have known since I was a young child, I am sure that Betty’s euthanasia was the right choice, ensuring that she didn’t suffer needlessly and preserving her dignity to the very end. That gives me a great deal of comfort,” Bennett wrote.
“Everyone here at Dublin Zoo as well as the many generations of visitors who were fortunate enough to know her will miss Betty terribly; there will never be another like her.”
Peace be with you, Betty. You lived a very long life, and it’s obvious that your loved ones and caregivers cherished you.
My Stepdad Said He Doesn’t Eat the Same Meal Twice and That My Mom Should Cook Fresh Food Every Day — So I Gave Him a Wake-up Call
My stepdad demanded a fresh-cooked meal every day, like it was the 1950s. When my mom tried reheating leftover food, he tossed it and said real wives cook daily. I watched her shrink under the man who’d forgotten what gratitude looked like. So I served him a taste of humility.
After Dad died six years ago, my mom, Colleen, moved through life like a ghost. They’d been college sweethearts, married for 32 golden years with the kind of love that doesn’t need spotlights. He’d bring her coffee every morning and kiss her temple before leaving for work. She’d fold his socks the way he liked—paired and rolled, never bunched.
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I called her every day from two states away, but phone calls couldn’t fill the empty chair at her dinner table.
“I’m fine, sweetie,” she’d say, but I could hear the hollowness in her voice.
Then came Raymond. He worked with Mom at the community college. He was an accounting professor with slicked-back hair and cologne you could smell before he entered a room. He started bringing her lunch and offered to fix things around the house.
I was relieved someone was there, checking in on her when I couldn’t.
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“He makes me laugh again, Matty,” Mom told me over the phone. “Do you know how long it’s been since I really laughed?”
Raymond always lingered and he somehow landed a place in her heart. The proposal came fast, and the wedding even faster. A beach ceremony with just 20 people… sand between toes. The whole thing looked sweet in pictures.
Mom wore a simple white dress, and Raymond looked genuinely happy. I pushed down my reservations and hugged them both.
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“Take care of her,” I whispered to him.
“Always,” he promised, patting my back a little too hard. “Your mom deserves the world.”
I wanted to believe him. Maybe that’s why I ignored the way he interrupted her during the reception, or how he complained about the cake being too sweet.
“Marriage is about compromise,” Mom said when I mentioned it later. “We’re both adjusting.”
I was genuinely glad she’d found someone again. Someone steady. Someone who loved her. But God, I was wrong… so, painfully wrong.
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Six months later, I showed up at their doorstep with a basket of fresh muffins and enough clothes for a week-long visit. Mom hugged me tight, her frame smaller than I remembered.
“You’ve lost weight,” I said, studying her face.
She waved me off. “Just trying to keep up with Raymond. He’s very particular about what he eats.”
We settled in the kitchen with tea. Mom was in the middle of telling me about her garden when she suddenly pressed her fingers to her temple.
“Mom, are you alright?”
“Just a little headache, dear,” she said, wincing. “I’ve had this cold for a week now. Nothing serious.”
Her complexion was pale and her eyes were underlined with shadows. This wasn’t just a cold.
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“Have you seen a doctor?”
“Raymond says it’s just allergies. I’ll be fine after I rest.” She stood up and opened the refrigerator. “I made lasagna yesterday. It’s really good… your grandma’s recipe.”
She was pulling the container out when Raymond walked in. He was wearing a golf shirt, his face flushed from being outside.
“What’s for dinner?” he asked, not bothering to greet me.
“I thought we’d have the leftover lasagna. I’m not feeling like cooking something new tonight.”
Raymond’s expression darkened. “Leftovers? Again?”
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“It’s still good, Ray. I just don’t have the energy—”
The crash made me jump. Raymond swiped the container from her hands, sending it tumbling to the floor. Pasta, sauce, and cheese splattered across the tile.
“I’ve told you a hundred times. I DON’T eat the same meal TWICE. Am I a man or a pig? A real wife cooks fresh food for her husband every day. That’s your job now. Is that so hard to understand?”
Mom was already on her knees, picking up the mess. “I’m sorry. You’re… you’re right. I’ll make something else.”
I froze. In the six years since Dad died, I’d worried about Mom being lonely and sad… but never THIS. Never afraid. Never controlled.
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I dropped down beside her. “Mom, stop. Let me help.”
Up close, I could see her hands shaking. “Does this happen often?”
Her silence told me everything.
“You can help by making something fresh, Matilda,” Raymond said, walking away. “I’ll be in my study.”
***
That night, I lay awake staring at the ceiling fan in the guest room. The image of Mom on her knees kept playing on repeat. I thought about calling the police, but what would I say? My stepdad broke a dish? Made my mother cry?
No. This required something else entirely.
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I found Mom in the kitchen at dawn, already mixing pancake batter.
“Let me cook today,” I said, taking the bowl from her hands.
She looked relieved. “Are you sure, honey? Raymond likes his breakfast at seven sharp.”
“I’m positive. You should rest… your cold sounds worse.”
She hesitated before nodding. “He likes his eggs over medium. Not too runny, not too firm.”
“Got it. Why don’t you go back to bed for a bit?”
After she left, I pulled out every cookbook in her cabinet and got to work.
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Raymond came down at exactly seven, newspaper tucked under his arm. He raised an eyebrow at the spread I laid out—golden pancakes, perfectly cooked eggs, crisp bacon, fresh fruit, and steaming coffee.
“Well, look at this!” he said, taking his seat. “Colleen could learn a thing or two from you.”
I forced a smile. “Mom’s not feeling well. I thought I’d help out while I’m here.”
He took a bite of the pancake and nodded approvingly. “Now this is how a man should be treated in his own home.”
I bit my tongue so hard I winced through the copper tang.
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“I’ll handle the meals while I’m visiting. Mom needs to rest.”
“Best idea I’ve heard all week.” He pointed his fork at me. “Your generation could use more women like you… ones who understand the kind of fresh food men really need.”
I watched him eat, planning my next move.
For the next four days, I became a one-woman restaurant. Eggs Benedict for breakfast, hand-rolled sushi for lunch, and Beef Wellington for dinner. I made every meal from scratch, plated it like artwork, and served it with a smile that made my face ache.
“This is incredible,” Raymond kept saying. “I should have you visit more often.”
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By day three, he took photos of every dish and sent them to his friends on Instagram. “This is what real home cooking looks like, man! 🥩🍗🥘😋“ he bragged.
Mom watched it all with knowing eyes, saying little but squeezing my hand when Raymond wasn’t looking.
“You don’t have to do this,” she whispered on day four.
“Trust me, Mom. I know exactly what I’m doing.”
That night, I prepared his favorite meal—herb-crusted lamb with rosemary potatoes and glazed carrots. The table was set with candles and Mom’s best china.
“To good food and family,” Raymond toasted, raising his wine glass.
I clinked mine against his. “And to appreciating what we have!”
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He was halfway through his meal when I said, “You know, it’s interesting how our taste buds work.”
“How’s that?” he asked, mouth full of lamb.
“Well, for instance, you’ve been eating variations of the same three meals all week, but because I presented them differently, you never noticed.”
His fork froze midway to his mouth. “What are you talking about?”
“That lamb? It’s the same one I made two days ago. I just cut it differently and added a new sauce.”
His face flushed. “No, it isn’t.”
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“The potatoes are leftovers from yesterday. The carrots? Those are from the beef dish on Monday. I’ve been recycling ingredients all week, and you’ve been praising every bite.”
Raymond pushed his plate away. “That’s disgusting.”
“Is it? Because five minutes ago, it was ‘the best meal you’ve ever had.’ You even posted it online.”
Mom had appeared in the doorway, watching silently.
“You served me… leftovers??”
“Leftovers aren’t about laziness, Raymond. They’re about planning, efficiency, and not wasting food… something my father understood perfectly.”
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Raymond’s face turned an alarming shade of purple. “How dare you trick me like this!”
“How dare you treat my mother like your personal chef when she’s sick? How dare you break dishes and make demands like a spoiled child?”
“This is between me and your mother.”
“It became my business when I saw her picking up broken dishes off the floor.” I turned to Mom. “Get your coat.”
“What?” Raymond and Mom said in unison.
“I made reservations at Antonio’s. The real one, not the leftover version.” I smiled at Mom. “You and I are going out. Raymond can heat up something for himself.”
Mom looked between us, her eyes wide.
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“Go,” I said gently. “Wait in the car.”
After she left, I leaned across the table. “My mother spent 32 years with a man who appreciated everything she did. She deserves nothing less now.”
Raymond’s nostrils flared. “You have no idea what marriage is about.”
“I know it’s not about fear.” I straightened up. “There’s plenty of food in the fridge. Try not to throw any of it on the floor while we’re gone.”
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At the restaurant, Mom was quiet until our pasta arrived.
“I should have said something sooner,” she finally whispered. “After your father… I was so lonely. Raymond seemed kind at first.”
“This isn’t your fault,” I reached across the table for her hand. “But it needs to end.”
A tear slipped down her cheek. “I’m 62 years old. I never thought I’d be starting over again.”
“You don’t heal in the same place that’s breaking you, Mom.”
“I want to be brave again, dear. I used to be brave.”
“You still are. You just forgot for a little while.”
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I extended my visit by another week, helping Mom pack Raymond’s things while he was at work. We changed the locks and put his belongings in the garage.
When he came home and found his key didn’t work, he pounded on the door until the neighbors peeked out their windows.
“This is my house!” he shouted through the door.
Mom stood in the hallway, shaking but resolute. “I’m sorry, but this is my late husband’s house. You can say what you need to say tomorrow when you pick up your things. For now, please leave.”
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Later that night, after the shouting stopped and the house was quiet again, we sat on the porch swing like we used to when I was little.
“What if I made a mistake?” Mom asked, her voice small.
“What if you didn’t?”
She thought about that for a moment. “Your father would be proud of you.”
“He’d be proud of both of us.”
***
Three months later, Mom called me on a Sunday evening.
“Raymond left me a voicemail. He wants to come over and cook me dinner. Says he’s changed. He’s begging me to call off the divorce.”
“What did you say?”
“I told him I already had plans. I’m having lasagna tonight. The same one I made yesterday. And it’s delicious!”
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“And Mom? You know what goes great with lasagna? Freedom! And a kitchen where no one throws plates!”
Her laughter echoed like wind chimes.
Here’s the thing about entitlement: it eats itself. People like Raymond think they deserve service, but they forget love is never owed. It’s earned. And when you treat kindness like a chore, eventually, someone serves you a dish called consequences… with a garnish of get the hell out.
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