In a timeless tale of romance, Naval Officer Zack Mayo swept factory worker Paula into his arms and carried her from her workplace, leaving fans everywhere wishing they were the beautiful Debra Winger.
The legendary scene in the romantic drama an Officer and a Gentleman–where Richard Gere played Officer Zack Mayo, the handsome hero in navy whites–became the benchmark of love stories for daydreaming fans.
Acting alongside Hollywood’s hottest men, Debra Winger was the envy of many.
Today, Winger, 67, is as beautiful as ever. In the past few years, Winger has posted photos herself on Instagram, first with brown hair and now to a natural wavy gray.
Winger’s first starring role was in the 1976 film Slumber Party ‘57, which led to a part on the hit TV series Wonder Woman (1979), where she played Drusilla, the younger sister to Lynda Carter’s Diana Prince/Wonder Woman. Winger was asked to appear more often but concerned she’d be typecast by that role, she declined.
There were no regrets for that decision, the early ‘80s would be prosperous for the rising star.
At the height of her young career, she received numerous nods from the Academy and Golden Globes for performances in three iconic movies of the 1980’s.
In 1980, she starred in Urban Cowboy, with John Travolta, who at the time was driving fans wild with his smooth dance moves in Saturday Night Fever (1977) and Grease (1988); as Paula in an Officer and a Gentleman (1982) and in Terms of Endearment (1983), where she played Emma, a dying young woman with an over-bearing mother, Aurora, played by Shirley MacLaine.
Despite her huge success, Winger, carving hours from her acting schedule, took a mini Hollywood hiatus, and more than four decades after her rise to stardom, speculation of why she left is still circulating.
Most of these rumours revolve around the feuds that Winger had with her co-stars.
Though fans couldn’t get enough of the handsome Gere, it’s been widely reported that Winger had enough of him on the set.
According to an excerpt published on ABC News from the book, “An Actor and a Gentleman,” by co-star, Louis Gossett Jr., who played Sgt. Emil Foley: “The onscreen chemistry between the two of them was terrific, but it was a different story once the camera was turned off. They couldn’t have stayed farther apart from each other.”
Gossett also claims that Winger didn’t think much of Gere’s acting and wrote that she once described Gere as “a brick wall.” And, the film’s director, Taylor Hackford, whom she also did not likе, she referred to as “animal.”
It wasn’t only people on that film that ruffled her feathers.
Winger, a free spirit in real life and in her role as Emma, also clashed with the prolific MacLaine, a glamourous, eccentric and seasoned veteran.
Their first meeting set the stage for their relationship.
“To see how my character would feel I was wearing all my leftover movie-star fur coats,” MacLaine said in an interview with People. “There was Debra dressed in combat boots and a miniskirt…I thought, ‘Oh my goodness.’”
People writes, “Indeed, the set became the source of Hollywood’s most relished rumors. Winger wanted top billing. One reportedly slugged the other.”
And then, the women were pitted against each other in the Oscars when they were both nominated for best actress.
MacLaine, taking the trophy home, said in her acceptance speech, “I deserve this!”
Rumors aside, Winger insists she “pushed the pause button” on Hollywood for personal reasons and not professional.
“The parts that were coming, I wasn’t interested in. I’d already done that or I’d already felt that. I needed to be challenged. My life challenged me more than the parts, so I dove into it fully,” Winger told People.
After starring in the 1995 romcom Forget Paris with Billy Crystal, Winger took a six-year break.
In that time, she moved to New York City and shifted her focus to actor Arliss Howard, whom she married in 1996. The pair have a son, Gideon Babe, who was born in 1997, and she is stepmother to Sam, Howard’s son from a previous marriage. She also has another biological child, Noah Hutton, whom she mothered while married to her first husband, Timothy Hutton (1986 to 1990).
She reappeared in the 2001 film Big Bad Love, that was directed and produced by her husband, who also co-starred alongside Winger and Rosanna Arquette, who’s next project was 2002 film Searching for Debra Winger. As director of the documentary, Arquette attempts to answer why Winger temporarily аbаndоned her career at peak performance.
Winger gained some momentum with roles in Rachel Getting Married (2008) with Anne Hathaway, the 2017 romcom The Lovers, and the crime-comedy, Kajillionaire (2020).
In 2021, she was in With/In, Volume two of the anthological drama film, in the segment Her Own, which is written and directed by her husband, who also co-stars.
“I don’t know what Hollywood is. I’m living under the freaking sign now, and I just stare at it and laugh. Los Angeles is a place, but the idea of Hollywood doesn’t really exist for me,” Winger said, adding, “…although there must be some in-crowds that I just don’t know about.”
We can’t imagine a Hollywood without Debra Winger and we hope she soon gets to take home an Academy Award ! What are your favorite Winger movies?
My Mom Promised Me Our Family’s Lake House – After I Paid for Renovations, She Gave It to My Sister Instead
Katie’s mom PROMISED the family’s lake house would be hers one day. When she handed over the keys, Katie spent a year fixing the place, pouring her life savings into every detail. Months later, when she finally saw her dream come to life, her mom JUST RIPPED IT AWAY and gave it to her sister.
Have you ever been stabbed in the back by the people you thought you could trust the most? Not just hurt, but BETRAYED. The kind of betrayal that leaves you questioning everything — your memories, your worth, and your place in their lives. That’s exactly where I found myself, standing in the kitchen of the lake house I’d poured my heart and soul into.
A heartbroken woman | Source: Midjourney
For as long as I can remember, the lake house has been a symbol of promise and hope for me. Mom always told me it would be mine one day.
It wasn’t just a house — it was an integral part of our family’s history, our summers, and my dream of rebuilding a life after everything with my ex-husband fell apart.
So when she finally handed me the keys a year ago, I was over the moon.
“Katie, honey,” Mom had said, pressing the old brass keys into my palm. “This house… it’s always been meant for you. You were the one who truly loved it, even as a little girl.”
A scenic shot of a stunning lake house | Source: Midjourney
I can still remember how excited I was, walking through the dusty rooms and imagining what it could be to live here. I dove in headfirst, patching the roof, painting the walls, and scrubbing every inch of that place until my hands were raw.
I spent weekends scouring antique stores for furniture to bring it back to life.
Every spare dollar I had went into making it a home. MY HOME.
A woman standing on a stepladder and painting a wall | Source: Pexels
But all of that came crashing down with one conversation.
“Katie,” Mom said softly, her hands folded in front of her like she was delivering bad news to a stranger. She couldn’t even look at me. “You need to move out. Sarah needs the lake house more than you do.”
The paintbrush slipped from my fingers, clattering against the hardwood floor. “Move… out?” My voice came out as a whisper, like all the air had been sucked from my lungs. “Mom, what are you talking about? This is my home. You PROMISED me this house.”
“I know what I said, Katie, but things have changed,” she added, smiling. “Sarah has the kids, and you don’t… You’re not in the same situation.”
An older woman smiling | Source: Midjourney
Her words hit like a punch to the gut. I didn’t have kids… not because I didn’t want them, but because I couldn’t. My ex-husband left me over it, blaming me for something I couldn’t control.
And now, the one place I thought I could rebuild my life was being ripped away and handed to Sarah — my older sister, the golden child. She hadn’t lifted a finger for this house, let alone spent her savings and taken out a huge loan to fix it up like I did.
“Not in the same situation? Is that what we’re calling it now? Because I can’t have children, I don’t deserve a home? Is that what you’re saying?”
A woman arguing | Source: Midjourney
“Katie —” She reached for my hand, but I jerked away.
“Don’t.” Tears burned in my eyes. “Just don’t. Do you have any idea what this place means to me? The nights I stayed up planning every detail? The overtime I worked to afford the renovations? I put everything I had into this house, Mom. Everything.”
She looked away, her shoulders tense. “Katie, you know that’s not what I mean. You’re young, you have time to —”
“To what? To start over? Again? Like when Tom left me? Like when I had to rebuild my entire life while you and Sarah stood by and watched?”
An older woman staring grimly | Source: Midjourney
Her jaw tightened, and she let out a slow breath, like I was the one being unreasonable. “It’s not like that. Sarah needs it more than you do. She’s raising a family, Katie. You’ll understand one day.”
A bitter laugh escaped me. “No, Mom. I understand perfectly right now. I’ve always understood. Sarah gets everything she wants, and I get whatever’s left over. Isn’t that how it’s always been?”
“That’s not fair —”
“Fair?” My voice echoed off the walls I’d painted with my own hands. “You want to talk about fair? I spent a year of my life fixing this place up. I poured my savings into it because you PROMISED me it was mine. And now you’re just… what? Handing it over to Sarah because she has kids?”
I wiped angrily at my tears. “You know what the worst part is? You didn’t even have the decency to tell me the truth from the beginning. You let me believe in this whole lie.”
A woman feeling defeated and shattered | Source: Midjourney
I spent the next few hours packing in stunned silence, every breath feeling heavier than the last. It was like I was moving through a fog, my brain replaying her words over and over: “Sarah needs it more than you do.”
Every time I thought I couldn’t be hurt more, I found a deeper wound. I carried the first box out to my car when I heard Nancy’s voice calling from across the street.
“Katie, wait! Please!”
Nancy, my neighbor, was one of those people who always knew what was going on. She jogged over, glancing nervously toward the house. “I’ve been meaning to talk to you. I just returned from my mom’s place this morning.”
“What is it, Nancy?” I asked, my voice flat. I didn’t have the energy for small talk.
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She grabbed my arm, her eyes filled with concern. “Katie, honey, there’s something you need to know. I overheard your mom and Sarah talking last week. I wasn’t eavesdropping… they were outside, and I just happened to be gardening.”
She then dropped the bombshell. “They’re planning to turn the lake house into a hotel.”
“WHAT??”
“They’ve been planning it for months. Sarah and her husband…” Nancy’s voice dropped to a whisper. “That’s why your mom let you do the renovations… it saved them a fortune. Sarah was laughing about it, saying how perfect it was that you’d fixed everything up for them.”
The box slipped from my hands and hit the driveway with a sickening thud. My legs felt weak, and I had to lean against my car to stay upright. “They… they planned this? All of it?”
A stunned woman | Source: Midjourney
Nancy nodded, her eyes full of pity. “I’m so sorry, Katie. I should have told you sooner, but I just… I couldn’t believe they’d do something like this. Not to you.”
A strangled laugh escaped me. “I can’t. God, I can’t believe it.” I slid down until I was sitting on the ground, not caring about the gravel digging into my legs. “You know what the worst part is? I actually believed my mother.”
Nancy sat down beside me, wrapping an arm around my shoulders. “Oh, honey…”
“I thought she meant it when she said the house was mine.” My voice broke. “I thought maybe, just once, I mattered as much as Sarah does.”
I didn’t bother confronting them. What was the point? They’d lied to me for months without a shred of guilt. What could I possibly say that would change anything?
A depressed woman | Source: Midjourney
As I packed the last box, I found an old photo album tucked away in a drawer. Inside was a picture of me as a little girl, standing outside the lake house. I remembered Mom telling me to smile as she clicked the picture.
“We were happy once, weren’t we?” I whispered to the photograph. “Or was that a lie too?”
I left the picture on the kitchen counter with my keys.
Months fleeted by. I was angry… at them, at myself, and at the whole damn situation. I blocked their numbers, ignored their emails, and cut them out of my life entirely. It wasn’t easy, but it was the only way to protect myself.
A key beside a photo frame on a kitchen counter | Source: Midjourney
Two years later, I met Ethan. He was kind, funny, and had this calm way of making the world feel less overwhelming. I wasn’t looking for anything serious, but he walked into my life and slowly became my safe place.
“You don’t have to tell me about your family,” he’d said one night after I’d dodged another question about my past. “But when you’re ready, I’m here.”
And when I finally did tell him, he just held me while I cried.
“They didn’t deserve you,” he whispered into my hair. “And their loss? That’s on them, not you.”
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We got married a few months after that, and one of the biggest miracles of my life followed: our daughter. Turns out, the infertility issues were on my ex’s side all along. My life wasn’t perfect, but it was much better than I could’ve imagined.
One evening, I was cleaning up the kitchen after dinner. Ethan had just put our daughter to bed, and I was wiping down the counters when I noticed a stack of papers in the corner. Among them was a property deed.
I picked it up, curious, and FROZE when I saw the address.
“Ethan!” I called, my heart racing. “Why do you have THIS?”
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He walked in, a sheepish grin on his face. “Oh, that. I meant to tell you — I bought it. It’s an investment property. There used to be a hotel there, but the owners ran it into the ground. Tons of complaints, lawsuits. They went bankrupt, so I got it for a steal.”
My hands trembled as I stared at the paper. “Ethan… this is the lake house. MY LAKE HOUSE.”
“What?” His brow furrowed, then his eyes widened with recognition. “Wait… THAT lake house? The one your family…” He trailed off, understanding dawning on his face.
A shocked man | Source: Midjourney
I nodded, tears spilling down my cheeks. “I can’t believe this. After everything… Ethan, I —” My voice broke as the weight of it all crashed over me.
He crossed the kitchen in two strides, pulling me into his arms. “Hey, hey, it’s okay. Let it out.”
“I never thought I’d see it again,” I sobbed into his shirt. “I tried so hard to forget about it, to move on, but…”
“But it was your home,” he finished softly, running a hand through my hair. “And now it can be again.” He pulled back slightly, wiping my tears with his thumb. “Well,” he said with a gentle laugh, “looks like karma’s finally doing its thing!”
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When we visited the lake house a few weeks later, I hardly recognized it. The charm I’d worked so hard to restore was buried under years of neglect. The paint was peeling, the porch sagged, and the yard was overgrown. But as I stood there with Ethan and our daughter, I didn’t see the mess. It was still my beloved lake house.
“Mommy?” My daughter tugged at my hand. “Why are you crying?”
I knelt down beside her, brushing her hair back from her face. “Because sometimes, sweetheart, life has a way of giving you back the things you thought were lost forever.”
“This is yours now,” Ethan said, slipping his hand into mine. “No one can take it from you again. We’ll make it beautiful together, just like you did before.”
I squeezed his hand, watching our daughter chase butterflies across the overgrown lawn. “No,” I corrected him softly. “We’ll make it even better.”
Grayscale shot of a woman holding a man’s hand | Source: Unsplash
For the first time in years, I felt at peace. The lake house wasn’t just a house anymore… it was proof that I’d survived. That I’d rebuilt a life full of love and happiness, despite everything they’d done to me.
As for Mom and Sarah? I heard their hotel venture failed spectacularly. The lawsuits alone wiped them out. Maybe it was karma. Maybe it was just bad luck. Either way, I don’t think about them much anymore.
The lake house is mine again. And this time, it’s staying mine. Forever.
An old lake house | Source: Midjourney
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