For the person suffering from dementia as well as the ones closest to them, it may be an extremely frightening disease. On the other hand, early detection of dementia symptoms might make everyone feel better prepared. More equipped to handle the ambiguity, emotional upheaval, or perplexity. Fortunately, Dr. Richard Restak’s book, How to Prevent Dementia, was released on October 17, 2023. Some early indicators of the condition are covered in the book. The physician reveals in the book that there are four main dementia early warning indicators. He refers to the symptoms of dementia as the “Four A’s” and describes how they might manifest in routine activities like brushing your teeth. He stated that the exterior manifestations and internal feelings of an Alzheimer’s patient are driven by four deficits.
1. Amnesia may be a sign of dementia
According to Dr. Restak, forgetfulness is a common aging process. Thus, it only warrants concern when it occurs frequently and involving items that ought to be commonplace. For instance, if you routinely lose track of details like your address, name, or family members’ names. He adds that while this is a typical aging symptom, it might not always indicate dementia.
2. Or aphasia
The term “aphasia” describes a problem of comprehension and communication. That is, a person’s capacity for speaking, writing, and reading could deteriorate. On a daily basis, this could appear to be someone who mispronounces a word or has forgotten what it means. Dr. Restak points out that this could not be a reliable indicator of dementia either. Why then include them? The solution is easy to understand. Diseases and people have a significant characteristic. Like diseases, we vary from case to case. No condition fits neatly into a box or checklist, and some symptoms may apply to some people but not to others. Rather, diseases and humans have certain characteristics that may fall into one category but not another. Consequently, even though these dementia symptoms might not apply to everyone, they can significantly help some people learn how to deal with and manage the condition.
3. Appropriate Indices of Dementia: Agnosia and Apraxia
One illness that affects the senses is anemia. It makes it impossible to identify well-known individuals or locations. This can be experienced by touch, taste, smell, sound, or sight. Among the instances are failing to identify a family member, house, or preferred destination for a Saturday excursion. Aphasia, on the other hand, is the final of the four symptoms of dementia and manifests itself when performing routine actions like brushing your teeth. Muscle function and strength are affected by the illness. Although apraxia can cause a person to forget to brush or even have difficulty holding the toothbrush, Dr. Restak cautions that the condition goes far deeper than that. When someone has apraxia, they frequently are unable to “tie all the actions together” or perform them in the right sequence. “An individual suffering from apraxia might be able to identify and even name a toothbrush and toothpaste, but they might not be able to perform the simple act of pressing toothpaste onto the toothbrush.” He composed. “All the muscle parts are there, but they are not able to work together.” Individuals in advanced phases could also find it difficult to take a shower or get dressed.Restak wrote in How to Prevent Dementia that “many, if not all, expressions of Alzheimer’s can be explained by reference to the four A’s.”
4. Alzheimer’s versus dementia
The title of the book is Dementia Prevention. Still, Dr. Restak makes several allusions to Alzheimer’s. This is due to the long-held belief that the two illnesses are very similar. While this is accurate, there are a few significant distinctions between the two, and it turns out that one frequently leads to the other. In general medicine, the term “dementia” refers to brain changes brought on by aging, illness, or trauma. the term used to describe a collection of symptoms that impair a person’s capacity to operate and carry out daily tasks. Conversely, Alzheimer’s is more common in the old and senior population and frequently results in dementia.
5. Having a Conversation with an Expert
It’s advised to get in touch with a medical expert right away if you believe someone you know is showing dementia symptoms. They will have a better understanding of your symptoms and be able to conduct tests that will help determine the exact cause. But the discussion may also be frightening, awkward, and emotionally charged. There are a few things one can do to facilitate a more seamless communication. First, make sure everything is quiet, peaceful, and devoid of distractions like the TV. After that, get ready for an emotional roller coaster. Just provide the facts, but do so in a kind and perceptive manner. Summarize the important points in brief phrases and words. Permit the other individual to finish speaking. It might also be advisable in some circumstances to enlist expert assistance. For example, you can probably get emotional support, resources, and sometimes even medical guidance about what’s ahead from a religious leader, a primary care physician, or a certified therapist. In any case, the first step to learning to live with and conquer the obstacles brought on by dementia is being aware of its symptoms.
My Husband Quit His Job Because He Was Sick—I Trusted Him and Gave Him All My Money for Treatment, Until the Truth Came Out
They say love makes you blind, and I guess I was living proof of that. When my husband, Kyle, quit his job, claiming he was sick, I trusted him without question. I worked harder and gave him every dollar I had. But the truth I uncovered? It shattered everything.
When you love someone, you never expect them to lie. Especially about something as serious as their health. But looking back, I should have seen the signs.
I missed them all until a stranger rolled down her car window and told me something I never saw coming.
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Being a mom and wife has always been my pride and joy. My days were a whirlwind of work, chores, and family time, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
I’m a project manager at a software company, and I really love my job. It pays me enough to support my little family.
Our two boys, Liam and Jake, are my biggest motivators.
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Liam, 12, has a curious mind and a talent for science. He’s always tinkering with gadgets or asking a million questions about how things work. Meanwhile, Jake, 10, is our little athlete. He’s the kind of kid who’s always kicking a soccer ball or racing his bike around the neighborhood.
And then there’s Kyle, my husband of 15 years.
Kyle has always been my rock. He’s the calm to my chaos, the steady presence that keeps our family grounded.
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He worked as an operations manager at a logistics company, a job that kept him busy but provided well for us.
There were times when I’d look at him across the dinner table, watching him laugh with the boys or share stories about his day, and think, I’m so lucky.
Life was good.
But that all changed one afternoon when Kyle walked through the front door, holding a folder in his hands and looking like he’d seen a ghost.
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“Hey, you’re home early,” I said, glancing up from my laptop. But the moment I saw his expression, I knew something was wrong.
His face was pale, his lips pressed tightly together as he set the folder down on the table.
“Kyle? What happened?” I stood and walked over to him, my heart pounding in my chest. “Is everything okay?”
He looked up at me, and his eyes had this look I couldn’t quite figure out.
Was it fear? Regret? I still don’t know.
“Laura,” he began, his voice shaky, “I have muscular dystrophy.”
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I froze. “What?”
He sat down heavily, rubbing his face with both hands.
“I’ve been feeling off for months. I went to the doctor, ran some tests… This is why I’ve been so tired.”
I didn’t know what to say.
“I can’t work anymore,” he continued. “I’ll need expensive treatment, but it’s my only chance.”
For a moment, I couldn’t breathe. Muscular dystrophy. The words echoed in my mind, making my stomach twist.
I sat down across from him, reaching for the folder.
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Inside were test results, doctor’s notes, and medical papers. Everything looked serious.
“I’m so sorry,” he whispered. “I didn’t want to tell you like this, but… I need to start treatment. I think we’ll need to cancel the trip with the boys. I hate to do this to them, but…”
I reached across the table, taking his hands in mine. “Kyle, stop. The boys will understand. We’ll figure this out. You’re going to get the treatment you need.”
Tears welled up in his eyes. “I hate that you have to deal with this.”
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“I’m your wife,” I said, squeezing his hand. “We’ll get through this together.”
But as I sat there, staring at those papers, a cold, creeping fear settled over me. How would we afford this?
Later that night, as we lay in bed, I couldn’t stop thinking about it.
“We’ll need more money,” I murmured, staring at the ceiling.
Kyle turned to me. “Laura, I don’t want you working yourself to death for me.”
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“I can handle it.” I turned to face him, determination in my eyes. “I’ll get a part-time job after work. We’ll cut back on expenses. You’ll quit your job and focus on your health.”
His lip quivered. “You’d do that for me?”
“Of course.”
The next day, I went to a neighborhood restaurant and got a job cleaning tables in the evenings. After finishing my day at the software company, I’d head straight there to clean.
It was exhausting, but I didn’t care.
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I handed almost all the money I made to Kyle for his treatment. And I could see how he was changing. He looked happier and more relaxed.
Seeing that gave me the strength to keep going, even when I felt like collapsing from exhaustion.
The routine became second nature. Work all day, clean tables at night, and fall into bed exhausted.
I was running on fumes, but every time I saw Kyle smile or heard him say, “Thank you for everything, Laura,” it felt worth it.
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He kept going to his treatments during the weekdays while I was at work.
“It’s best if I go alone,” he’d say. “I don’t want you missing work for this.”
I never questioned it. I trusted him completely.
But then one evening, something strange happened.
I was on my way to the restaurant, clutching my coat against the chilly wind when a white SUV pulled up next to me. The window rolled down slowly and inside sat a striking woman with dark glasses and perfectly styled hair.
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She leaned over the passenger seat. “Are you Laura?”
I froze, tightening my grip on my bag. “Yes… Who’s asking?”
She took off her sunglasses, revealing sharp, piercing eyes. “Is Kyle your husband?”
“Yes,” I said. “Why? Is he okay?”
The woman tilted her head slightly, a knowing smirk playing on her lips. “Oh, he’s more than okay. But you should really check where he goes for his ‘treatments.’ And while you’re at it, look at his bank statements.”
I blinked, stunned. “What? Who are you? What are you talking about?”
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She pressed her lips together like she was debating how much to say.
“Let’s just say I’m doing you a favor,” she said before rolling the window back up. The SUV then drove off, leaving me standing on the sidewalk in a daze.
What the heck was that about?
The whole walk to the restaurant, her words echoed in my mind. Why would a random woman say something like that? And how did she know Kyle?
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When I got home that night, Kyle was already asleep.
I sat at the kitchen table, staring at the clock, my mind racing. Something about that encounter wasn’t sitting right with me.
The next morning, Kyle grabbed his usual bag and kissed me on the cheek before heading out.
“I’ll be back around three,” he said. “I’ve got two procedures today. The other one’s at night.”
“At night?” I asked.
“Yeah, my therapist scheduled a special session today.”
“Okay,” I said, forcing a smile. “Take care.”
As soon as he left, I went straight to his laptop. My hands shook as I opened his banking app. I told myself I wasn’t snooping. I just needed peace of mind.
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But as I scrolled through the transactions, my stomach dropped.
There were no payments to medical facilities. No hospital charges. No doctor’s fees. Nothing.
Instead, I saw restaurant bills, golf club memberships, expensive clothing stores, and even a charge for a weekend trip to a resort I’d never heard of.
What the heck?
I scrolled faster, hoping I was missing something. But it was all there in black and white.
Kyle wasn’t paying for treatments. He was spending our money on luxury items. Things we never discussed. Things I never approved.
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By the time I closed the laptop, I was trembling. I couldn’t believe what I was seeing.
Later that evening, I decided to follow him when he left for his “special session.”
I stayed a safe distance behind, my heart pounding with every step.
But Kyle didn’t go to a hospital or a clinic.
He went to a small bar downtown. The kind of place where people went to relax and unwind.
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I stood outside that bar, frozen in place, watching Kyle laugh and joke with his friends. It felt like I was watching a stranger. The man inside wasn’t the sick, struggling husband I thought I knew.
He was someone else entirely.
I took a deep breath and stepped closer to the window, just in time to hear him speak.
“I told you I could do nothing for three months,” Kyle said, raising his glass. “And you were wrong!”
His friends burst out laughing, clinking their glasses together.
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“Man, I still can’t believe you pulled this off,” one of them said. “Your wife really bought it?”
Kyle chuckled, leaning back in his chair. “Hook, line, and sinker. Told her I was too sick to work. Now I’ve got all the time in the world to hang out with you guys.”
They laughed again, loud and carefree, while my heart shattered into pieces.
“And she’s still giving you money?” another friend asked, shaking his head in disbelief.
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“Yep.” Kyle took a sip of his wine, looking smug. “She even picked up a part-time job to make sure I’m covered. I gotta say, being married to someone so gullible has its perks.”
His words cut through me like a knife. My mind reeled with images of him sitting at home, watching me rush from one job to the next, while he lived it up with his friends.
I couldn’t take it anymore. I turned around and walked away as tears blurred my vision.
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As I was about to head back home, I saw the same white SUV outside the bar. The woman from before rolled down her window when she saw me.
“Did you see it?” she asked softly.
I nodded, unable to speak.
She sighed. “I’m sorry you had to find out this way. My boyfriend is one of his friends. When I heard what they were doing… I couldn’t stay silent. You deserved to know.”
I wiped my eyes, trying to compose myself. “Thank you.”
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That night, I said nothing to Kyle.
I sat through dinner, listening to his usual stories about “difficult procedures” and “promising results.”
But the next morning, I took action.
I called his office and told them he was well enough to return to work.
Then, I went to the bank and froze our joint account. With the remaining money, I paid off our mortgage and opened a new account in my name.
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When I was done, I sent Kyle a text.
It read, Kyle, treat your vanity and your cruelty — that’s your real illness. Don’t bother coming home.
Then, I packed my things, changed the front door lock, and took the boys with me to my parents’ place. I didn’t want to see Kyle’s face again.
He tried calling me for weeks, but I didn’t talk to him. Instead, I filed for divorce, and now I’m waiting for it to be processed so I can get rid of the man who betrayed me in a way that I could’ve never imagined.
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If you enjoyed reading this story, here’s another one you might like: They say secrets can destroy a marriage. When I discovered my husband had secretly bought a second house, I braced myself for the worst. But nothing could prepare me for what I found when I drove there. I ended up crying at the sight, and there was nothing that could console me.
This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.
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