‘Families don’t have to look the same’ – Black couple talks about their experience adopting three white children

Sadie and Jarvis Sampson tried for years to have a baby, using every method they could think of. They eventually accepted that they might only ever be an aunt and uncle. Then, one day, they got a text that changed their lives completely.

The couple had been trying to get pregnant since they got married in January 2018, but when it didn’t happen on its own, they tried everything else.

“We used ovulation tests, took prenatal vitamins, tracked cycles with apps, and used fertility monitors,” the Houston mom told Love What Matters.

“We even tried advice from friends, family, and strangers. For 14 months, we tried, prayed, and waited. Month after month, it was always a negative pregnancy test. It seemed like we might need help to conceive, so we even talked to doctors about it.”

Doctors didn’t offer much help to the couple. They mostly told Sadie to lose weight to improve her chances of getting pregnant. With no other advice, she had gastric surgery and lost 28 pounds.

Sadie’s OBGYN was excited about the weight loss and praised her for it.

“She told me that if I wasn’t pregnant within six months, she would refer me to a fertility specialist because she couldn’t prescribe fertility medication herself,” Sadie said. “I was thrilled! We finally got a positive step forward, even if it wasn’t immediate. We were excited about the progress.”

Unfortunately, the couple didn’t get pregnant after Sadie lost the weight, and they felt like they were back where they started.

“I always felt like I was meant to be a mother,” Sadie said. “Even though my surgeon warned me that I’d be very fertile after the surgery, I still wasn’t getting pregnant. So, we gave up and accepted that we might just be aunt and uncle to our nieces and godparents to our goddaughters.”

Just when the couple had decided to stop trying to have a baby, Sadie got a text from a friend asking if they would think about fostering a baby from a couple she knew.

At first, the couple was hesitant because they were told by a caseworker to take care of the baby while the birth mom was getting treatment. They worried they might get too attached. But then, the situation changed.

“The birth mom has decided she wants you to adopt the baby instead,” the caseworker said.

Sadie remembered saying, “‘Holy crap!!’ out loud when she found out she was going to be a mom.

“We went from having no kids to possibly fostering one, to suddenly being told, ‘You’re going to be parents!’ I was still in shock as I listened to the caseworker. I hung up and called my husband, shouting, ‘Babe!! They want us to adopt the baby! We’re going to be parents!’ He said, ‘Wait! REALLY?! I thought they just wanted us to foster him!’ I told him, ‘Nope! They want us to be his mom and dad.’”

The couple spent the weekend trying to take in the shocking news and getting ready, just in case the birth mom changed her mind.

By Monday, they were not only told that the birth mom still wanted them to adopt the baby, but she also wanted to do an independent adoption and was ready to sign the papers that day.

Their baby boy was born at just 33 weeks, which is seven weeks early. He weighed 4 lbs. 5 oz. “He was so tiny, he literally fit in one of my husband’s hands,” Sadie wrote.

“He was wrapped in a white blanket with pink and blue stripes,” Sadie said. “He had a small tube coming out of his nose because he couldn’t eat on his own since he was born early. But he was so cute!!!”

The couple shared their news on social media and were encouraged to create a registry. They listed 72 items, and within just three days, 55 of them were already bought for them.

Ezra Lee’s adoption was finalized in October 2020, and the couple had adorable family photos taken, all wearing t-shirts that said, “Families don’t have to match.”

In 2021, Sadie and Jarvis became parents to twin girls, Journee and Destinee, through embryo donation. True to their family motto, “Families don’t have to match,” the Black couple now has three white children – a boy and two girls.

For anyone who might judge their beautiful family, they have just one response: their family is built on the strongest foundation ever – love.

Mom leaves “baby” in car while she shops at Target – promises others that he’s OK

These days, it seems as though you can hardly move in public without running the risk of being discovered online.

We have truly entered the era of viral tales and clips, where funny, awkward, and occasionally extremely personal movies and images of ourselves can be published and shared instantly over the internet.

Of course, this can be exploited, but it can also occasionally be used for good; consider the instances in which people are called out for wrongdoing.

I think that’s what people on the internet thought was going on when an Instagram picture went viral in early March, supposedly showing a message written by a mother who had left her infant in the car to go shopping at Target.

Sufficient to halt the heart, surely? There’s more to this story than meets the eye, so don’t worry.

Influencer Bonnie Engle posted a reel on Instagram back in March, and it quickly went viral. The video has received millions of views and over 1,000 comments since it was posted.

The aforementioned video features a close-up of a handwritten message that has been taped inside a car window and says, “My baby is OK.” He’s got his drink and his nibbles! I’m in Target right now. Return soon!

It goes without saying that for many of the people who watched the video, the note alone was enough to startle.

However, many who were willing to watch the film quickly realized that Engle is more of a mischievous spouse than a terrible mother. The camera pans back a few seconds after the previously described close-up on the message in the window, exposing that Engle’s baby in the car is actually her husband.

“Please no judgment,” is how the influencer captioned the Instagram video. He is secure and in good health.

Her spouse is spotted waiting inside the car while enjoying some popcorn.

Thankfully, viewers in the comments section found humor in Bonnie’s video.

One person wrote, “My heart dropped and then I LMAO.”

Another said, “Leaving them in the car is so much easier.”

“For a split second, I thought I was going to lose it… That surprised me, too,” a third person said.

View the video by clicking this link:

Many of Engels’ posts, according to reports, are lighthearted and ideal for mothers who can identify with the day-to-day challenges of motherhood.

What was your impression of Bonnie’s video? Use the comment section to share your opinions with us.

This video undoubtedly had a humorous component, but it’s crucial to constantly keep in mind that you should never leave kids—or dogs, for that matter—in heated cars.

Please share this post to assist us in spreading a crucial message and if you thought Bonnie’s short was humorous.

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