It’s uplifting to witness women supporting each other, whether it’s friends offering help or strangers extending support to those they’ve never met. In this story, a woman quietly left a letter for her ex-boyfriend’s future girlfriend, offering a heads-up about what to anticipate and sharing lessons from her own experience. The new girlfriend shared this moving act of solidarity on Reddit, where she received an outpouring of encouragement and advice from the online community.
She wrote:
“My boyfriend Steve (30m) and I (28f) have been together for 2 years and have been living together for 8 months. I was cleaning our apartment when I found a note in the back of a cabinet that read:
‘Dear Steve’s Future Girlfriend,
I know it’s you reading this because he’d never clean back here. I’m putting this here because I’m leaving him soon and want to warn you about him:
1-He will not clean;
2-He will not listen;
3-He will make everything feel like it’s your fault;
It’s not your fault, he’s just an incompetent man. I’m leaving him, I suggest you do the same.
Best wishes, Natalia'”
She added:
“I read the note and brought it to show to him and hear his response. He immediately ripped it up and said not to listen to it, that she was crazy and untrustworthy. I told him that the fact that he hasn’t found the note in the 5 years since they broke up is a red flag to me because it does mean he’s never cleaned back there and that he has been cleaning less and less since I moved in.
He told me this is just his ex continuing to manipulate and ruin his life, and I was letting it work. We continued to argue along the same lines, and I eventually left to spend the night at a friend’s place.
Steve has been a great boyfriend so far. He gets along with my family. He has given me gifts and flowers and always tells me how much he loves me. He’s not wrong that the cleaning hasn’t really been brought up before, but the note made me realize it had been less and less and that we needed to have a full conversation about this.”
She went on explaining:
“He texted me afterwards saying he’s sorry that I felt like I had to leave, but that it’s a wrong move for me to take a note over our 2-year relationship and to leave him and our pets alone. I don’t know what to do or what to believe right now. I’m contemplating trying to find and reach out to Natalia.
Steve thinks I should come back home and let it go, that his past should not affect our future. He makes it sound like his ex was manipulative and petty throughout their relationship, but I don’t know what to trust.
When we moved in together 8 months ago, the cleaning was 50/50. Since then, he’s been doing things less and less. I have to remind him to do things like to bring his plates to the sink or take out the trash, and I didn’t have to before. The dishes will pile up unless I do them, to the point he’s had leftover food mold on the plates.”
She continued:
“I’m not a confrontational person, so I was just asking him to fix it when it came up. The note made me reflect on it more and try to have an actual full conversation, and I will say I didn’t feel listened to when I talked to him about it.
I tried to use the note to start a conversation about cleaning, and he got so stuck on the fact that I was listening to his ex instead of him, that he wouldn’t listen to what I think are valid concerns. He thinks I’m letting the note have “confirmation bias” so no matter what he says I’ll think he’s in the wrong.
Also, I didn’t leave him permanently, this all happened yesterday and I only spent one night at a friend’s because I didn’t feel like our conversation was going anywhere last night, and he wouldn’t let me sleep until I let it go. I’m going back today and wanted to get advice and feedback before I do.”
Other Redditors chimed in, sharing their own insights and offering advice to her.
- I’m so glad for you. It wasn’t two wasted years since they taught you a valuable lesson. I’m especially grateful for Natalia! Please tell her we love her for her kind solidarity and witty ways. Absolutely, leave a note — but better yet, leave two. One in the same place (he’ll look there; manipulative narcissists aren’t that dumb), and another in an even less likely spot. Sending you my best. You got this, girl! © occasionalpart / Reddit
- Well, he’s not cleaning, he’s not listening to you, and he’s making it out to be your fault “for trusting a note over him.” So, it seems the ex’s assessment might be accurate. It doesn’t look like he’s open to discussing his poor housekeeping, and personally, I don’t think you’ll be able to address it now without the note coming up. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide whether this is something you can tolerate. It seems he hasn’t learned anything from his last relationship. © VonBoo / Reddit
- You’ve been living together for less than a year, and you’re already having to play mommy, reminding him of basic chores and daily tasks! If Natalia were truly such a manipulative, crazy person, she would have made much harsher and more dramatic accusations than these. © Arya_kidding_me / Reddit
- It’s almost ironic how easy it would have been for him to shut this entire thing down with the simplest of responses: “Hmm, you’re right, I’ll make sure to clean more.” That would have immediately countered points 2 and 3. But he’d rather be right, and he’d rather play the aggrieved party. You didn’t do anything wrong by trying to have a conversation off the back of that note. His reaction should tell you everything. © Mobius_Stripping / Reddit
- I’d be willing to bet money that the note is right. He sounds like the kind of man who will stop doing anything the second he decides a woman is fully trapped. The slow tapering off you’re witnessing is him testing the waters. He needs to figure out whether he just needs to waste enough of your time to get to that stage, or whether you need a ring or a baby to feel trapped. © Extension_Drummer_85 / Reddit
- “Don’t expect to change a man unless he’s in diapers.” This behavior will continue on, he’s gotten away with it before up to a certain point. He wants someone to pick up after him like his mommy.
Any time a guy says, “My ex is/was crazy,” is a MASSIVE red flag right there. It’s something guys have been saying since the dawn of time to belittle their former partners. He’ll say the same thing about you to his next girlfriend. You have to ask yourself, “Was she crazy, or did he drive her crazy with his behavior and laziness?” I’d leave your own note when you do finally dump him. And reach out to his ex, see what she has to say. © Equal-Brilliant2640 / Reddit
When trust is broken between couples, it often leads to a surge of emotional and psychological turmoil, including feelings of uncertainty and profound confusion. In a different scenario, a woman shared a fascinating story of her own sleuthing skills. She discovered her husband was cheating simply by paying close attention to his breakfast order.
‘We Left. As Did LOTS of the Crowd’: Fans Shame Miranda Lambert for Her Behavior at Montana Festival – What Happened?
Country music star Miranda Lambert is no stranger to the spotlight, but her recent performance at the Montana Festival has sparked considerable controversy and disappointment among fans. As videos circulated on social media, many expressed their disillusionment, with some claiming they’ve lost interest in the artist altogether. This incident is not the first time Lambert has faced backlash for her behavior on stage, and it raises questions about the balance between performer and audience.
On July 14, during her set at the Montana Festival, Lambert addressed the crowd in a way that many found off-putting. In a clip shared widely online, she can be seen reprimanding the audience for their apparent lack of attention. “I can see your head is not turned the right way, which is this way,” she declared, pointing to herself as if to remind them where the focus should be.
The crowd’s reaction was mixed; while some fans cheered in support of their favorite artist, others felt uncomfortable and even embarrassed. Many attendees, who had come to enjoy the music, began to leave the venue, disheartened by Lambert’s apparent frustration. The atmosphere shifted dramatically from one of excitement to tension, leaving many wondering if this was the Miranda they had once adored.
Social media erupted in response to the incident. Posts flooded platforms, with many fans expressing their disappointment in Lambert’s behavior. Comments ranged from supportive to critical, with some users stating they felt “disrespected” by her attitude. “I used to love her music, but now I’m questioning if I want to support an artist who treats her fans like this,” one commenter wrote.
This backlash has sparked a broader conversation about celebrity behavior and audience expectations. Fans have increasingly voiced their desire for artists to create an inclusive and positive experience, rather than alienating those who have come to enjoy their performances.
This incident is not an isolated occurrence for Lambert. In the past, she has faced scrutiny for her on-stage demeanor, including instances where her comments and actions have rubbed fans the wrong way. Critics argue that such behavior reflects a growing trend among some artists who may take their success for granted and forget the importance of their audience.
For many fans, music is a sanctuary, a place where they can escape their daily lives and connect with others. When an artist behaves in a way that seems dismissive or condescending, it can shatter that illusion and leave listeners feeling alienated. Lambert’s recent actions have raised concerns that she may not fully appreciate the relationship between artist and fan, which is built on mutual respect and admiration.
As the backlash continues to grow, the question remains: what does this mean for Miranda Lambert’s career moving forward? Many fans are vocal about their discontent, but Lambert has a long-standing career filled with chart-topping hits and a loyal following. However, with the rise of social media, artists are more exposed than ever, and a single misstep can lead to a significant shift in public perception.
It will be interesting to see how Lambert addresses this situation, if at all. Will she acknowledge the backlash and make an effort to mend her relationship with fans, or will she brush it off as just another fleeting controversy? In the fast-paced world of country music, the response to such incidents can often dictate an artist’s trajectory.
This incident serves as a reminder of the complexities of celebrity culture. Fans invest emotionally in artists, and when those artists act in a way that feels dismissive, it can lead to a deep sense of betrayal. As the lines between performer and audience continue to blur, it is crucial for artists to recognize their role in shaping the experience of their fans.
Miranda Lambert’s recent actions at the Montana Festival have left many questioning not only her behavior but also the values that underpin the relationship between artists and their supporters. As the dust settles, it remains to be seen whether Lambert will take this opportunity for reflection and growth or whether the controversy will simply fade away, leaving her with a tarnished reputation in the eyes of some fans.
The fallout from the Montana Festival is just one chapter in the ongoing story of Miranda Lambert’s career. While she has captivated audiences with her powerful voice and heartfelt lyrics, her recent behavior raises important questions about accountability and connection in the music industry. As fans await her next move, one thing is clear: the relationship between artists and their audience is a delicate balance, one that requires mutual respect and
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