In August 2017, Tony Alarcon’s phone rang unexpectedly.
Like many parents, he thought it might be a telemarketer. But this time, he answered the call.
Hearing from the school can be nerve-wracking for any parent. Tony immediately started worrying—was his daughter, Demetra, okay? Had something happened?
What he found out left him surprised.
It was a hot summer day in Northern California, with temperatures reaching 90 degrees. Tony had dropped off his 13-year-old daughter, Demetra, at school that morning. She wore a blue romper to stay cool in the heat, and neither of them thought the outfit would cause any issues.
Demetra, a student at Raymond J. Fisher Middle School in Los Gatos, California, had simply dressed for the weather.
Not everyone agreed with Demetra’s outfit. A teacher at her school said her romper was “too distracting” for the boys.
When the teacher told Demetra that her outfit was too short, her dad, Tony, rushed back to the school with a change of clothes—jean shorts and a tank top. But the school said those clothes were also inappropriate.
Tony was shocked. He asked Demetra to bend over and touch her toes in front of the school administrator. “Nothing is hanging out. There’s nothing inappropriate. I don’t understand this dress code rule,” he told TODAY.
Still, the school said her clothes were “distracting.” Since it was 90 degrees outside, Tony had no choice but to go to his car and grab a pair of leggings for Demetra to wear.
Demetra felt embarrassed.
Tony expressed his frustration, saying, “She’s just a kid. She’s only 13. She’s not trying to be a sex symbol. She just wants to be comfortable and attend class, but we’re not giving her that chance.”
This wasn’t the first time Demetra had been in trouble for her clothes. Just a week before, she was called out for a visible bra strap. “When I got dress coded last week, they said my bra strap was showing,” Demetra told the *San Jose Mercury News*. “Like, I’m wearing a bra—what’s the big deal?”
Tony, a successful investment advisor and father of two, didn’t let it go. Angry at what he saw as an unfair rule that mostly targeted girls, he took his complaint to social media. Parents from all over the country showed their support, agreeing that the school’s dress code was outdated and unfair to girls.
“Demetra’s not the only one. If you sit in the school parking lot, you’ll see that,” Tony said. “Lots of girls just want to be comfortable, but they feel forced to wear leggings even when it’s 100 degrees outside.”
Tony believed that parents, not schools, should decide if their children’s clothes are appropriate. He was also worried about how being told their clothing is a “distraction” to boys could affect young girls emotionally in the long run.
The story quickly got attention from the media, with major news outlets reporting on Tony’s efforts to change the dress code. While the school didn’t speak on camera, they did release a statement:
“The Los Gatos Union School District believes that appropriate dress and grooming contribute to a productive learning environment,” the district said. “Students are expected to wear clothes that reflect the core values of our learning community.”
Tony’s efforts made an impact. His push for change led the Los Gatos Union School District to reevaluate its dress code to make it fairer and less strict for all students.
Lisa Fraser, the school’s principal, explained that the dress code rules, called “Fashion Faux Pas,” apply to both girls and boys. Some of the rules include no hats or hoods indoors, no visible underwear, no inappropriate logos or words, and shorts must have at least 4-inch inseams.
“There has always been a dress code,” Fraser told a newspaper. “These are basic rules for appropriate behavior. I can set guidelines for the school, but I want them to reflect the community’s values.”
In the end, Tony Alarcon’s persistence started an important discussion about how school dress codes affect young girls — showing that one parent’s voice can truly make a difference.
What do you think about the school’s dress code? Have you or your children faced a similar situation? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments!
Frankie Valli at 89: The Iconic Singer continues to captivate audiences with timeless style and age-defying looks
Frankie Valli believed singing was his vocation from an early age while growing up in Newark, New Jersey.
Let’s just say that the 89-year-old legend has made a lot of progress since moving out of his rough, working-class neighborhood, and it makes people happy to see him now.
With his distinct three-octave range and unparalleled falsetto voice, Frankie Valli came to represent the mid-1950s American bubble-gum era, which was characterized by drive-in theaters and soda shops. His songs are still relevant to audiences today, a sign of the caliber and passion of his work, even after all this time.
Frankie’s love for singing began when he was seven years old, when his mother took him to see a young Frank Sinatra perform at the Paramount Theater in Manhattan. This encounter had a profound effect on him and helped him realize his long-held goal of becoming a popular singer.
“Because I did this for his mother, he kind of adopted me as a friend. For a decade or so, we had a tight relationship. Valli remarked, “Every time I saw him, it was a big hug and a kiss on the cheek.”
Frankie started singing with the men on street corners, and it wasn’t an easy road to popularity. Before becoming successful in the music business, he had a variety of occupations while growing up in downtown Newark, including truck driving, golf caddying, and barbering (like his father).
Frankie Valli and his band, The Four Seasons, became one of the biggest performers in the world when they rose to prominence in the early 1960s. The Four Seasons became well-known when hits like “Walk Like a Man,” “Big Girls Don’t Cry,” and “Sherry” topped the charts.
Fans loved Frankie because of his distinctive falsetto voice, which was instantly recognizable. More quickly than any record since Elvis Presley’s debut, “Sherry” shot to the top of the charts.
Frankie put out a number of albums under his own name when he was a member of The Four Seasons. With The Four Seasons, he was extremely successful, collecting 29 top 40 successes. He also had an amazing solo career, garnering nine more top 40 hits.
In 1990, Frankie received recognition by being inducted into the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame alongside Tommy DeVito, Nick Massi, and Bob Gaudio, his fellow members of Four Seasons.
Valli is regarded as a key figure in the history of rock and roll today. The legendary musician is still involved in the business and has been performing and touring for a long time. The 89-year-old artist, who is currently a resident of California, has not indicated that he intends to retire anytime soon.
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