I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
20 Times a Haircut Has Changed Someone Beyond Recognition
Change can be a beautiful thing — especially when it comes to your hair. It’s completely captivating to see a hairdressers artistry take someone’s hair from outdated to cool. They prove how something as simple as a haircut can change someone’s appearance from caring to daring, or from slouchy to chic.
Check out the following 20 hair transformations found by the Bright Side team and who knows… maybe they inspire you to also get a new ’do yourself!
1. “My wife told me ’you’ve had your fun, now cut your hair!’”
2. “Before and after, 10 inches of hair donated!!”
3. Both styles look very good on her!
4. “Gave all my hair to Locks of Love.”
5. “I also cut off and donated most of my hair.”
6. First cut in nearly four years.
7. “From straightening my hair every day to finding out that THIS was possible!”
8. “My beard and hair transformation — 2009/2019”
9. “Took the plunge today and cut it all off!”
10. “Before and after: big chop and new routine”
11. “Just donated my hair to Pantene Beautiful Lengths.”
12. “From damaged and over processed because I wanted blonde curls so bad, to embracing my natural dark hair!”
13. “I saw my daughter’s beautiful curls start to form, I knew that the only way she would truly love her hair is if I loved mine too.”
14. “Got the job of my life, so I chopped off my hair.”
15. “Donating my hair to Locks of Love!”
16. “After my bass was stolen, I cut all my hair off, sold it for $900, donated $450 to Locks of Love, and bought a new bass with the rest.”
17. “Cut my hair yesterday. I now have 4, 12” ponytails to donate.”
18. “Cut off my hair for locks of love.”
19. “Kind of a reverse transformation, I kicked my obsession with modifying my hair and finally let it grow out natural and healthy!”
20. “Long hair to short hair, before and after”
If you were to have a hair makeover, what style would you choose? Share your own OMG-worthy hair transformation in the comments!
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