Now don’t get me wrong, she wasn’t annoying me because I was a mean mother-in-law (MIL) who hated her. But because of her selfish question. It seemed I was expected to always be around. “I am going on a vacation to the Bahamas. I already bought the tickets and booked myself at a lovely hotel.”
My son and DIL exchanged surprised looks before staring at me as if I’d grown a second head. “This is so unlike you, mom. Who are you going with?” I rolled my eyes at George’s response. He’d somehow forgotten that before he had kids, I was jetsetting every few months!
“That’s not true my love. I used to travel all the time when my time was mine,” I replied a bit irritated. I couldn’t believe how clueless he’d become when it came to my life. “Well, where are we going to get someone to babysit the kids for free every day?”
I realized at that moment that I’d spoiled these two. “Your parents are a start, Sarah. Arrange play dates with your friends’ children or something, I don’t know,” I said in frustration. Why was I the one who had to figure out what THEY did with their own children?
It dawned on me how much I had made them dependent on me. It wasn’t my intention, I think I took the Gam-Gam role a bit too far, and I so loved my little munchkins! They gave me so much to live for. But I was tired and needed a break.
Without waiting for their response, which I anticipated would make me angry, I turned to leave. “I will send you the details of when I leave, where I’ll be staying, and when I’ll return. Toodles!” I heard them falling over themselves as they tried to catch up to my quick stride.
They were LITERALLY trying to get ME to tell THEM what to do with their children! But I was having none of it and quickly closed the door before rushing to my car and driving away. Yes, I felt like I was escaping and running away from my responsibilities and I HATED that feeling!
When I arrived home, my DIL had left several voice messages that I had no intention of listening to. My therapist was the one who made me realize I was overworked and needed some time off. I was oblivious to that as I continued stretching myself to my limits.
She, my therapist, knocked it into my head that I was overcompensating by trying to be the best MIL and grandmother while losing myself. I stuck to my promise and sent George and Sarah all the details of my travels as a courtesy.
The next few weeks were filled with Sarah trying to convince me to leave with the kids. When she wasn’t trying to do that, she tried to get me to stay and not leave. “I need to do this for ME, Sarah. You won’t understand,” I explained, trying to get her off my back.
If my DIL wasn’t the one pestering me, my son got in on it. But with the words of my therapist playing in my head, “Stick to your guns. You are doing this for YOUR well-being,” I remained resolute in my decision.
When the fateful day came, I announced my departure to my son and left. For two glorious days on vacation, I had nothing but massages, long beach walks, drank piña coladas, and enjoyed the sunsets!
On the third day, my mood was spoiled when I suddenly received a disturbing message from my DIL. “George is on his business trip, my parents have house repairs, and I’m going on MY retreat,” her text began.
“And you know what? It’s in the Bahamas!! Isn’t it amazing? We’re already boarding, I need you to watch the kiddos!” Annoyed is an understatement for what I was feeling! I couldn’t understand, so HER parents have repairs, and I have a vacation, so I can babysit the kids?!
I was MAD AS HELL! I was practically seething! This time I leaned on my own faculties and decided to teach her a lesson on mutual respect. When they pitched, I was my usual affectionate self to my grandbabies and hugged and kissed them.
I then spent an hour bonding with the pair while Sarah mumbled about how SHE had to MEDITATE tomorrow. But the next day, I got an irritated call from her. “WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON? WHERE ARE YOU?!” she had the nerve to demand.
All calm and relaxed as I had anticipated that type of response, I answered, “I’m at the spa, getting a massage. Why do you ask?” Sounding more frustrated, my DIL replied, “Why would you not answer your phone?!”
“The kids have been driving ME crazy, and I need a break!” I had finally had enough of her nonsense and took a deep breath before responding. “I hear you talking about what YOU need and want, but have you asked ME what my plans are?”
“Has it even occurred to YOU to find out if I WANT to babysit during MY vacation and time away?” I heard her gasp as she tried cutting in all respectful this time, saying, “Mrs. Thomas, I…” But I cut her off and continued my rant.
“Do you know what I am doing here, huh? Do you even CARE?” My voice went up a notch. “You receive what you deserve, Sarah. And maybe it’s time for YOU and George to learn a lesson about respect!”
My DIL was stunned into silence. She realized for the first time in two years the depth of her imposition. Her voice had softened as she stammered, “I… I didn’t think… I just assumed…”
I wasn’t done with her as I replied, “That’s exactly the problem we have, you assumed and KEEP assuming. I love my grandkids, but I also NEED my own time.”
“This was MY vacation. It’s time I took off so I can recuperate and have some self-care.” I could hear from the silence on the other side that Sarah was feeling guilty. She was FINALLY understanding where I was coming from.
“I’ve given you and Georgie two long years of my love and dedication.” I shared how I’d stretched myself because I wanted to be a good MIL and grandmother. I also wanted to be there for them as they transitioned into parenthood.
But then I went too far as they kept demanding more and more of my time. I confessed to my DIL that I started feeling burnt out. Yet, because I hadn’t felt the feeling before, I didn’t realize what was happening to me.
A friend I confided in suggested I see her therapist. That’s when it finally clicked that I was wearing myself thin. I was quite upset as I ended my rant by stating, “Next time, respect MY plans and ask, don’t just assume I’m here to serve your convenience!”
Sarah paused for a long time on the other end of the line and I was about to say something when she finally sighed. It appeared she finally understood the weight of my words and where I was coming from.
“You’re right. I’m sorry. I should have asked. I’ll make other arrangements,” my DIL replied, sounding defeated. I won’t lie, I felt a tinge of regret for how I approached things, but decided it was something that had to be done.
After all, as they say, people treat the way you teach them to. I thanked her for understanding. “Now, I’m going to enjoy the rest of my vacation. I suggest you find a way to enjoy yours too, without relying on me.”
I didn’t wait for a response before hanging up and felt the most serene wave of satisfaction! I had stood up for myself and drew boundaries that taught my DIL a valuable life lesson! I happily returned to my massage, content that I would not be disturbed anymore.
I felt the stress melt away from my body as the masseuse kneaded longstanding knots that had built up over the years. I was pleased to know that I had managed to reclaim my well-deserved break.
Unfortunately, Mrs. Thomas isn’t the only person who’s had to take measures to teach people important lessons. Mark’s mother kept nagging his pregnant wife to the point that the younger woman had to leave. Not wanting his mother to miss her mistake, Mark found a clever way to teach the parent about respect and boundaries.
Let’s find out who is lefthanded!
Have you ever wondered how to spot a left-handed person in a group of people just by observing their actions? It may seem easy at first, but when it comes to analyzing small details, many people struggle to find the correct answer.
In this intriguing puzzle, we have a group of individuals engaged in different activities—a chef, a computer user, a cleaner, a waitress, a photographer, and even a squirrel! The challenge is simple: Can you identify the left-handed person just by looking at their actions?
Take a close look at the image and test your observation skills. Let’s break it down step by step and see if you can get the correct answer!
Common Mistakes People Make in This Puzzle
At first glance, many people jump to conclusions too quickly, assuming that the hand holding an object determines whether a person is left-handed or right-handed. However, hand dominance is more complex than that! Here are some common errors people make when solving this puzzle:
- Assuming that the hand currently in use is the dominant hand – Some people use both hands for different tasks, so just because someone holds an object in one hand doesn’t mean it’s their dominant hand.
- Ignoring how objects are being held – A left-handed person might hold a tray in their right hand while using their left hand for more precise actions, such as serving.
- Focusing only on a single task – Some people might appear to use their right hand more often, but their overall posture and habits might indicate left-handedness.
- Forgetting that some tasks require both hands – Writing or using a mouse might be a clear indicator of hand dominance, but tasks like sweeping or using a camera require both hands, making it trickier to determine.
With these common mistakes in mind, let’s analyze each character in the image and find the true left-hander!
Video : Puzzles: Test Your Logical Reasoning: Guess who is Left Handed?
Breaking Down Each Character’s Actions
Now, let’s carefully examine each person in the image and determine which hand they seem to prefer.
The Chef (Chopping Vegetables)
He holds the knife in his right hand while using his left to steady the vegetables. Most right-handed chefs use the knife in their right hand, making it unlikely that he is left-handed.
Verdict: He is likely right-handed.
The Computer User (Typing at a Desk)
This person is using both hands on the keyboard, making it difficult to determine dominance. Many left-handed people still use a mouse with their right hand due to default setups.
Verdict: Unclear—could be either left-handed or right-handed.
The Cleaner (Sweeping the Floor)
He is holding the broom with both hands, making it hard to determine his dominant hand. Most right-handed people place their right hand on top and left hand lower when sweeping, while left-handers may do the opposite. Without clear positioning, it’s hard to say for sure.
Verdict: Unclear, but he could be right-handed.
The Photographer (Taking a Picture of the Squirrel)
She is holding the camera with both hands, which is natural for photographers. The shutter button is typically on the right side of the camera, meaning she is pressing it with her right hand. Most right-handed people use cameras in this way, making it less likely that she is left-handed.
Verdict: Most likely right-handed.
The Squirrel (Eating a Nut)
The squirrel is using both hands, which is common for animals. Unlike humans, animals don’t have hand dominance in the same way.
Verdict: The squirrel doesn’t count as left-handed or right-handed.
The Waitress (Serving Coffee)
She is holding the tray in her right hand, which is an important clue. Left-handed people often use their right hand to carry things while keeping their left hand free for more precise actions. Since she is about to serve with her left hand, this suggests she is left-handed.
Final Verdict: The waitress is left-handed!
Why the Waitress is the Left-Handed Person in the Puzzle
There’s a simple trick to identifying left-handed people in real life: They tend to use their right hand for support and their left hand for actions requiring precision.
In this case:
- She holds the tray with her right hand to keep it stable.
- She serves with her left hand, which suggests that’s her dominant hand.
Most right-handed people would naturally do the opposite—holding the tray with their left hand and serving with their right hand.
This small but important detail reveals her true handedness, making her the left-hander in this puzzle!
Video : Who is left handed
Encouraging Readers to Engage: Did You Get the Right Answer?
Now that you’ve gone through the step-by-step analysis, did you get the answer correct? Was your first guess right, or did you change your mind after reading the breakdown?
Share your thoughts in the comments!
- Who did you think was the left-hander before reading the explanation?
- Did you notice any other small details that might indicate handedness?
- Do you have any fun tricks for spotting left-handed people in everyday life?
Solving puzzles like this is a great way to sharpen your observation skills. If you enjoyed this challenge, try analyzing people around you in real life—you might be surprised by what you notice!
Keep testing your brain with more fun puzzles, and stay curious!
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