There are moments in life when someone you helped raise looks at you like you’re nothing but a burden. That’s what happened when my granddaughter told me I wasn’t welcome at her wedding because I didn’t “fit in.” What she didn’t know was, I had a gift planned for her… one she’d never see.
I’m Goldie, 65, and I’ve never been one for fancy things. My little house on Willow Lane has mismatched furniture and faded curtains that have seen better days. But what it lacks in luxury, it makes up for in memories. The walls have heard laughter, tears, and the pitter-patter of little feet… especially those of my granddaughters, Emily and Rachel.
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When their parents’ marriage fell apart, I stepped in. Not because anyone asked me to but because that’s what grandmothers do. I was there for every fever, nightmare, and science project. I clapped until my hands hurt at dance recitals and softball games.
I wasn’t just a grandmother… I became their safe place.
Rachel was always the quiet one… thoughtful and watching everything with those big brown eyes. Emily was my firecracker… bold and bright, demanding the world’s attention.
I loved them both fiercely and differently, but equally.
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“Grandma, look!” Emily burst through my front door one Tuesday afternoon, her left hand extended, a diamond catching the light. “Jake proposed last night!”
My heart swelled as I pulled her into a hug. “Oh, sweetheart, that’s wonderful!”
“I can’t believe it,” she squealed, bouncing on her toes. “We’re thinking June for the wedding. And I need your help, Grandma. You know I’ve always wanted everything to be perfect.”
“Anything, sweetie. Whatever you need.”
Her eyes lit up. “Really? Because I found this dress…”
“Anything for you.”
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The bridal boutique smelled of vanilla and expensive fabric when I entered the following evening. Emily emerged from the dressing room in a cloud of white, her face glowing.
“What do you think?” she whispered, smoothing down the intricate lace.
I felt tears spring to my eyes. The price tag peeking out read $4,000… more than I’d ever spent on myself for anything. But the way she looked at her reflection like she was finally seeing her dreams materialize… that was worth every penny and more.
“It’s perfect,” I said, reaching for my checkbook. “Absolutely perfect.”
Emily threw her arms around me. “You’re the best, Grandma. I don’t know what I’d do without you.”
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As weeks turned into months, my savings dwindled. The makeup artist she wanted was booked for a fashion show in Milan but we could squeeze her in for a premium. The shoes had to be custom-dyed to match exactly the shade of ivory in her dress. Each time, I nodded and wrote another check.
“June 15th,” Emily announced one evening over dinner. “We’ve set the date.”
I nearly dropped my fork. “The fifteenth? But that’s—”
“I know, I know,” she cut in, waving her hand dismissively. “It’s your birthday. But the venue was available, and it’s perfect. You don’t mind, right? It’ll make it even more special.”
I forced a smile. “Of course not, sweetie. It’ll be the best birthday present ever.”
She beamed, already scrolling through her phone to show me more details. On the day of my precious granddaughter’s wedding, I’d be turning 65, a milestone I wanted to celebrate together.
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“Do you want me to help with the invitations?” I asked.
Emily looked up. “Oh, don’t worry about that. I’ve got it all under control.”
***
June arrived in a burst of sunshine and wildflowers. I spent the morning of the fifteenth carefully applying makeup, trying to cover the signs of age that seemed to deepen by the day.
I chose a lovely dress that Rachel once said brought out the green in my eyes, and fastened my mother’s pearls around my neck. I had to look amazing on my granddaughter’s big day.
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“You look beautiful, Grandma,” Rachel said from my doorway. She’d come early to drive me to the venue… a restored barn in the countryside that Emily had fallen in love with.
“Think so?” I smoothed down the jacket. “Not too old-fashioned?”
“Nope!”
***
When we arrived at the barn, it was already buzzing with activity. Florists arranged centerpieces while caterers bustled around with trays of appetizers. Emily was in one of the side rooms that had been converted into a bridal suite.
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I knocked softly before entering. “Emily?”
She turned, resplendent in the dress I’d purchased, her hair swept up elegantly. For a moment, I saw the little girl who used to crawl into my lap for stories.
“You look stunning, sweetheart,” I whispered.
Emily’s smile faltered as her eyes swept over me and her brow furrowed. “Grandma, why are you all dressed up?”
“For the wedding, of course.”
She laughed as she fixed her shoe. “Wait… you thought you were coming to the ceremony?”
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“I… yes. I assumed…”
Emily’s eyes narrowed. “But you never got an invitation.”
“I thought it was an oversight, dear. With all the planning…”
She crossed her arms. “It wasn’t a mistake, Grandma. This day is for my friends… people MY AGE. I didn’t want some elderly presence killing the vibe, you know?”
The word “elderly” hit me like a slap. I’d helped raise this child, had held her through heartbreaks, and celebrated her victories. And she didn’t want me at her… wedding?
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“Besides,” she continued, examining her manicure, “it’s going to be loud and wild. Definitely not your scene. I figured you’d understand.”
I couldn’t find my voice and the room seemed to shrink around me.
Rachel, who had been silent by the door, suddenly stepped forward. “Are you serious right now, Em? She bought your dress. She paid for half of this wedding!”
“So what? That doesn’t mean she gets to crash it.”
Crash it? As if I were some unwelcome stranger.
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“Come on, Grandma,” Rachel said, taking my hand. “We’re leaving. You don’t deserve this.”
I let her lead me out, my legs moving mechanically. Behind us, I heard Emily call out to her wedding planner about some last-minute detail, already moving on.
“I’m so sorry,” Rachel whispered as we reached the car. “I had no idea she would do that.”
I stared out the window as we drove away from the barn, past the arriving guests in their summer finery. “It’s okay,” I lied. “It’s her day.”
“No. It’s not okay, Grandma. And I have a better idea for today.”
“What is it, dear?”
“You’ll see.”
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The restaurant Rachel took me to was nothing like the rustic wedding venue. It was small and elegant, with white tablecloths and candles casting a warm glow over everything.
“Happy birthday,” she said as the waiter brought us menus. “I made these reservations weeks ago. I knew that even with the wedding, we needed to celebrate you.”
I tried to smile, but my lips trembled. “Oh, sweetie… you didn’t have to do that.”
“Yes, I did.” Rachel reached across the table and squeezed my hand. “You’ve been there for every single one of my birthdays. Did you think I’d forget yours?”
Close-up shot of a young woman reassuring an older person by holding their hands | Source: Freepik
After we ordered, she handed me a small, carefully wrapped box. Inside was a vintage brooch… a delicate silver locket with intricate filigree that I’d admired in an antique shop downtown months ago.
“I remembered you looking at it, Grandma. You never buy nice things for yourself, so I wanted to.”
The tears I’d been holding back all day finally spilled over. “It’s beautiful, honey.”
We ate and talked, and for a while, I almost forgot about the morning’s humiliation. As we were finishing dessert, a chocolate cake with a single candle that Rachel had specially ordered, I made a decision.
“Rachel,” I said, reaching into my purse. “I had a wedding gift prepared for Emily. But after today… I want you to have it instead.”
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I pulled out an envelope and slid it across the table. Rachel opened it, her eyes widening as she saw the deed inside.
“Grandma, this is your house!” she whispered. “You can’t give me your house.”
I covered her hand with mine. “I can, and I want to. I’m getting older, and that place is too big for me now. I was going to give it to Emily, but… I want it to go to someone who sees me as a person and not just a checkbook.”
“But this is too much,” Rachel protested, tears filling her eyes.
“It’s not enough, dear. Not for what you’ve given me today.”
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The next morning, I was in my kitchen making tea when the front door burst open with such force that the pictures on the wall rattled.
Emily stormed in, her makeup smeared. She looked wild and unhinged.
“Where is it?” she demanded, her voice echoing through the house. “Where’s my wedding gift?”
I set my teacup down carefully. “Good morning to you too, Emily.”
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“Don’t!” She jabbed a finger toward me. “Rachel told me what you did. The house… you were going to give me this house! You promised!”
“I never promised you anything. And yesterday, you made it very clear where I stand in your life.”
“That’s not fair! You can’t punish me for wanting one day to be about me and not you!”
“Is that what you think happened? That I wanted to steal your spotlight?”
“You’re just bitter because you’re old and alone! And now you’re trying to turn Rachel against me!”
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Rachel appeared in the doorway, her face pale. “Em, stop. You’re being horrible.”
“Oh, shut up,” Emily snarled. “You’ve always been jealous of me. And now you’ve manipulated Grandma into giving you the house that was supposed to be mine!”
I placed my palms flat on the counter, steadying myself. “Emily, look at me.”
She did, her eyes blazing.
“You had no space for me at your wedding. So I found I had no space for you in my gift. It’s that simple.”
“But you paid for everything!” she cried. “My dress, my shoes, the stylist—”
“Yes. Because I love you. But love isn’t just about giving things, Emily. It’s about seeing people. And yesterday, you looked right through me.”
Wedding accessories and outfit | Source: Pexels
Emily’s lips trembled. For a moment, I thought I glimpsed regret in her eyes. But then she drew herself up, her shoulders squared.
“Fine,” she hissed. “Keep your stupid house. Give it to the golden child. See if I care.”
She stormed out, the door slamming behind her with finality.
Rachel and I stood in silence for a long moment.
“Thank you, Grandma. For seeing me,” she said.
I pulled her into a hug.
“No, darling. Thank you… for letting me be seen.”
As I held her, I realized something important: Family isn’t always about blood or history. Sometimes, it’s simply about who chooses to stay when they have every reason to walk away. And in that choice, we find out who we really are.
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The sultry Heather Thomas of ‘The Fall Guy’ struggled with addiction – but look at her now, at 66
Known for her starring role opposite Lee Majors in The Fall Guy, Heather Thomas–who turned 66 on September 8–was poised for a hugely success Hollywood career.
But when the actor’s mother showed up on set after the show’s finale was filmed, the gorgeous blonde rushed to hospital, believing that her father had an emergency.
The family and friends who greeted her at the Santa Monica hospital let her know that her dad, Leon, was fine, and that it was her who had their concerns.
This was just the beginning of a new journey for the then 28-year-old woman, whose personal life and career completely transformed after that visit to the hospital.
Keep reading to find out what happened to the former pinup girl of the 1980s!
Gifted with the talent and natural movie star beauty that rivalled Farrah Fawcett and Heather Locklear, Heather Thomas did what she was born to do.
Playing Jody Banks, a stuntwoman-bounty hunter on the popular action show, Thomas was adored by the male population who viewed her as a sex symbol, a title which she admits to having mixed feelings.
“There’s obligatory condescension that goes with that,” Thomas told People. “You fill that archetype, the blonde bimbo. But at that point, I was just having fun.”
Unfortunately, she was having too much fun with the inclusion of drugs, a habit that started before her role as Jody Banks.
Her substance use dates to the sixth grade when she started using drugs to maintain steady top grades. Thomas said, “I was taking acid and making straight A’s. I just thought it was mind expanding.”
As her mind evolved from child to adult, so did the drugs she consumed.
At UCLA Thomas started using cocaine and in 1981, one year into her role on The Fall Guy, her drug problems escalated.
Also, feeling like she had to live up with her sex symbol title, the 5-foot-7 Thomas became obsessed with weight, and started taking Lasix, a diuretic that can cause severe lethargy.
To counteract the lethargy, she took more cocaine for a burst of energy.
“At first I was in a honeymoon stage with the drug. I felt that I was getting a lot for my money. It enabled me to stay up all night and then work all the next day,” she said, claiming that she never used cocaine on set. “Cocaine is not approved of on sets. It’s not clubby to do it anymore. It is just a private hell.”
Contrary to her claims, a source close to the actor told People that her drug use was derailing her career. “Word was out on Heather,” the source said. “People knew she had a problem.”
Thomas dropped from 125 to 105 pounds and was falling asleep between takes. Thomas admitted, “Sometimes I was in a minicoma.”
And then she passed out in front of Majors, who called her manager, who called her mother.
When the series finale of The Fall Guy wrapped, her mom, Gladdy Ryder–a former special education teacher–appeared on the set and told her daughter that her father was in hospital.
Rushing to St. John’s Hospital, the author of “Trophies” was greeted by family and friends who were ready to see her admitted into the hospital’s three-week drug program.
“It was a big relief to me,” Thomas said of that day, adding that when she checked into detox, she had pneumonia, scarred lungs and inflamed kidneys. “I’d been on a roller coaster and I wanted to get off. If my family hadn’t intervened, I probably would have gone on my merry way until I lost my job or I died.”
She added, “…The doctors said I should have been dead three years ago.”
Committed to recovery, Thomas surrounded herself with like-minded people who would benefit her goals of being drug-free. That was when Thomas, 28 at the time, met and married Allan Rosenthal, the co-founder of Cocaine Anonymous, whom she divorced in September 1986.
The same month, she suffered serious injuries to both legs when she was struck by a car while crossing the street.
After detox, divorce and surgery repair major damage in one of her legs, Thomas returned to work with smaller roles in TV series. She can also be seen in films like in Cyclone in 1987 and the 1990 Canadian film Red Blooded American Girl with Christopher Plummer.
With her troubles behind her, Thomas started new in the 1990s and while trying to revive her career, she married entertainment lawyer Skip Brittenham in 1992. Taking on the new role as the stepmother to his two daughters, Kristina and Shauna, Thomas also gave birth to her only biological child, daughter India Rose who was born in June 2000.
“So when I had about 45 restraining orders out, and I was on everything from a toilet seat cover to an ashtray–and I was in love, and [then] had two little girls–I decided to give it up and write for a while,” she told Reuters.
In 2017, Heather made a brief comeback in the movie Girltrash: All Night Long, one of her 26 acting credits in her career.
Focused mostly on writing, the Zapped! actor said it wasn’t a lack of roles that drove her from acting, but the stalkers who persistently breached her privacy.
“I was getting so stalked. I had one guy climb over the fence with a knife one time. I had these two little girls and they desperately needed raising so that was that. But I think now I have gotten so old that people won’t bother me much.”
Thomas is also now involved as an activist and formerly served on the board for the Rape Foundation and Amazon Conservation Team.
Identifying as a feminist–a duplicitous title for a former sex symbol–Thomas explained the power of both.
“When I was young, I did what people told me to do but when I was older, I didn’t compromise myself. I wanted power and freedom. This gave me a house and the notoriety to get into the door. There is nothing horrible in letting people see your body. I don’t think I betrayed myself. I don’t think being a feminist means you should be ashamed of your body,” she said.
It’s really sad that Heather Thomas was unable to revive her career in acting again but we’re happy that she got the help she needed and is now in a lifelong journey of recovery.
There are so many wonderful shows of the 1980s and we loved seeing her in the role of Jody Banks in The Fall Guy with the Six Million Dollar Man Lee Majors!
We’d love to hear what you have to say about Thomas and her recovery!
Known for her starring role opposite Lee Majors in The Fall Guy, Heather Thomas–who turned 66 on September 8–was poised for a hugely success Hollywood career.
But when the actor’s mother showed up on set after the show’s finale was filmed, the gorgeous blonde rushed to hospital, believing that her father had an emergency.
The family and friends who greeted her at the Santa Monica hospital let her know that her dad, Leon, was fine, and that it was her who had their concerns.
At only 14 the girl hosted an NBC series called Talking with a Giant, a show where she and four other teens interviewed celebrities.
Wanting to take her career to the next level–as an actor, director and writer–Thomas, now 66, then studied film and theater at UCLA, and the year before she graduated, she appeared in the short-lived comedy series, Co-Ed Fever (1979).
Heather Locklear and Heather ThomasPosted by Back to 80s on Saturday, June 5, 2021
In 1980, the Connecticut-born actor won her first leading role in the TV series, The Fall Guy, playing the sidekick to Lee Majors, who in the 1970s, gained global recognition for his performance as Steven Austin in The Six Million Dollar Man.
Playing Jody Banks, a stuntwoman-bounty hunter on the popular action show, Thomas was adored by the male population who viewed her as a sex symbol, a title which she admits to having mixed feelings.
“There’s obligatory condescension that goes with that,” Thomas told People. “You fill that archetype, the blonde bimbo. But at that point, I was just having fun.”
Unfortunately, she was having too much fun with the inclusion of drugs, a habit that started before her role as Jody Banks.
Her substance use dates to the sixth grade when she started using drugs to maintain steady top grades. Thomas said, “I was taking acid and making straight A’s. I just thought it was mind expanding.”
As her mind evolved from child to adult, so did the drugs she consumed.
At UCLA Thomas started using cocaine and in 1981, one year into her role on The Fall Guy, her drug problems escalated.
Also, feeling like she had to live up with her sex symbol title, the 5-foot-7 Thomas became obsessed with weight, and started taking Lasix, a diuretic that can cause severe lethargy.
To counteract the lethargy, she took more cocaine for a burst of energy.
“At first I was in a honeymoon stage with the drug. I felt that I was getting a lot for my money. It enabled me to stay up all night and then work all the next day,” she said, claiming that she never used cocaine on set. “Cocaine is not approved of on sets. It’s not clubby to do it anymore. It is just a private hell.”
Contrary to her claims, a source close to the actor told People that her drug use was derailing her career. “Word was out on Heather,” the source said. “People knew she had a problem.”
Thomas dropped from 125 to 105 pounds and was falling asleep between takes. Thomas admitted, “Sometimes I was in a minicoma.”
And then she passed out in front of Majors, who called her manager, who called her mother.
When the series finale of The Fall Guy wrapped, her mom, Gladdy Ryder–a former special education teacher–appeared on the set and told her daughter that her father was in hospital.
Rushing to St. John’s Hospital, the author of “Trophies” was greeted by family and friends who were ready to see her admitted into the hospital’s three-week drug program.
“It was a big relief to me,” Thomas said of that day, adding that when she checked into detox, she had pneumonia, scarred lungs and inflamed kidneys. “I’d been on a roller coaster and I wanted to get off. If my family hadn’t intervened, I probably would have gone on my merry way until I lost my job or I died.”
She added, “…The doctors said I should have been dead three years ago.”
Committed to recovery, Thomas surrounded herself with like-minded people who would benefit her goals of being drug-free. That was when Thomas, 28 at the time, met and married Allan Rosenthal, the co-founder of Cocaine Anonymous, whom she divorced in September 1986.
The same month, she suffered serious injuries to both legs when she was struck by a car while crossing the street.
After detox, divorce and surgery repair major damage in one of her legs, Thomas returned to work with smaller roles in TV series. She can also be seen in films like in Cyclone in 1987 and the 1990 Canadian film Red Blooded American Girl with Christopher Plummer.
With her troubles behind her, Thomas started new in the 1990s and while trying to revive her career, she married entertainment lawyer Skip Brittenham in 1992. Taking on the new role as the stepmother to his two daughters, Kristina and Shauna, Thomas also gave birth to her only biological child, daughter India Rose who was born in June 2000.
“So when I had about 45 restraining orders out, and I was on everything from a toilet seat cover to an ashtray–and I was in love, and [then] had two little girls–I decided to give it up and write for a while,” she told Reuters.
In 2017, Heather made a brief comeback in the movie Girltrash: All Night Long, one of her 26 acting credits in her career.
Focused mostly on writing, the Zapped! actor said it wasn’t a lack of roles that drove her from acting, but the stalkers who persistently breached her privacy.
“I was getting so stalked. I had one guy climb over the fence with a knife one time. I had these two little girls and they desperately needed raising so that was that. But I think now I have gotten so old that people won’t bother me much.”
Thomas is also now involved as an activist and formerly served on the board for the Rape Foundation and Amazon Conservation Team.
Identifying as a feminist–a duplicitous title for a former sex symbol–Thomas explained the power of both.
“When I was young, I did what people told me to do but when I was older, I didn’t compromise myself. I wanted power and freedom. This gave me a house and the notoriety to get into the door. There is nothing horrible in letting people see your body. I don’t think I betrayed myself. I don’t think being a feminist means you should be ashamed of your body,” she said.
It’s really sad that Heather Thomas was unable to revive her career in acting again but we’re happy that she got the help she needed and is now in a lifelong journey of recovery.
There are so many wonderful shows of the 1980s and we loved seeing her in the role of Jody Banks in The Fall Guy with the Six Million Dollar Man Lee Majors!
We’d love to hear what you have to say about Thomas and her recovery!
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