There are moments in life when someone you helped raise looks at you like you’re nothing but a burden. That’s what happened when my granddaughter told me I wasn’t welcome at her wedding because I didn’t “fit in.” What she didn’t know was, I had a gift planned for her… one she’d never see.
I’m Goldie, 65, and I’ve never been one for fancy things. My little house on Willow Lane has mismatched furniture and faded curtains that have seen better days. But what it lacks in luxury, it makes up for in memories. The walls have heard laughter, tears, and the pitter-patter of little feet… especially those of my granddaughters, Emily and Rachel.
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When their parents’ marriage fell apart, I stepped in. Not because anyone asked me to but because that’s what grandmothers do. I was there for every fever, nightmare, and science project. I clapped until my hands hurt at dance recitals and softball games.
I wasn’t just a grandmother… I became their safe place.
Rachel was always the quiet one… thoughtful and watching everything with those big brown eyes. Emily was my firecracker… bold and bright, demanding the world’s attention.
I loved them both fiercely and differently, but equally.
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“Grandma, look!” Emily burst through my front door one Tuesday afternoon, her left hand extended, a diamond catching the light. “Jake proposed last night!”
My heart swelled as I pulled her into a hug. “Oh, sweetheart, that’s wonderful!”
“I can’t believe it,” she squealed, bouncing on her toes. “We’re thinking June for the wedding. And I need your help, Grandma. You know I’ve always wanted everything to be perfect.”
“Anything, sweetie. Whatever you need.”
Her eyes lit up. “Really? Because I found this dress…”
“Anything for you.”
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The bridal boutique smelled of vanilla and expensive fabric when I entered the following evening. Emily emerged from the dressing room in a cloud of white, her face glowing.
“What do you think?” she whispered, smoothing down the intricate lace.
I felt tears spring to my eyes. The price tag peeking out read $4,000… more than I’d ever spent on myself for anything. But the way she looked at her reflection like she was finally seeing her dreams materialize… that was worth every penny and more.
“It’s perfect,” I said, reaching for my checkbook. “Absolutely perfect.”
Emily threw her arms around me. “You’re the best, Grandma. I don’t know what I’d do without you.”
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As weeks turned into months, my savings dwindled. The makeup artist she wanted was booked for a fashion show in Milan but we could squeeze her in for a premium. The shoes had to be custom-dyed to match exactly the shade of ivory in her dress. Each time, I nodded and wrote another check.
“June 15th,” Emily announced one evening over dinner. “We’ve set the date.”
I nearly dropped my fork. “The fifteenth? But that’s—”
“I know, I know,” she cut in, waving her hand dismissively. “It’s your birthday. But the venue was available, and it’s perfect. You don’t mind, right? It’ll make it even more special.”
I forced a smile. “Of course not, sweetie. It’ll be the best birthday present ever.”
She beamed, already scrolling through her phone to show me more details. On the day of my precious granddaughter’s wedding, I’d be turning 65, a milestone I wanted to celebrate together.
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“Do you want me to help with the invitations?” I asked.
Emily looked up. “Oh, don’t worry about that. I’ve got it all under control.”
***
June arrived in a burst of sunshine and wildflowers. I spent the morning of the fifteenth carefully applying makeup, trying to cover the signs of age that seemed to deepen by the day.
I chose a lovely dress that Rachel once said brought out the green in my eyes, and fastened my mother’s pearls around my neck. I had to look amazing on my granddaughter’s big day.
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“You look beautiful, Grandma,” Rachel said from my doorway. She’d come early to drive me to the venue… a restored barn in the countryside that Emily had fallen in love with.
“Think so?” I smoothed down the jacket. “Not too old-fashioned?”
“Nope!”
***
When we arrived at the barn, it was already buzzing with activity. Florists arranged centerpieces while caterers bustled around with trays of appetizers. Emily was in one of the side rooms that had been converted into a bridal suite.
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I knocked softly before entering. “Emily?”
She turned, resplendent in the dress I’d purchased, her hair swept up elegantly. For a moment, I saw the little girl who used to crawl into my lap for stories.
“You look stunning, sweetheart,” I whispered.
Emily’s smile faltered as her eyes swept over me and her brow furrowed. “Grandma, why are you all dressed up?”
“For the wedding, of course.”
She laughed as she fixed her shoe. “Wait… you thought you were coming to the ceremony?”
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“I… yes. I assumed…”
Emily’s eyes narrowed. “But you never got an invitation.”
“I thought it was an oversight, dear. With all the planning…”
She crossed her arms. “It wasn’t a mistake, Grandma. This day is for my friends… people MY AGE. I didn’t want some elderly presence killing the vibe, you know?”
The word “elderly” hit me like a slap. I’d helped raise this child, had held her through heartbreaks, and celebrated her victories. And she didn’t want me at her… wedding?
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“Besides,” she continued, examining her manicure, “it’s going to be loud and wild. Definitely not your scene. I figured you’d understand.”
I couldn’t find my voice and the room seemed to shrink around me.
Rachel, who had been silent by the door, suddenly stepped forward. “Are you serious right now, Em? She bought your dress. She paid for half of this wedding!”
“So what? That doesn’t mean she gets to crash it.”
Crash it? As if I were some unwelcome stranger.
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“Come on, Grandma,” Rachel said, taking my hand. “We’re leaving. You don’t deserve this.”
I let her lead me out, my legs moving mechanically. Behind us, I heard Emily call out to her wedding planner about some last-minute detail, already moving on.
“I’m so sorry,” Rachel whispered as we reached the car. “I had no idea she would do that.”
I stared out the window as we drove away from the barn, past the arriving guests in their summer finery. “It’s okay,” I lied. “It’s her day.”
“No. It’s not okay, Grandma. And I have a better idea for today.”
“What is it, dear?”
“You’ll see.”
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The restaurant Rachel took me to was nothing like the rustic wedding venue. It was small and elegant, with white tablecloths and candles casting a warm glow over everything.
“Happy birthday,” she said as the waiter brought us menus. “I made these reservations weeks ago. I knew that even with the wedding, we needed to celebrate you.”
I tried to smile, but my lips trembled. “Oh, sweetie… you didn’t have to do that.”
“Yes, I did.” Rachel reached across the table and squeezed my hand. “You’ve been there for every single one of my birthdays. Did you think I’d forget yours?”
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After we ordered, she handed me a small, carefully wrapped box. Inside was a vintage brooch… a delicate silver locket with intricate filigree that I’d admired in an antique shop downtown months ago.
“I remembered you looking at it, Grandma. You never buy nice things for yourself, so I wanted to.”
The tears I’d been holding back all day finally spilled over. “It’s beautiful, honey.”
We ate and talked, and for a while, I almost forgot about the morning’s humiliation. As we were finishing dessert, a chocolate cake with a single candle that Rachel had specially ordered, I made a decision.
“Rachel,” I said, reaching into my purse. “I had a wedding gift prepared for Emily. But after today… I want you to have it instead.”
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I pulled out an envelope and slid it across the table. Rachel opened it, her eyes widening as she saw the deed inside.
“Grandma, this is your house!” she whispered. “You can’t give me your house.”
I covered her hand with mine. “I can, and I want to. I’m getting older, and that place is too big for me now. I was going to give it to Emily, but… I want it to go to someone who sees me as a person and not just a checkbook.”
“But this is too much,” Rachel protested, tears filling her eyes.
“It’s not enough, dear. Not for what you’ve given me today.”
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The next morning, I was in my kitchen making tea when the front door burst open with such force that the pictures on the wall rattled.
Emily stormed in, her makeup smeared. She looked wild and unhinged.
“Where is it?” she demanded, her voice echoing through the house. “Where’s my wedding gift?”
I set my teacup down carefully. “Good morning to you too, Emily.”
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“Don’t!” She jabbed a finger toward me. “Rachel told me what you did. The house… you were going to give me this house! You promised!”
“I never promised you anything. And yesterday, you made it very clear where I stand in your life.”
“That’s not fair! You can’t punish me for wanting one day to be about me and not you!”
“Is that what you think happened? That I wanted to steal your spotlight?”
“You’re just bitter because you’re old and alone! And now you’re trying to turn Rachel against me!”
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Rachel appeared in the doorway, her face pale. “Em, stop. You’re being horrible.”
“Oh, shut up,” Emily snarled. “You’ve always been jealous of me. And now you’ve manipulated Grandma into giving you the house that was supposed to be mine!”
I placed my palms flat on the counter, steadying myself. “Emily, look at me.”
She did, her eyes blazing.
“You had no space for me at your wedding. So I found I had no space for you in my gift. It’s that simple.”
“But you paid for everything!” she cried. “My dress, my shoes, the stylist—”
“Yes. Because I love you. But love isn’t just about giving things, Emily. It’s about seeing people. And yesterday, you looked right through me.”
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Emily’s lips trembled. For a moment, I thought I glimpsed regret in her eyes. But then she drew herself up, her shoulders squared.
“Fine,” she hissed. “Keep your stupid house. Give it to the golden child. See if I care.”
She stormed out, the door slamming behind her with finality.
Rachel and I stood in silence for a long moment.
“Thank you, Grandma. For seeing me,” she said.
I pulled her into a hug.
“No, darling. Thank you… for letting me be seen.”
As I held her, I realized something important: Family isn’t always about blood or history. Sometimes, it’s simply about who chooses to stay when they have every reason to walk away. And in that choice, we find out who we really are.
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Dolly Parton ‘Bathed Once a Week’ & Lived in Shack with Family of 14 — Now Donates Millions to Those in Need
\Dolly Parton has maintained her modesty throughout her extraordinary career as a performer, businesswoman, and philanthropist, while accumulating enormous recognition and wealth. Success has unsurprisingly followed her throughout her journey.
Parton knows the hardships of poverty having grown up in a large family. Despite her success as a hugely important Hollywood actress today, she has never forgotten her lowly roots.
In Nashville, Tennessee, in 1955, Dolly Parton posed for a picture. | Source: Getty Images
The genuine Dolly Rebecca Parton, the music icon, was welcomed home by her parents on January 19, 1946, at their home on Locust Ridge in Sevierville, Tennessee. She has eleven siblings and was born in a one-bedroom cottage.
Her father, sharecropper Robert Lee Parton, worked in construction to augment his income because he was unable to attend school and was hence illiterate.
The legendary country singer grew up surrounded by music because of her family’s strong musical heritage. Despite their challenging living conditions, singing brought them together and brought them joy.
In 1965, in Nashville, Tennessee, Dolly Parton posed for a picture. | Source: Getty Images
Parton learned to sing from her mother, the entertainer Avie Lee Owens. She played her a variety of melodies, including Elizabethan ballads and church hymns that had been passed down through the years in her family.
Parton’s grandfather, Jake Robert Owens, composed the hymn “Singing His Praise” while serving as a priest. A number of Parton’s siblings developed a passion for music, and a few of them participated in her family band.
Sam Owens, a musician and singer-songwriter in his own right, was another uncle of Parton. When she was a little child, her uncle—who loved music—was the first to see that she had the ability to become a well-known musician.
Stella Mae, Cassie Nan, the twins Freida Estelle and Rachel Ann, Willadeene, David Wilburn, Coy Denver, Bobby Lee, Robert, and Larry are among Parton’s siblings. After a fight with cancer, Robert passed away in 2021, while Larry passed away at birth.
Parton often assisted her parents in taking care of the younger children because she was the fourth of her twelve siblings. She shared a little roof with her family.
Their log cottage had no running water or electricity at the time, and it only had a living room and one bedroom. The building is still standing today.
Parton has never shied away from talking about her modest upbringing or how it shaped the way she saw the world. She knows what it’s like to be poor; she grew up in a huge household with little money.
In a promotional picture for her 1984 movie “Rhinestone,” Dolly Parton beams. | Source: Getty Images
Parton talked back to The Guardian in 2016 on her early years spent in the remote Tennessee highlands, emphasizing the happy memories from that time in her life. She stated:
“Obviously, there were problems, but I would rather look back on the good times.”
She recalled the times she had spent with her siblings, singing in church, and doing household chores that she didn’t really enjoy. She also remembered all of the laughs she had with her family in the past.
Parton talked about how her siblings would always sing and how she would always attempt to get them to back her up when she pretended to be the lead vocalist on stage, but they would never show any interest.
Parton remembered that her brothers would frequently cram themselves into their small home, which resulted in a lot of mocking and fighting. But they remained a family through all of the turmoil.
The cottage was too small for them to comfortably hang out in, she said, so they spent most of their time outside. The courtyard functioned as an addition for socializing over meals, entertainment, and games.
Parton stated that her family was constantly appreciative of their access to food and a roof. Her parents consistently stressed that other families suffered more than their own, even though it was not exactly what they desired. She remembered:
“I never felt poor, even though we were.”
Parton’s enthusiasm and musical ability would ultimately enable her to become one of the most popular and successful country music artists of all time, despite her family’s humble beginnings.
Growing Up in Poverty
Parton said that although she had happy childhood memories, being poor meant having to endure difficult living circumstances. She and her 14-member family essentially lived in a shanty and had little access to needs.
She revealed that she was just eight years old when she first saw a toilet and bathroom in her aunt’s house and was attracted by them in a March 1978 Playboy magazine interview with journalist Lawrence Grobel.
Parton revealed that she and her siblings were terrified to use the restroom because they believed it would swallow them up, while laughing at how naive and innocent they were at the time. “It was just very strange,” she remembered.
For Parton and her family, taking a daily shower was not an extravagance. Frequently, they would produce their own soap, and occasionally, they would cram themselves into the truck and head to the river to have a bath.
Although there was a brook close by, they all chose to bathe in the river since it served as their “big bath.” As their homemade soap cascaded down the river, they would swim together and give each other’s hair a bath.
Parton compared their river bath to a “bathtub,” jokeing about how filthy they were back then and how it would have left a ring around the Little Pigeon River. For them, taking a river bath was a midsummer rite.
Every member of the household would have a pan of water to wash as much as possible in the winter. Parton answered Grobel’s question about how frequently she and her family took winter baths by saying:
“Well, as the saying goes, we bathed once a week whether we needed to or not.”
Parton started to value bathing more after she started high school. She would bathe every night because her younger siblings would not wash their hands before bed. She disclosed:
The children urinated on me each night. In the bed, we slept three and four. Every night, I would wash. The kids would also wet on me as soon as I went to bed, so I would have to get up in the morning and repeat the entire process.”
On November 5, 2019, in New York City, Dolly Parton is present at the We Are Family Foundation event held at Hammerstein Ballroom. | Found via Getty Images
Parton was not hesitant to express her opinions, explaining that while getting peed on would seem unhygienic to some, the urine actually provided some warmth during the winter.
She remembered how cold it would get at home because she lived in the mountains, and she even mentioned that it was almost enjoyable to get pissed on because the room was just as cold as the outside. They would all curl up in bed, she claimed.
distributing millions
Parton has said that her family is wealthy and content in other ways, despite their lack of material wealth. She became humble as she grew older, and even after becoming wealthy, she never stopped helping those in need, just like her family had done when she was younger. She said:
“My greatest love will always be my family.” Although it might occasionally get lost in the shuffle, family is a part of all I do.
Parton claimed that her family was the inspiration behind her music and that her theme park, Dollywood, and one of its acts, Dixie Stampede, are meant to be places where families can enjoy themselves and spend quality time together.
Parton is a self-made millionaire, with a projected net worth of $375 million in 2022 according to Forbes. Her theme park and ownership rights to music publishing were the main sources of her financial success.
In the 1970s, she refused to share the critically praised song “I Will Always Love You” with Elvis Presley, one of the nearly 3,000 songs that she is in ownership of. When Whitney Houston performed the song in the 1990s, this choice paid off.
In addition, Parton is paid a publishing fee for songs that are sold, aired, or featured in motion pictures. According to Forbes, her songs are valued at $150 million, while her royalties have brought in between $6 and $8 million.
But the source of the music icon’s enormous wealth is her well-known theme park, Dollywood, which is one of Tennessee’s most popular travel destinations. According to reports, it earns $3 million annually.
When the theme park was still known as Pigeon Forge in 1968, the country music artist made an investment in it. Later, she gave it a new name, “Dollywood,” a pun on the word “Hollywood.” There is a water park and a hotel in the park.
In addition, Parton just unveiled Doggy Parton, a pun on her well-known name, as a new business. The business, which makes apparel and toys for dogs, was founded because of her passion for animals.
Parton learned the value of sharing her accomplishment with others from her early experiences. She is a businessman and singer in addition to being involved in a number of social and humanitarian organizations and having given millions of dollars to people in need.
In order to collect $13 million for the survivors of the East Tennessee wildfires that devastated Pigeon Forge and Gatlinburg in 2016, Parton teamed together with a group of musicians.
At “Smoky Mountains Rise: A Benefit for the My People Fund,” other well-known performers included Chris Stapelton, Kenny Rogers, Lauren Alaina, Alison Krauss, Reba McEntire, Cyndi Lauper, and Chris Young.
Following her niece’s leukemia treatment at Vanderbilt University Medical Center in Nashville, Parton donated $1 million to the Monroe Carell Jr. Children’s Hospital in 2017.
Apart from extending monetary support to individuals impacted by natural calamities, Parton made a noteworthy impact on the healthcare industry through her magnanimous financial contributions.
When she gave $1 million to vaccine research in 2020 amid the global COVID-19 pandemic, which affected people all over the world, she made headlines. Her input was useful in developing the Moderna vaccine.
Parton’s unwavering commitment to advancing early childhood literacy is another well-known quality. Each month, she provides over a million youngsters with free books through her nonprofit initiative, Imagination Library.
In order to assist kids in learning to read and write, Parton and Robert Lee established a non-profit organization in 1995, drawing inspiration from her father’s personal experience with illiteracy. Although it began in eastern Tennessee, it has expanded to assist children in all 50 states as well as the District of Columbia.
Other nations, like Australia, Canada, and the United Kingdom, have also been affected by the literacy initiative. Parton announced at the Library of Congress in 2018 that the initiative has distributed its 100 millionth book.
When the campaign first began, Parton just wanted to support her father and her hometown; she had no idea it would become so popular. She said with joy, “But then it just took its own wings, and I guess it was meant to be.”
Parton was also pleased that her father was quite proud of having contributed something valuable. Before he died in 2000, he had the opportunity to witness the results of their labor.
Her goals for the Imagination Library are also very lofty. She acknowledged having lofty goals and wishing to donate one billion books in her lifetime.
Despite having a difficult upbringing, Parton never lost sight of the value of community and family. She made the most of her riches by giving millions of dollars a year to a range of humanitarian causes, such as health, education, and disaster relief.
Her lowly beginnings instilled in her the virtues of perseverance, hard effort, and the unifying power of music. She also recalls the love, laughter, and happiness that characterized her childhood home and the family who stood by her side no matter what as she reflects on her life.
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