Only weeks after Millie Smith and Lewis Cann learned they were having twin baby girls, they learned that only one would survive.
On April 30, after 30 weeks of a high-risk pregnancy, Smith delivered identical twins, Callie and Skye, the latter who lived only three hours.
Later in neonatal intensive care unit (NICU), Callie slept without her sister in the incubator, with her loving and grieving parents watching over her. In the unit with other babies, an overwhelmed mom of healthy newborn twins innocently told Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have two babies.
Crushed by the words, the new mom couldn’t find the words to explain her loss. Then, she realized that Skye’s legacy was to help other families who lose a child, and it came in the form of a purple butterfly.
In November 2015 Millie Smith and partner Lewis Cann found out they were having their first Child. Smith, who has twins in the family, said she had a “gut feeling” about having a duo and 10 weeks later, doctors confirmed she was expecting identical twin girls.
Less than two weeks after the excitement of knowing they would double the children in their home, the British couple were devastated to learn that one of their babies had a fatal condition and wouldn’t survive after birth.
“During the scan, the doctor didn’t say anything. I was very excited and loved seeing the little babies, but she was silent. Both Lewis and I immediately knew there must be a problem,” Smith said.
Doctors shared the news that one of the babies had anencephaly, which according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) affects about one in 4,600 babies across the U.S. It’s a serious birth defect where a baby is born without parts of the brain and skull, and “almost all babies born with anencephaly will die shortly after birth.”
Knowing that one baby would die soon after birth, and that there were risks involved for their other baby, the couple decided to move forward with the extremely high-risk pregnancy.
Over the next several months, Smith and Cann named their twins Skye and Callie. “We knew that Skye needed to have a name before she was born,” Smith said. “Knowing she would only survive for seconds or minutes, I wanted her to be named during that time.”
The meaning behind “Skye,” she explained “was somewhere we knew she would always be, that we could look up at the sky and remember our baby.”
When Smith went into labor after only 30 weeks on April 30, she needed an emergency C-section. To help navigate the loss, the couple had a “bereavement midwife” during the birth, and they were put I a special room the called the “Daisy Room,” where families can spend time with a baby before and after she/he passes.
“When the girls were born, they both cried. This was a huge moment, as we were told that Skye would not make a noise or move,” said Smith, who was thankful to have three hours with Skye before she died. “We were cuddling Skye when she passed away. This was the worst moment in our lives. I have never ever felt heartbreak like that before. But I am proud that she fought for so long to spend time with us.”
Born premature, Callie had to stay in NICU while she gained some strength and also in the unit were three other sets of twin.
“Most of the nurses were aware of what had happened, but as time passed, people stopped talking about Skye. After about four weeks, everyone acted as though nothing had happened, meaning the families around me had no idea about our situation,” Smith recalled.
One morning, a stressed mother whose twins were also in NICU, harmlessly said to Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have twins.
“None of the other parents knew what had happened or anything about Skye. The comment was completely innocent and more out of humor…They weren’t to know that I did at one point have two.” Smith continued, “But the comment nearly broke me. I ran out [of] the room in tears and they had no idea why. I didn’t have the heart to tell them what had happened. A simple sticker would have avoided that entire situation.”
It was in that moment Smith realized she had to create something that would speak for parents who had just lost a baby, ensuring the misunderstanding never happens again.
She designed a poster for the NICU explaining both hospital personnel and visitors that any incubator with a purple butterfly on it means that one or more babies, in a set of multiples were lost.
“I chose butterflies, as I felt it was fitting to remember the babies that flew away, the color purple because it is suitable for both boys or girls,” said Smith.
The purple butterfly concept–now under the Skye High Foundation–has spread to hospitals in several countries around the world.
Callie is now a lively, happy seven-year-old, and twin’s memory lives in purple butterfly cards along with other initiatives to help families with babies like Skye all over the world. The purple butterflies now come in numerous forms, like ornaments, cards, blankets, stuffed animals and more.
“Ultimately I will never be able to stop this from happening but the more support groups we can set up and put things in place like the stickers the better it will be. It’s the hardest thing anyone has to deal with,” Smith said.
Desiree Anzalone, great-granddaughter of Desi Arnaz and Lucille Ball, and her tragic fate
Despite having been gone for thirty years, Lucille Ball is still adored and remembered by a large number of people.
She became well-known as the most popular comedy actress of the 1950s when she co-starred with her husband, Desi Arnaz, in the television series I Love Lucy.
She began her career as a model and film actor before becoming well-known for her roles in television shows. By the time her career ended, she had acted in more than 70 films.
In many respects, Lucille Ball’s legacy persisted, and her great-granddaughter exhibited a remarkable likeness to her well-known great-grandmother.
Desiree Anzalone, 31, tragically passed away in a terrible way in 2020.
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I Love Lucy changed history in a lot of ways and propelled Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz to stardom. It was among the first sitcoms to be recorded live and set the precedent for numerous other well-known sitcoms.
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Having been married twice, Lucille Ball had two kids. She married Desi Arnaz, her co-star in the film I Love Lucy, in 1940. Desi Arnaz Jr. and Lucie Arnaz are the names of the couple’s two children.
Though Desi Arnaz Jr.’s birth was among the most widely reported in television history, it wasn’t an easy life for the son of two famous people. He has acknowledged in the past that he had wild parties in Hollywood during his formative years in the 1950s and 1960s.
He was surrounded by pressure and temptation because he was the child of two extremely well-known television actors.In reality, at the tender age of fifteen, he became a parent.
Even though Arnaz Jr. did not get close to his daughter Julia until almost two decades later, he tried to make up for his earlier lack of presence by being present for his granddaughter, Desiree Anzalone.
When Lucille Ball, the actress behind I Love Lucy, gave birth to Arnaz Jr. on the same night as her main character did in a prerecorded episode, the child shot to prominence.
It was a historic event because CBS had previously maintained that a pregnant woman could not be shown on air.
The infant developed into a teenager in the company of Hollywood aristocracy, eventually rising to fame as a teenage idol of his own on his parents’ other project, Here’s Lucy.
He eventually met the mother of his daughter, Susan Callahan-Howe, about this period. She was a model.Susan and Desi Jr. first connected when they were just 15 years old. However, it took years for Desi Jr. and his daughter Julia to get back together in the 1990s.
Sadly, Julia never got to meet her famous grandma because it was after Lucille passed away.
Callahan spent years informing her daughter that her father was well-known before she tragically passed away from COVID-19 in 2020. Years later, in 1991, Julia made the decision to confirm it through a paternity test.
“When I was twenty, we took a DNA test, and the results showed that I was, in fact, his daughter. Shortly after that, my father and I began a wonderful relationship,” Julia told Page Six.
By now, I’m at least eighteen. He might have said, “Well, she’s my child, whatever.” However, he didn’t. He was a huge assistance to me throughout my life and to my daughter as she went to college.
Desiree Anzalone was that daughter, and Julia clarified that her father also grew close to her. She continued by saying that they were very close and that Desiree even briefly resided with Arnaz Jr.
In addition, Julia gave her daughter the second name Desiree in remembrance of her grandmother Lucille, who had won an Emmy.
Desiree, who studied creative writing at the University of North Texas, was employed as a photographer.
People reports that the young woman was given a stage 2 breast cancer diagnosis at the age of 25.
Anzalone had a double mastectomy and experienced a brief period of remission before the cancer reappeared and spread to her bones, liver, and lungs.
Desiree’s life unfortunately came to an end in 2020.
During the 2020 pandemic, Julia Arnaz had to deal with her mother passing away from COVID-19 and her daughter being diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer.
“I wasn’t able to see her as much as I usually do because she was compromised and I didn’t want her getting sick in any way,” Julia told People. “The COVID-19 kept us apart.” Due to the COVID since March, I was unable to spend as much time with her as I usually do. Even though we would hang out almost every day, I didn’t see her as much as I would have liked. She also spent some time living with me.
Julia Arnaz stated to Page Six in May 2021 that she was committed to working as an activist to support other young women in stopping the sickness that killed her daughter from progressing so quickly.
She has pledged to increase the number of mammograms performed in Connecticut, her home state. Arnaz wants to encourage younger women to start these checks sooner rather than later, even if older women are usually advised to do so on a regular basis.
“There’s a big difference in those four or five months,” she said. And my daughter, this lovely angel…A lot of young ladies may say, “Oh, it’s just a cyst, no big deal.” However, she truly stood up for herself, and I urge other young ladies to follow suit.
Julia Arnaz has persisted in raising awareness of this problem and making her voice heard in the public after her daughter’s untimely death.
It’s simply not discussed very often. According to Julia Arnaz in someone, “it’s usually people in their late 30s, 40s, or 50s — not somebody at this age.” She thus genuinely wanted to assist other ladies who were in a similar situation to herself. a prophylactic.
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