Shithead and Sarah have been like famiIy to my wife and I for several years, practically ever since we moved in across the street from them. The four of us were extremely tight. Our kids are the same age as theirs and are all good friends. We were one big family unit. We did dinner together a few times a week. We went on vacations together.
I truly saw Shithead as a brother, and my wife and Sarah were very close too.
Five months ago, I was completely blindsided by the discovery of an affair between my wife and Shithead. My wife had left her emaiI open on our computer, and I saw an email from her to her longtime therapist saying that Shithead would be joining her at an upcoming session “again.”
Uh, WTF? My mind started racing – why in the world would Shithead be going to her therapy sessions without my knowledge? I did a search and found some other emails to and from the therapist proving that Shithead had been going to sessions together with her for about six weeks.
I checked our mobile phone account and discovered that, since late summer, they had been exchanging hundreds of texts every day, peaking at nearIy 500/day by the holidays. Speaking of the holidays, my wife and I hosted both of our families (parents, siblings, etc) for both Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner, and Shithead and Sarah joined us either for dinner or after dinner on both holidays.
Text records showed that the entire time that they were at our house celebrating with our families, my wife and Shithead were texting each other across the room. They were doing that pretty much every time the four of us hung out, for months. And, you know, all day every day just in generaI. But what bothers me the most is that they were doing it with Sarah and I right there.
I confronted my wife with the evidence and she admitted that yes, she and Shithead had fallen in love. “It just happened! I don’t know how! But I love him and I just don’t feeI anything for you anymore, I’m sorry!” They had gone on a school district trip together, something had happened in her hotel room, and things had moved quickly from there. She explained, as I lay face-down on the couch, unable to look at her, that they had already made plans to move out and divorce me and Sarah, and while they didn’t plan to move in together immediately because of the kids, they’d probably do so eventually.
The meetings with the therapist were supposedly mostly for the purpose of finding a way to break this to me and Sarah as gently as possible, because they were so very concerned for our well-being. (Sarah and I are fairly certain that they weren’t pIanning on telling us about the affair at all, and were simply going to “discover” their feelings for one another several months down the line, after they’d come up with some other reason to divorce the two of us.)
My wife moved out two months ago. I was, and still am, utterly destroyed. I cry every day. I cried writing the first few paragraphs of this story just now. I worry non-stop about the impact on our kids. But I am also not exactly a shrinking vioIet when I feel that I’ve been wronged. And in this case I was, objectively, very very wronged.
So, a couple of years ago, Shithead ran for a Board of Education seat as a pretty extreme underdog. I helped him with his campaign materials and debate prep, and my wife, a well-known school district employee (this becomes important later), got the word out as best she couId. Much to our surprise, he actually won in a squeaker, by just a few dozen votes.
Being on the Board became the center of Shithead’s world. He joined every committee that he could. This turned into the foundation of his affair with my wife, as they were constantly going to school events and meetings together on evenings and weekends.
Once I discovered the affair, my thoughts turned pretty quickly to revenge, and it occurred to me that an extramarital affair between a member of the Board of Education and an employee of the school district was at least bad poIitics and possibly vioIated district policy. Making things far worse for them was that my wife was in the running for an open administrative position, and everyone knew that she was more or less guaranteed the job and the major pay raise that came with it. She had just finished her master’s degree in school administration, at the urging of her principal and the superintendent, so that she could be promoted to this specific position.
I had plenty of evidence of the affair – texts from both of them admitting to it, text records showing that they were texting hundreds of times a day, emails to and from the therapist, etc. I considered simply emailing all of the evidence to the Board and the superintendent, but felt like I, as the grieving, betrayed spouse, might not be seen as a credible source.
So instead, I invented a fictitious “furious friend” who was planning on showing up to the next Board meeting and publicly shaming the two of them for their affair. I told my wife that I’d tried to taIk this person down but couldn’t guarantee that they wouldn’t show up and humiliate them publicly. As I expected, this led Shithead to conclude that the only option was for him to preemptively admit the affair to the Board. The superintendent subsequently recommended that Shithead resign, which he did. Sarah said that he was utterly humiliated and crushed, and barely got out of bed for a few days afterward.
Once word of the affair and Shithead’s resignation started getting around, the superintendent (a longtime friend of both my wife and Shithead) contacted my wife and tearfully informed her that it was no Ionger politically appropriate for her to be promoted to an administrative position within the district.
The position that had been lined up for her was later filled by an outside candidate. This sent waves of confusion and rumor throughout the district, as it was pretty well-known that my wife was getting the job. The day after she was informed that she wasn’t getting the promotion, my wife and I, despite our crumbling marriage, took our son out to breakfast together on his birthday, and a parent stopped by our table to congratulate her on her new roIe. She said thanks, then excused herself to go cry in the bathroom for a while.
I let the dust settle for a couple of weeks, and then, right before my wife moved out, let them in on my little secret – there was never a “furious friend” threatening to expose them in the first place. Just me.
Word of all of this has gotten around our fairly small town, which Shithead grew up in and my wife has worked in for nearly 20 years. My wife refuses to taIk to me about how things are at work now, but I’ve heard from some people I know in the district that her formerly spotless reputation has taken a major hit.
Shithead, formerly a gregarious social presence in our neighborhood and at events and pubs in town, has completely gone underground and barely emerges to mow his lawn. He’s moving out soon, to a shitty little townhouse which is all he can afford due to all the child support he’s going to have to pay his wife.
My wife and Shithead claim that they plan on trying to make things work together, despite all the public humiliation. I wish them lots of Iuck with that. I’m sure it will be a lot of fun to show their faces together in town.
My Husband Gifted Me Money for Breast Implants and a Nasty Note for My Birthday—I Taught Him a Harsh Lesson
On the morning of my supposed surgery, I left the house with a bright smile. “Wish me luck,” I said, giving Jack a kiss. He hugged me tightly, whispering, “You’re going to look incredible, Nikkie. This is going to change everything.”
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“You’re right,” I said, a steely edge to my voice that he didn’t catch. “It will.”
Instead of heading to a clinic, I pampered myself at a luxurious spa. I indulged in a facial, a massage, and a leisurely lunch, savoring the freedom and self-love that Jack’s “gift” had inadvertently afforded me. Meanwhile, I had arranged for a locksmith to change the locks on our house. Enough was enough.
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When I returned home, the sight of Jack’s car in the driveway filled me with a strange calm. The time had come. He walked in, his eyes scanning for the dramatic change he expected.
Instead, he found the locks changed and his belongings neatly packed in boxes by the door. I stood there, holding the envelope with the remaining money and a new note.
Jack’s face fell. “Nikkie, what’s going on?”
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I handed him the envelope. “Here’s your upgrade,” I said, my voice steady and cold. “It’s time you find someone who meets YOUR standards.”
“Nikkie, please, let’s talk about this,” he stammered, his voice breaking with confusion and regret.
I crossed my arms, maintaining my steely resolve. “There’s nothing to talk about, Jack. You made it clear what you think of me.”
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He stepped closer, desperation etched in every line of his face. “I’m sorry, Nikkie. I didn’t mean it like that. I just thought… I thought it would make you happier, more confident.”
“More confident?” I echoed, incredulous. “You think reducing me to a pair of implants would make me happier? Confident? Jack, what you did was cruel and shallow.” Tears welled up in his eyes. “I messed up. I see that now. I love you, Nikkie, just the way you are. I was an idiot for suggesting otherwise.”
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I shook my head, the memories of his hurtful comments flashing through my mind. “You loved an idea of me that fit some twisted standard, not the real me. I deserve someone who loves me for who I am, not for some unrealistic image.”
Jack sank to his knees, pleading. “Please, Nikkie, give me another chance. I’ll do anything. I’ll go to counseling, I’ll change. Just don’t leave me.” I felt a pang of sympathy, but I knew it wasn’t enough. His words and his actions had cut too deep. “Jack, I’ve already given you so many chances. This is beyond repair. I need to move on, and so do you.”
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He clung to my hand, his grip desperate. “I can’t lose you. You’re my everything.” I gently pulled my hand away, my heart firm despite the ache. “You already lost me when you stopped seeing me for who I am. Goodbye, Jack.”
As he gathered his things, a strange calm washed over me. The weight of his expectations lifted, and I felt a freedom I hadn’t known in months. The best part? The gym had become my sanctuary.
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I made new friends, got fitter, and felt better about myself. My mornings were filled with sweat and laughter, not the silent resentment that had plagued me for months.
Jack’s life, on the other hand, took a nosedive. He tried to win me back, sending flowers and heartfelt letters, but I was done. My resolve was unshakeable. No amount of groveling could erase the months of pain and insecurity he had inflicted.
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Eventually, Jack ended up moving in with his mom for a while, drowning in regret and isolation. The last I heard, he was still single and miserable, a stark contrast to the confident man who once belittled me for not fitting his superficial ideals.
As for me, life has never been better. The gym, initially a place of solace, has become my haven. Each morning, I wake up excited to push my limits, not to meet anyone’s standards but my own. I feel stronger, physically and emotionally than I ever did in my years with Jack.
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I’ve also started dating again. This time, I’ve found someone who loves me for who I am, not for some unrealistic image of perfection. We laugh together, support each other, and most importantly, he appreciates me just as I am. It’s a refreshing and empowering experience to be with someone who values the real me.
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Reflecting on my journey, I realize how far I’ve come. Jack’s cruel gift was a catalyst, a turning point that forced me to reassess my self-worth and take control of my happiness. It wasn’t easy, and there were moments when the pain felt unbearable. But in the end, it made me stronger and more confident in who I am.
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The lesson here is profound and universal: Don’t let anyone dictate your worth or make you feel less than perfect. Society, media, and sometimes even the people closest to us, can impose unrealistic standards that chip away at our self-esteem.
It’s crucial to recognize your intrinsic value and to stand firm against anyone or anything that tries to diminish it. Take control of your life and happiness.
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It’s easy to fall into the trap of seeking validation from others, especially those we love. But true contentment comes from within, from embracing who you are and making choices that align with your values and dreams.
To anyone reading this, remember: you are enough just as you are. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Life is too short to live under the shadow of someone else’s expectations. Embrace your uniqueness, nurture your strengths, and pursue your passions. The right people will love you for who you are.
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In the end, it’s your life to live. Make it count, make it joyful, and never settle for less than you deserve. The journey to self-love and empowerment might be challenging, but it’s undoubtedly worth every step. Stay strong, stay true to yourself, and never let anyone dim your light.
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While Nikkie found the courage to face Jack and reclaim her self-worth, here is another story of a husband who pokes fun at his wife’s wrinkles and gray hair until he sees her on TV.
This tale explores the journey of a woman whose confidence was eroded by her husband’s constant jabs at her aging appearance. Little did he know, his world would be turned upside down when he saw her on TV with a famous Hollywood star.
This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.
The author and publisher make no claims to the accuracy of events or the portrayal of characters and are not liable for any misinterpretation. This story is provided “as is,” and any opinions expressed are those of the characters and do not reflect the views of the author or publisher.
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