My Husband Insisted on Homeschooling Our Daughter — I Gasped When I Found Out Why

When Mia’s husband, Ben, suddenly starts talking about homeschooling their six-year-old daughter, Lily, she’s surprised. Months earlier, they had been talking about sending the little girl to private school. So, what changed? Mia finds out when she overhears a conversation between Ben and Lily…

This all started a few months ago at a dinner party. My husband, Ben, and I were sitting with a few friends when, out of the blue, he brought up the idea of homeschooling our daughter, Lily.

An aerial view of people at a dinner party | Source: Midjourney

An aerial view of people at a dinner party | Source: Midjourney

“It’s the system, you know? It’s too rigid, too focused on tests,” Ben said, leaning forward in his seat like he had discovered the secret to the universe.

“Kids need to be free to explore their creativity. I don’t want Lily’s imagination boxed in. She needs to feel things between her fingers and experience life,” he continued.

Ben reached forward to help himself to the bowl of mashed potatoes.

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A casserole of mashed potatoes | Source: Midjourney

Everyone at the table nodded, murmuring in agreement.

“Honestly, that’s so true,” our friend Sarah chimed in as she sipped her wine. “Schools just kill creativity. I wish I had done something different with my kids. Last year, Jasmine wanted to show off her creativity through her uniform, but they didn’t accept it at school. She got a suspension warning.”

I remember glancing at Ben, completely surprised at how passionately he was speaking. He had never once mentioned anything about homeschooling before. In fact, he had been talking about us getting our six-year-old into private school.

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A little girl in her school uniform | Source: Midjourney

But here he was, talking about homeschooling like he’d been thinking about it for years.

“We could teach her ourselves, Mia,” Ben continued, glancing over at me with a smile. “Think about it, love. No strict schedules, no standardized tests. She could learn at her own pace.”

I nodded, trying to process everything.

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A smiling man | Source: Midjourney

“Yeah, I mean, it does sound good,” I agreed. “But we need to explore all options about it first.”

I was hesitant. But I was also unsure of why I felt a slight unease creep up on me. Although when Ben spoke so passionately, it was hard not to get swept up in the dream of it all.

After that night, Ben kept bringing it up. At home, over dinner, in passing conversations, he’d make little comments all the time.

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A concerned woman | Source: Midjourney

“Lily would be so much happier if she wasn’t stuck in a classroom all day.”

“We could help her learn things that matter, Mia, not just what’s on some test.”

Eventually, I started to believe that he might be right.

Before I knew it, we had decided to pull Lily out of her school and start with the new routine of homeschooling. Ben took charge of everything.

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A little girl using a computer | Source: Midjourney

“Like the gifts we talked about? You’ll deliver them, right?”

He had always been more involved with her school meetings, so I trusted him completely. And look, at first, everything seemed to be working. Ben would sit with Lily during “school hours,” and he’d proudly show me the projects they’d worked on when I got home from work.

“I’m glad she’s happy,” I told Ben one evening when I was loading the dishwasher.

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A woman loading a dishwasher | Source: Midjourney

“She’s more than happy, Mia,” he said with a smile. “She’s thriving. Look at this! She made a solar system model all on her own.”

But then one day, I came home early from work, eager to show Lily the new set of watercolor paint I had gotten for her. I walked in quietly, not wanting to disturb whatever lesson she and Ben were doing.

And that’s when I heard Lily crying.

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A concerned woman | Source: Midjourney

“But Dad, I miss my friends!” Lily sobbed. “They probably think I don’t like them anymore. I’m sure they think we’re fighting! They’ll be so mad at me for not going to school…”

I crept closer to the dining room, which had become the classroom. And I heard Ben’s voice, low and soothing.

“Lily-girl,” he said. “I told you, we can send them little gifts, okay? They won’t be mad at you.”

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An upset little man | Source: Midjourney

Lily sniffled, but her tone lifted a little.

“Like the gifts we talked about? You’ll deliver them, right?” she said.

Deliver gifts? What on earth was my child talking about?

“Yes, darling,” he said.

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A frowning woman | Source: Midjourney

“Like when you let me come with you when Mommy had to work? You’re going to deliver my friends’ gifts just like when you bring packages to people, right?”

I froze. I tried to piece the information together before storming in and demanding answers.

Ben wasn’t homeschooling Lily out of some grand educational philosophy that he had been talking about endlessly.

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An upset little girl | Source: Midjourney

Instead, my husband was delivering packages. All those days that I thought they were doing lessons… what had really been happening under my roof?

“Get your answers, Mia,” I muttered as I walked into the dining room.

Ben’s face turned white when he saw me.

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A close up of a shocked man | Source: Midjourney

“Care to explain what on earth Lily is talking about?” I asked.

My chest felt tight, like I was just holding it all together before some horrible news came out.

Ben let out a long breath, running his hands through his hair.

“Honey, why don’t you go play on the swing or watch some TV?” Ben told her.

We waited until Lily was happily running outside to the swing before Ben said another word.

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A little girl sitting on a swing | Source: Midjourney

“I… I lost my job, okay? Months ago. I didn’t know how to tell you, Mia.”

I blinked, trying to process his words.

“I didn’t want you to think I was a failure.”

“You lost your job? Then what on earth have you been doing all day?”

“The homeschooling. It wasn’t about Lily’s education. It was because we couldn’t afford the tuition anymore. And I know that a few months ago I wanted her to go to private school, but I couldn’t even afford her public school fees.”

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A close up of an upset man | Source: Midjourney

Ben paused, holding his head.

I didn’t know what to say. I didn’t know how to retaliate.

“I’ve been delivering packages. It’s not stable, but it’s for a few hours a day. I take Lily with me in between her homeschooling. I know you think that I’ve been working in the study and then teaching Lily, too…”

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A man holding two boxes | Source: Midjourney

“You’ve been delivering packages? Really? This whole time?” I asked, stunned. “Why didn’t you just tell me?”

“I didn’t want you to think that I was a failure,” Ben said, his voice barely above a whisper. “I didn’t know how to fix this situation. But you know how stressful my job was toward the end. Those hours killed me. I thought that maybe if I could just keep things together for a little while longer…”

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A frowning woman | Source: Midjourney

I shook my head, trying to wrap my mind around everything. I wanted to be angry.

I wanted to shout at my husband, not because he lost his job, but because he didn’t want to tell me about it. I understood the pressure of losing your job suddenly and then having to put yourself back together.

When I was pregnant with Lily, I lost my job because they couldn’t afford to keep paying me while I was on maternity leave.

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A pregnant woman sitting on a couch | Source: Midjourney

But Ben carried us right up until Lily was three years old.

I shook my head now, trying to shake some of my thoughts. I felt… sad. Sad that Ben had felt like he had to hide this from me.

“Ben, you didn’t have to do this alone,” I said, reaching toward him.

He smiled at me sadly.

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A close up of a woman | Source: Midjourney

We put Lily back into school the next week using our savings. She was overjoyed to see her friends, and the guilt Ben had been carrying around began to lift when he saw her running toward them at the school gate.

As for Ben, he found another job as a grocery store manager. It wasn’t his dream job, but it was honest work that came with medical benefits. And honestly, I think it was just the fact that he was earning properly again that made the biggest difference to him.

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A man standing in a grocery store | Source: Midjourney

There was a lightness back in our home that hadn’t been there in a long time. A sense that we were moving forward, together.

What would you have done?

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A smiling couple with their daughter | Source: Midjourney

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Am I Wrong for “Hiding” My MIL’s Birthday Present to My Husband after Finding Out What Was Inside?

Tired of allowing her cold and callous mother-in-law to ruin her husband’s birthday, Lila hides Carol’s birthday present from Bill to save him the hurt and disappointment that usually came with his mother’s gifts. But when Lila’s secret comes out, a series of events unfolds.

I could tell my husband, Bill, was nervous. His birthday was coming up, and every year, his mom’s gift felt like a slap in the face.

Bill sat on our worn-out couch, his shoulders tense.

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A man sitting on a couch | Source: Midjourney

“Do you think she’ll actually care this time?” he asked, trying to sound nonchalant.

I sighed, placing my hand on his. I didn’t know what I was supposed to say. I knew that I needed to reassure him, but my husband’s relationship with his mother was complicated.

“Maybe,” I said. “But remember, we’re celebrating your birthday, not hers. We’ll have a great time, no matter what, darling.”

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A couple holding hands | Source: Midjourney

Bill smiled at me, but it didn’t reach his eyes. I knew how much he wanted to feel loved and appreciated by Carol, but she always failed to show him that. It wasn’t just about the gifts. It was about the feeling.

Bill had told me the story a long time ago. He was his mother’s son from her first marriage, and their relationship was strong, but things took a turn when Carol met her second husband, Adam.

It became even worse when Bill’s younger brothers were born. Suddenly, Carol only had eyes for Adam and their sons, making it clear to Bill that he was no longer a priority in her life.

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A mother and her sons | Source: Midjourney

“Okay,” he said. “This year will be different.”

This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.

The author and publisher make no claims to the accuracy of events or the portrayal of characters and are not liable for any misinterpretation. This story is provided “as is,” and any opinions expressed are those of the characters and do not reflect the views of the author or publisher.

Off The RecordConversei com meus netos sobre meu plano depois de saber que ela pune os filhos mandando-os me visitar

Gina fica furiosa ao saber que sua nora pune seus netos usando ela e sua casa. No entanto, ela garante que seus netos se sintam confortáveis ​​e protegidos com ela em vez de gritar com eles. Mais tarde, ela dá uma lição para sua nora que ela nunca vai esquecer.

Jacob, você comeu aquele doce que a mamãe estava guardando para o papai, e essa é a única razão pela qual estamos aqui. A mamãe te avisou para não fazer isso!” Algo que meu neto Thomas disse ao irmão mais novo chamou minha atenção.

Na cozinha, parei no meio do caminho entre a geladeira e o balcão, ouvindo se havia algum som adicional. O pensamento de que eu poderia ter ouvido Thomas direito fez meu coração afundar, pois significava que meus netos não queriam realmente vir aqui.

Caminhei lentamente em direção a eles, tentando parecer despreocupado.

“O que você quer dizer com isso, querida?”,  perguntei.

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Thomas levantou a cabeça, os olhos arregalados de medo de ser descoberto.

Ele disse:  “Ah, nada, vovó”,  um tanto abruptamente.

“Não, sério, está tudo bem,”  eu me ajoelhei até o nível deles e pressionei suavemente.  “Você pode me contar qualquer coisa.”

Thomas olhou para Jacob, que segurava seu brinquedo com força e mordiscava o lábio desconfortavelmente.

“Bem, toda vez que fazemos algo travesso, ou pedimos algo que não deveríamos…”  Thomas fez uma pausa.

“Claro, vá em frente”,  eu insisti suavemente.

“Mamãe disse que nos mandará para ‘a casa daquela bruxa’.”

“Aquela bruxa?”  Atordoado, repeti.

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Amanda, minha nora, nunca me demonstrou afeição, mas contar esse tipo de história para as crianças? Era tão cortante quanto uma faca no peito. Meu objetivo sempre foi proporcionar aos meus netos um ambiente seguro e acolhedor em minha casa.

Mas o que era isso?

para descobrir que Amanda estava influenciando as percepções das pessoas para que fossem contra mim?

Respirando fundo, tentei controlar minha voz. Fiquei pensando no que meus netos pensavam de mim, e meu coração caiu.

Ah, querida, eu disse.  “Eu nunca quis que você visse minha casa como uma fonte de punição. Você não tem obrigação de vir aqui se não quiser.”

“Mas nós gostamos daqui!”  Thomas deixou escapar.  “Mamãe acabou de nos avisar que este lugar pode ser amaldiçoado. E não é uma coisa horrível ser amaldiçoado? É horrível.”

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Isso era excessivo. Isso era simplesmente absurdo demais. A frieza de Amanda comigo era tolerável, mas trazer as crianças para isso era demais. Isso estava começando a ficar pessoal.

Eu precisava de uma estratégia para demonstrar genuinamente a Amanda que eu não permitiria que ela sabotasse meu relacionamento com meus netos e para lembrá-la da importância dos valores familiares.

Cumprimentei os meninos com um sorriso agradável e um ar de mistério na próxima vez que eles apareceram.

Eu disse a eles:  “Vamos, vamos comer uma torta.” “Mas eu também tenho um segredo para compartilhar com vocês.”

Seus olhos enormes me observavam.

“O que foi, vovó?”  Com um tom cheio de admiração, Jacob perguntou.

Baixei a voz para um sussurro de conspiração.

“Sua mãe estava certa”,  comentei.  “Eu sou uma bruxa.”

Os olhos de Jake se arregalaram e Thomas soltou um grito.

“Mas não se preocupe,”  eu disse apressadamente.  “Eu nunca te machucaria. Eu vou te ensinar mágica, na verdade.”

“Sério?”  Com uma pitada de suspeita misturada com ansiedade, Thomas questionou.

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“Sim, é verdade”,  eu disse, guiando-os até minha oficina de mago improvisada na sala de estar.

Praticamos truques básicos de mágica, assistimos a tutoriais de truques de mágica no YouTube e fizemos  “poções”  com bicarbonato de sódio, corante alimentício e várias plantas e temperos que eu tinha espalhados pela cozinha.

Os meninos ficaram totalmente cativados.

“Vovó, isso é tão legal!”  Uma pequena ‘poção’ borbulhou e borbulhou, e Jacob exclamou.

Dei-lhe um pequeno aceno e comentei:  “Estou feliz que você pense assim.” “Vocês dois são bruxos muito talentosos.”

Os meninos começaram a ficar ansiosos para me ver conforme os dias passavam. Um dia, meu filho Brian ligou e me contou tudo.

“Não sei o que você está fazendo, mãe”,  ele respondeu.  “No entanto, os meninos adoram estar lá. Eles estão constantemente pedindo para Amanda ou eu deixá-los lá.”

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Com um sorriso distraído, respondi:  “Estou tão feliz, querida.”

Eu já havia instruído os meninos a manterem nossos truques e a preparação de poções em segredo de seus pais. Não que eu estivesse escondendo algo de você ou algo assim. Eu simplesmente queria adiar a revelação até o momento ideal.

“O que vocês fazem?”  , Brian perguntou curioso.

“Passamos tempo juntos e eu os deixo ser crianças”,  respondi.

Um dia, os meninos imploraram para a mãe deixá-los passar a noite lá, pouco antes de Amanda chegar para buscá-los.

“Não, rapazes,”  ela comentou duramente.  “Temos que começar cedo amanhã, e eu não posso voltar para este lado da cidade.”

Os rapazes, no entanto, persistiram em seus gritos e súplicas.

Com um tom sarcástico, respondi:  “Ah, acho que você está sendo punida sendo levada para casa”,  olhando para Amanda.

Minhas palavras foram reconhecidas como sendo dela, e ela empalideceu.

“Gina, não era essa minha intenção quando disse isso”,  ela gaguejou.

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“Olha, Amanda, podemos discutir, mas não ouse envolver as crianças nisso. Por que você as regalaria com histórias sobre mim também? Isso é completamente inapropriado.”

Com um olhar de humilhação e culpa cobrindo suas feições delicadas, ela olhou para baixo.

“Eu não percebi o que eu disse”,  Amanda continuou.  “Eu só disse isso por raiva porque os meninos estavam sendo turbulentos.”

“É só que eu quero que eles se sintam amados e seguros aqui”,  eu disse.  “Podemos concordar com isso?”

Minha nora assentiu, com os olhos cheios de lágrimas.

“Claro, Gina, eu concordo. Sério, peço desculpas.”

“Eu aceito suas desculpas,”  eu disse calmamente.  “Mas agora precisamos seguir em frente, pelo bem deles.”

Depois disso, Amanda e eu experimentamos uma calma momentânea, e as visitas dos meninos não tinham a ansiedade ameaçadora pairando sobre eles. Nós nos divertimos muito rindo e aproveitando a companhia um do outro, com um certo charme envolvendo cada visita.

Coloquei os meninos para dormir uma noite para que Brian e Amanda pudessem ter um encontro. Os meninos iriam passar a noite comigo.

“Vovó, você é realmente uma bruxa?”  Jacob perguntou baixinho.

Sorrindo, tirei uma mecha de cabelo da testa dele.

“Não, meu querido filho”,  respondi.  “Não estou. No entanto, se você acredita em magia, ela existe. Ela é encontrada em nossa afeição compartilhada, em nosso prazer e nas memórias que criamos.”

Jacob, que estava meio dormindo, comentou:  “Vovó, eu gosto do seu tipo de magia.” “É menos assustador do que as maldições.”

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Apaguei a luz e acrescentei:  “Eu amo vocês dois, muito.”

Ainda entusiasmados com suas mais novas  descobertas “mágicas”  , os meninos correram para a cozinha enquanto eu preparava o café da manhã na manhã seguinte.

“Vovó, podemos fazer mais poções hoje?”  Com os olhos correndo pela cozinha para ver o que eu tinha nos balcões, Jacob perguntou.

“Obviamente,”  eu ri.  “Mas primeiro, que tal umas panquecas?”

Houve uma batida na porta enquanto nos preparávamos para jantar. Amanda estava ali, cautelosa, mas cheia de esperança.

Ela murmurou,  “Bom dia,”  calmamente.  “Eu estava esperando me juntar a você para o café da manhã.”

“Por favor, entre”,  eu disse a ela.  “Estamos prestes a começar.”

Amanda ouviu os meninos falando animadamente sobre suas façanhas fantásticas enquanto comíamos. Com um calor verdadeiro em seus olhos que eu não tinha notado antes, ela sorriu.

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Ela murmurou,  “Obrigada,”  enquanto os meninos iam brincar lá fora.  “Por tudo.”

“É tudo por eles”,  olhei de volta para ela.  “Eles merecem se sentir amados e felizes.”

“E eu sinto muito pelo que eu disse antes”,  ela respondeu.  “Eu cometi o erro de retratar sua casa como um covil de punição. De jeito nenhum. Na verdade, é mais aconchegante e quente que a nossa.”

Amanda fez um esforço para se comunicar mais comigo nas semanas seguintes. Sempre que podia, ela tentava convidar os rapazes e sempre trazia assados.

Brian comentou uma vez,  “Ela está tentando, mãe,”  quando chegou para pegar os meninos. Ela parecia ansiosa para visitar e passar um tempo com você e os meninos, como você pode ver. Isso significa muito para ela.

Dei um sorriso ao meu filho.

“Já era hora”,  declarei.

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