In August 2017, Tony Alarcon’s phone rang unexpectedly.
Like many parents, he thought it might be a telemarketer. But this time, he answered the call.
Hearing from the school can be nerve-wracking for any parent. Tony immediately started worrying—was his daughter, Demetra, okay? Had something happened?
What he found out left him surprised.
It was a hot summer day in Northern California, with temperatures reaching 90 degrees. Tony had dropped off his 13-year-old daughter, Demetra, at school that morning. She wore a blue romper to stay cool in the heat, and neither of them thought the outfit would cause any issues.
Demetra, a student at Raymond J. Fisher Middle School in Los Gatos, California, had simply dressed for the weather.
Not everyone agreed with Demetra’s outfit. A teacher at her school said her romper was “too distracting” for the boys.
When the teacher told Demetra that her outfit was too short, her dad, Tony, rushed back to the school with a change of clothes—jean shorts and a tank top. But the school said those clothes were also inappropriate.
Tony was shocked. He asked Demetra to bend over and touch her toes in front of the school administrator. “Nothing is hanging out. There’s nothing inappropriate. I don’t understand this dress code rule,” he told TODAY.
Still, the school said her clothes were “distracting.” Since it was 90 degrees outside, Tony had no choice but to go to his car and grab a pair of leggings for Demetra to wear.
Demetra felt embarrassed.
Tony expressed his frustration, saying, “She’s just a kid. She’s only 13. She’s not trying to be a sex symbol. She just wants to be comfortable and attend class, but we’re not giving her that chance.”
This wasn’t the first time Demetra had been in trouble for her clothes. Just a week before, she was called out for a visible bra strap. “When I got dress coded last week, they said my bra strap was showing,” Demetra told the *San Jose Mercury News*. “Like, I’m wearing a bra—what’s the big deal?”
Tony, a successful investment advisor and father of two, didn’t let it go. Angry at what he saw as an unfair rule that mostly targeted girls, he took his complaint to social media. Parents from all over the country showed their support, agreeing that the school’s dress code was outdated and unfair to girls.
“Demetra’s not the only one. If you sit in the school parking lot, you’ll see that,” Tony said. “Lots of girls just want to be comfortable, but they feel forced to wear leggings even when it’s 100 degrees outside.”
Tony believed that parents, not schools, should decide if their children’s clothes are appropriate. He was also worried about how being told their clothing is a “distraction” to boys could affect young girls emotionally in the long run.
The story quickly got attention from the media, with major news outlets reporting on Tony’s efforts to change the dress code. While the school didn’t speak on camera, they did release a statement:
“The Los Gatos Union School District believes that appropriate dress and grooming contribute to a productive learning environment,” the district said. “Students are expected to wear clothes that reflect the core values of our learning community.”
Tony’s efforts made an impact. His push for change led the Los Gatos Union School District to reevaluate its dress code to make it fairer and less strict for all students.
Lisa Fraser, the school’s principal, explained that the dress code rules, called “Fashion Faux Pas,” apply to both girls and boys. Some of the rules include no hats or hoods indoors, no visible underwear, no inappropriate logos or words, and shorts must have at least 4-inch inseams.
“There has always been a dress code,” Fraser told a newspaper. “These are basic rules for appropriate behavior. I can set guidelines for the school, but I want them to reflect the community’s values.”
In the end, Tony Alarcon’s persistence started an important discussion about how school dress codes affect young girls — showing that one parent’s voice can truly make a difference.
What do you think about the school’s dress code? Have you or your children faced a similar situation? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments!
Honoring Remarkable Women: Take a Moment to Remember Their Inspiring Stories!
Within the quiet walls of Livonia, Michigan, a pall fell over the convent as it witnessed the profound passing of a number of revered sisters, cornerstones of the Roman Catholic society. Their withdrawal left an irreplaceable hole in the convent’s everyday activities. These esteemed women were adored as writers, committed educators, and even a dependable secretary from the Vatican office.
Numerous people were impacted by their lives, and both the church and the larger community were greatly saddened by their passing. Nevertheless, their incredible bravery and unity shone through their sorrow. They were extremely vulnerable due to their advanced age, but they persevered in the face of hardship, their unyielding attitude a sign of their unwavering faith.
Families of the deceased repeated stories of their close-knit relationship, which was developed via communal living, work, and prayer. This tragic incident serves as a sobering reminder of the frailty of life and the ties that bind us together. It is reminiscent of the devastation caused by the 1918 influenza epidemic.
In the wake, unanswered questions clouded the otherwise peaceful sanctuary. How had the illness gotten beyond the walls of the monastery, where contact with outsiders was strictly forbidden? Given that the nuns were susceptible to the infection, why were the proper safety measures not followed?
Sadly, it was discovered that two of the convent’s assistants had unintentionally brought the virus, a serious mistake that would have disastrous repercussions. Unchecked, the virus killed one nun nearly every day until all thirteen had perished, infecting eighteen others who were still alive but not surviving.
Those who witnessed this terrifying ordeal struggled with the virus’s unrelenting toll and the sorrow that darkened every day that went by. The grief process for their fellow sisters was made much more difficult by government-imposed regulations and the ongoing fear of infection, adding layers of agony to an already intolerable burden.
The head of clinical health services, Noel Marie Gabriel, acknowledged the agony that engulfed the community as she spoke about the emotional cost of the situation. The experience, which lasted from April 10 to June 27, was a somber episode in the convent’s past and left a lasting impression on everyone who saw it.
Let’s pay tribute to these amazing women, whose lives were examples of faith, resiliency, and unshakable dedication, while we consider this awful incident. May their memory live on as a ray of light in the shadows, and may their spirits rest in peace forever.
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