This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
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“Does anyone know what this is?” I found it in a bag of kitchenware items at the secondhand store.
If you’ve ever found yourself in a similar situation, staring at a mysterious kitchen gadget and wondering what it’s used for, you’re not alone. Today, we’re going to unravel the mystery of one such tool: the onion and veggie slicer.
Have you ever struggled with slicing onions and other vegetables evenly? Do you wish there was a quicker and more efficient way to achieve those perfectly thin slices? Well, look no further! An onion and veggie slicer might just be the solution you’ve been searching for.
So, what exactly is an onion and veggie slicer? Simply put, it’s a kitchen tool designed to make slicing onions and various other vegetables a breeze. These handy gadgets typically consist of a base with blades or slots.
The primary purpose of an onion and veggie slicer is to ensure uniform and precise slices. By using this tool, you can achieve consistent thickness in your slices, which is particularly helpful when you’re preparing dishes that require even cooking or presentation.
Using an onion and veggie slicer is fairly straightforward. It provides stability and support for the vegetables while you cut. It is particularly helpful when working with small or irregularly shaped vegetables that can be challenging to hold steady with just your hands. The blades or slots are designed to create thin, uniform slices, saving you time and effort in the kitchen.
Historically, slicing vegetables was done by hand using knives. However, as technology advanced, people began inventing tools to make the process quicker and more efficient. In the late 19th and early 20th centuries, manual vegetable slicers with adjustable blades started to appear. These slicers allowed users to adjust the thickness of the slices, providing a level of precision that was not easily achievable by hand.
With the advent of industrialization, kitchen appliances also underwent significant advancements. In the mid-20th century, electric food slicers became popular. These appliances, often used for slicing meats and cheeses, could also be used to slice vegetables like onions.
As time went on, manufacturers recognized the need for specialized slicers that were designed specifically for onions and other vegetables. These slicers typically featured blades or slots optimized for slicing thin, uniform slices. They became popular among home cooks who wanted to streamline their meal preparation process.
Now that you know what an onion and veggie slicer is, you might be wondering where you can buy one for yourself. These kitchen tools are widely available in various stores and online marketplaces. Here are a few options to consider:
Kitchenware Stores: Check out your local kitchenware stores or specialty cooking supply shops. They often have a wide range of kitchen gadgets, including onion and veggie slicers. You can find them in the kitchen tools section or ask the store staff for assistance.
Online Retailers: The internet is a treasure trove of kitchen gadgets. Major online retailers like Amazon, Walmart, and Target offer a vast selection of onion and veggie slicers. You can easily browse through different models, compare prices, and read customer reviews to make an informed purchase.
Thrift Stores and Yard Sales: Just like the one you found your mystery slicer in, thrift stores and yard sales can be great places to hunt for affordable kitchenware. You might stumble upon an onion and veggie slicer in excellent condition at a fraction of the original price.
Remember to choose a slicer that suits your needs and preferences. Consider factors such as the type of vegetables you’ll be slicing, the size of the slicer, and its ease of use and cleaning.
Whether you’re a culinary enthusiast or just looking for ways to simplify meal preparation, an onion and veggie slicer can be a valuable addition to your kitchen arsenal. So, go ahead and find one that suits your needs, and say goodbye to unevenly sliced onions and veggies!
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