A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.
Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.
Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.
Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.
Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.
A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”
Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.
While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?
Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”
With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.
There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).
A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.
Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.
Bless!
The neighbors noticed this man digging huge holes and filling soil sacks in the backyard
In the summer of 2020, Alex Dodman, a resident of Essex, UK, embarked on an ambitious venture: transforming his backyard into a swimming pool oasis. Having recently moved into a new property with his partner, Sarah, the couple faced a project that demanded both attention and skill.
With a keen eye for cost-effective solutions, Alex scoured Facebook for most of the project’s components, managing to save substantial sums compared to hiring professional contractors. From material transport to renting a digger and excavating the site, Alex took charge of every aspect of the project.
Putting his DIY skills to the test, Alex also handled the tiling and plumbing, significantly reducing the overall remodeling cost to approximately $10,000, merely a fraction of the traditional expense. Alex’s determination and hard work paid off as he successfully achieved his goal of providing his family with a private retreat. However, Alex’s latest undertaking surpasses all previous projects.
Having moved in with his fiancée, Sarah, their two children, Allie and Eddie, Alex has embarked on the complete reconstruction of their family home. Demonstrating his proficiency as a DIY enthusiast, he previously saved £75,000 by creating a home theater and gym. Now, his sights are set on an even more ambitious project, building a house for his family.
Alex’s dream of having a swimming pool in his garden inspired him to become an amateur builder. Identifying an area in need of attention, he delved into extensive research to understand the entire construction process. With meticulous planning and a comprehensive understanding of tools and methods, Alex set out to turn his dream into reality.
Though he initially believed creating a pool would be a straightforward task, Alex encountered unforeseen challenges after acquiring the necessary materials. Overcoming obstacles required time, energy, and financial investment, as well as the application of complex problem-solving skills. Undeterred, Alex persevered through the hurdles imposed by the unexpected, ultimately realizing his goal of establishing an enticing sanctuary in his garden.
Motivated by a YouTube video depicting a woman building a pool in Holland, Alex pushed forward despite delays caused by the unavoidable disruptions of Covid. He sourced materials with his own hands, leveled the land in meticulous preparation, and tackled every aspect of the construction process. Through unwavering dedication and hard work, Alex proudly claims: “I did every last part of it all by myself”.
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