When I fell in love with an older man with three adult children, I had no idea what I was getting myself into. His daughters thought I was with him for his money, but when they discovered the truth about our dynamic, they tried twisting my arm, and I wasn’t having it!
I never imagined falling in love in my forties would come with so much judgment. I’m 43, and I’ve been dating Elon, a 61-year-old widower. He works in banking, and I’m a bartender. Sadly, our relationship made his daughters assume that I was only after his money an opportunistic gold digger.
A happy bartender | Source: Midjourney
I understand how, to Amanda and Claire, on the surface, it looks like a cliché, a younger woman with an older, wealthier man. His two daughters certainly thought I was looking for financial gain, while their brother, Mark, was the only one who welcomed and accepted me warmly without knowing anything about my financial standing.
What his daughters didn’t know was that they couldn’t have been more wrong about me and their father’s situation. Elon isn’t wealthy anymore. In fact, he’s broke. Meanwhile, I have a trust fund and many thriving businesses.
A well-off bartender | Source: Midjourney
The truth is that bartending is something I do because I enjoy it, not because I need the paycheck. Elon’s financial struggles aren’t because he was careless with money. He actually sacrificed everything for his late wife during her battle with cancer.
Three times, the cancer came back, and each time Elon fought harder, pouring every resource into treatment. This wonderful man maxed out six credit cards, took out a second mortgage, and drained his retirement savings to give her every possible chance.
A stressed man | Source: Midjourney
His only goal was to make sure she lived long enough to see their daughters get married, but he failed. His wife passed away a few years before we started dating. Now, he’s left with mounting debts, while his daughters live comfortably in their own suburban bubbles.
The pair live six hours away with their fiancés, and for the past two Christmases, Elon and I made the long drive to visit them. Both times, I was met with cold shoulders and passive-aggressive remarks!
Mean-looking sisters | Source: Midjourney
Amanda and Claire would ignore me, pull their father away when he tried to include me in conversations and ensure their fiancés avoided me too. The duo constantly portrayed themselves as coming from some sort of high-class family.
Periodically, they dropped rude comments about me being “just a bartender” and having nothing. They’d say things like, “At your age, being 40, it’s sad to be just that.” Elon tried to defend me as best he could.
An upset man | Source: Midjourney
The first year of our Christmas visit, Elon called them out for their behavior. They apologized, but only to him, but excused their behavior by saying it was hard to see their dad with someone who wasn’t their mom.
Because I loved Elon and saw a future with him, I decided to be understanding. Grief can twist emotions. But the second year was even worse! The thinly veiled comments about my bartending work became more direct.
A sad woman with her eyes closed | Source: Midjourney
Amanda once laughed and said, “At your age, it’s kind of sad to be just that. Waiting for a handout from our dad.”
Claire smirked but didn’t disagree. I didn’t correct them. I didn’t tell them about my trust fund or my businesses. I didn’t see the point. I don’t like boasting, and frankly, they didn’t deserve to know.
I wanted Elon’s children to like me for who I am, not what I have or can give them or their father financially. Little did I know that a gift to their father would change the relationship between me and them forever.
A happy man in a new car | Source: Midjourney
This year, I told Elon I wasn’t going. I couldn’t put myself through that humiliation again. He looked torn, saying, “I wish you’d come. It’s Christmas.”
“I can’t, my love. They don’t respect me. Why should I keep showing up to be ignored?”
He sighed. “I don’t want to do this without you, plus you know my back’s been acting up. The drive’s hard alone in that ratched car without someone to help.”
Not wanting to come between him and his family, I insisted he go alone and decided to make things easier for him.
A concerned woman | Source: Midjourney
His car had seen better days and wasn’t as comfortable for his problematic back. My brother owns a car dealership, so I leased a luxury car for him, something safe with comfortable seats for the long drive.
When Elon mentioned the car to his daughters, they exploded! They accused him of spending “their mother’s money” on me and wasting it on a “stupid car” instead of helping with their upcoming weddings. Their entitlement was astounding!
Two angry women | Source: Midjourney
They didn’t know Elon was drowning in debt or that I had paid for the car, and he couldn’t get a word in edgewise to correct their misgivings! But that wasn’t the worst of it…
Elon’s son, Mark, lived in a different country, and because of his son’s medical issues, he’d never attended holidays at his sisters’ in recent years. His life hasn’t been easy with his young son, Ethan, struggling with serious health problems, and the medical bills were piling up.
A father with his ailing son | Source: Midjourney
Mark and his wife, Sarah, had to sell their car just to keep up with treatments. They were stuck, isolated, struggling. Hearing about it broke my heart. Elon didn’t ask me to help. He barely mentioned it. But I couldn’t shake the image of Ethan and his parents stranded without a car.
So, I bought them one. It wasn’t extravagant, just a reliable SUV to get them to doctor appointments and back. I didn’t say a word to anyone about it except Elon. I didn’t do it for recognition. But the news got out.
A happy couple with a new car | Source: Midjourney
When Amanda and Claire heard about the car, naturally, they assumed Elon had bought it. They were furious!
“Why would Dad buy them a car and not help us with our weddings?” Amanda whined.
When Elon told them the truth, that I had bought the car, they went quiet. Then, suddenly, they seemed to have a change of heart and called me on their father’s phone wanting to meet. They told me and Elon that they wanted to apologize, to “clear the air.”
An upset father talking to his daughter | Source: Midjourney
I agreed to meet them but only as a test. Elon was hopeful, but I wasn’t. When they arrived at my house, which Elon lived in with me after losing the one he shared with his late wife, at first, they seemed sincere.
Amanda smiled tightly, saying, “We’re sorry. We misjudged you.”
Claire nodded. “It was wrong of us. Thank you for helping Mark. It means a lot.”
I wanted to believe them. For a moment, I thought maybe this was progress…
A suspicious woman | Source: Midjourney
Then Amanda leaned forward, voice soft and casual.
“Oh, by the way… with our weddings coming up, it’d be AMAZING if you could help with some of the costs. Nothing huge, of course.”
Claire jumped in.
“Yeah, just a little something. You’ve already been so generous.”
And there it was! The real reason they wanted to meet!
I smiled politely. “No.”
A determined woman | Source: Midjourney
Amanda’s smile vanished. Her face turned red. “Are you serious?! After everything you did for Mark?”
Claire’s expression twisted. “You’re such a hypocrite! You act all generous, but you’re selfish!”
When Amanda slammed her glass down, causing her wine to splash across the table, Elon tried to cut in, but she cut him off! “Unbelievable!” she shrieked before storming out.
Claire leaned in, eyes narrowed. “You’ll regret this. Don’t think we’re just going to let you ruin everything.”
Then she left, slamming the door behind her!
An angry woman leaving | Source: Midjourney
Elon sat in stunned silence.
“I told you they’d react like this,” I said quietly.
He stared at the empty doorway, then at me. His shoulders sagged. “I didn’t want to believe it.”
“They’ve had every chance to treat me like family, Elon. They don’t care about me. They only care about what I or you can give them.”
He nodded slowly. For the first time, I saw relief in his eyes, like he’d been holding onto some false hope and finally let it go.
A defeated man | Source: Midjourney
Later that night, Mark called, and his father put him on loudspeaker. “Thanks again for the car, Sandra! It’s already made life so much easier!”
Elon quickly filled him in on the failed meeting with his sisters, and his reply was, “I don’t know how you deal with Amanda and Claire! You are a saint!”
I laughed. “I’m not a saint, Mark. I just know where to draw the line.”
A woman laughing while talking on the phone | Source: Midjourney
Since then, Elon’s relationship with his daughters has been distant. He’s reached out, but they keep their conversations short. I feel bad for him, but I can’t fix that. The greatest thing about what happened during that meeting was that Elon’s focus had finally shifted!
We started planning small weekend getaways, enjoying quiet nights in, and reconnecting with Mark’s family! Ethan even calls me “Auntie” now, and that melts my heart!
A happy woman with a little boy | Source: Midjourney
I decided that Amanda and Claire could think what they wanted. I know the truth, and so does Elon. That’s enough. Our relationship isn’t built on money or appearances. It’s built on trust, respect, and love. And for the first time, I feel truly at peace.
A happy woman | Source: Midjourney
While Sandra’s boyfriend’s children didn’t accept her for who she is, in the following story a man with a stepdaughter struggled with their relationship. Then one day she invited him out but acted strangely, when she finally revealed the truth behind her behavior, the pair shared the warmest hug!
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11 Characters That Were Pregnant in Real Life, and What Their Babies Look Like Today
Participating in the filming of a series or movie is hard work since celebrities have to get into the skin of their characters to achieve an authentic interpretation. But that doesn’t mean that actors don’t have real lives behind the scenes. Sometimes, actresses decide to become mothers and already have contracts with production companies. This presents a challenge for them, because of their pregnancy, and for the filmmakers who have to decide whether to incorporate the belly into the plot or simply let the actress cover her belly.
Bright Side made a list of 11 celebrities who played during pregnancy (some of them had to hide their belly) and is revealing what these kids that made things complicated for their mothers and producers look like today.
1. Julia Louis-Dreyfus in Seinfeld
During the shooting of the third season of the popular sitcom, Seinfeld, Julia Louis-Dreyfus became pregnant with her first child, Henry Hall. Baby Henry was born in July of 1992. However, the actress’s pregnancy was never really a problem for the producers of the series. The simple solution writers came up with was to put her character, Elaine, in baggy clothes and any large garments to hide her belly. Henry is currently 29 years old.
2. Claire Danes in Homeland
You probably know actress Claire Danes because of the amazing performance she delivered as the CIA agent, Carrie Mathison, in the television series, Homeland. However, what’s not often talked about is the fact that she was 8 months pregnant when she completed the filming of the second season. Her pregnancy could not be introduced in the plot due to her character, so they decided to use digital retouching to hide her belly. Her son, Cyrus, was born in December 2012, and he’s now 9 years old.
3. Ellen Pompeo in Grey’s Anatomy
During the filming of the sixth season of one of the most popular drama series ever created, Grey’s Anatomy, producers decided to hide Ellen Pompeo’s pregnancy from the cameras. This was done because, for the writers, this was not the right time for her character, Dr. Meredith, to have a baby, and they wanted to keep that for a later moment. In September 2009, Stella Luna, now 12 years old, was born.
4. Zooey Deschanel in New Girl
Zooey Deschanel was 7 months pregnant when season 5 of the hit series, New Girl,was shot. As you probably remember, the actress had to be momentarily replaced by Megan Fox since producers were only able to hide her belly for no more than a few episodes. Deschanel also had to stay off the series until she returned from postpartum rest. Zooey gave birth to her daughter, Elsie, in August 2015, and today the little girl is 5 years old.
5. Holly Marie Combs in Charmed
Holly Marie Combs, who plays Piper, one of the main characters of the series, Charmed, announced during the shooting of the sixth season that she was pregnant. The producers thought it was better to hide her pregnancy at first. However, after a while, they decided that it was better for her character to actually have a child in the story as well. Apparently, Piper’s pregnancy was planned before the actress knew she was expecting a baby, so that came in handy. Combs gave birth to her first child, Finley Arthur, in 2004, and he’s now 17 years old.
6. Amaia Salamanca in Velvet
Amaia Salamanca’s pregnancy was well-planned when she rejoined the set of Velvet, a show about the compelling Spanish story of a fashion house in Madrid in the late ’50s. Because of this, production had no choice but to make Barbara, her character, pregnant as well. At the age of 28, she gave birth to her first child, a girl named Olivia Varo, in April 2014.
7. Kerry Washington in Scandal
Kerry Washington’s pregnancy happened right in the middle of the shooting of the series, Scandal, in which she played the main character. This unforeseen event forced producers to reduce the number of episodes to hide the actress’s pregnancy that couldn’t fit the schedule of the series. Currently, her daughter, Isabelle, is 7 years old.
8. Kristen Bell in House of Lies
The star of the House of Lies TV series, Kristen Bell, was about 6 months pregnant with her first daughter when the second season of the show was about to be shot. In order to actually film some episodes, the producers had to hire a body double for the scenes in which Bell would have had to show her belly. Her first daughter, Lincoln Bell, is now 8 years old.
9. Cobie Smulders in How I Met Your Mother
Actress Cobie Smulders brought her character, Robin, to millions of small screens thanks to the sitcom, How I Met Your Mother. After fellow actress Alyson Hannigan told the show-runners that she was pregnant, Cobie Smulders discovered that she was also pregnant and told the producers who had to camouflage both of their pregnancies. To disguise Smulders’ belly, producers asked the costume designers to use garments and objects that could hide her abdomen, and they had the character remain seated for most of the scenes that she appeared in. In May 2009, the actress gave birth to her daughter, Shaelyn.
10. Madonna in Evita
Madonna, also known as the Queen of Pop, made the controversial 1996 film in which she played the wife of Argentinian dictator Juan Domingo Perón, Eva Perón. However, Madonna was pregnant with her daughter, Lourdes Leon, back then. It was because of this that the crew of Evita cleverly used costumes and camera shots so that it was not noticeable that Madonna was pregnant with her eldest daughter who is now 24 years old.
11. Lisa Kudrow in Friends
When Lisa Kudrow played Phoebe Buffay on one of the most famous sitcoms, Friends, she became pregnant. This was right about when they started filming the fourth season. The producers decided to include her pregnancy in the story by having Phoebe lend her womb to her brother to conceive triplets because he and his wife couldn’t have kids on their own. Today, her only son, Julian, is 23 years old.
What is your favorite family series? What do you think of women who work while pregnant?
Preview photo credit Friends / Bright/Kauffman/Crane Productions, and, co-producer, lisakudrow / Instagram
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