Mark Bryan is a robotics engineer who has been married for 11 years and has a daughter. He identifies as straight and chooses to dress unconventionally. Bryan is an American living in Germany, and he doesn’t believe that fashion has to be gendered. You can find Bryan wearing a skirt and heels to work or out anywhere else he goes on any given day.
Bryan said he doesn’t like how limited men’s choices are in the fashion department, especially when it comes to office attire. Men’s pants only come in a few colors, mostly black, gray, dark blue and the occasional pinstripe, and cuts.
The stylish dresser believes that if women are allowed to wear pants, men should be able to wear skirts and dresses as well. Bryan likes how skirts come in many styles and patterns – and many more colors – unlike men’s clothing.
Bryan prefers to mix traditional gender looks by wearing masculine attire on his top half, like a blazer and tie, and traditionally feminine attire on the bottom half. He will typically wear a pencil skirt and four-inch heels on the bottom.
Wearing high heels is no problem for Bryan. He first learned how to do it when his college girlfriend asked him to wear high heels while dancing with her so that they were on the same level. They continued this for over a year.
Bryan doesn’t let stereotypes or assumptions stop him from dressing in a way that brings him joy. He challenges expectations and does so unapologetically. Keep reading to hear what Bryan has to say about his fashion choices.
Bryan has a very clear idea about how he likes to dress. He told Bored Panda: “To me, clothes have no gender. I prefer skirts to dresses. Dresses don’t allow me to mix the genders. I prefer a ‘masculine’ look above the waist and a non-gendered look below the waist. It’s all about clothes having no gender.”
He continued: “I am old enough to remember that in school, the girls could not wear pants. Pants have now become a non-gendered article of clothing. So why can’t skirts and heels be non-gendered? Besides, men wore heels before women did. Maybe not today’s stiletto-style heels, but men did wear heels before women.”
Bryan is correct about that. High heels can look back on a long history. Although historians and archaeologists cannot date their invention clearly, they have been around at least since the 10th century. And they were not a fashion statement at first. No, the first recorded use of high heels was eminently practical: the Persian cavalry wore boots with heels, called a kalash or galesh, that made it easier for them to keep their feet inside their stirrups. This is, by the way, the same reason why cowboy boots have a small heel as well!
Since owning a horse was a sign of wealth, only well-off men could afford to wear these high-heeled boots. The use of them slowly spread across Europe, and high heels heels became one of the fashion signs of rich noblemen or traders. In fact, following the Great Schism of the Christian Church in the 11th century, even the pope wore high heels.
It wasn’t until several hundred years later that fashion slowly changed. During the 18th century, cultural concerns in Europe came up about the distinction between males and females and talk about what men and women should wear arose. This is the point in time where the belief that fashion is something effeminate and frivolous that “real men” shouldn’t care about hails from. Due to these changing beliefs, men largely abandoned high heels heels, as they were seen as impractical and mere accessories.
Bryan is one of the examples of how high-heels are slowly coming back as an accepted form of footwear for men. Although the engineer champions the option of wearing high-heeled shoes for men, he understands many people will look twice when they see him. He compares his style choices to someone who chooses to dye their hair bright colors. He explained:
“Take a person with bright green hair. Green hair is not normal. You look up and see this person, your mind tells you it’s a person with green hair, you think to yourself, that’s odd or interesting, then you go back to do what you were doing and don’t give it another thought. I believe this is the same when people see me in a skirt and heels.”
Bryan doesn’t have to struggle to find skirts and heels that fit him either. He wears a size 8 in skirts, and with smaller feet for a man, his shoe size in heels is 8.5. If you know a man who is considering trying out wearing heels and skirts too, Bryan suggests starting with a lower heel until you feel more comfortable walking in high heels.
What do you think of Mark Bryan’s style choices? Do you know any men who would try walking in high heels? Let us know, and be sure to send this along to your friends and family.
My Husband Insisted We Sleep in Separate Rooms — One Night, I Heard Strange Noises Coming from His Room and Checked It Out
When Pam’s husband insists they sleep in separate rooms, she’s left hurt and confused. As nights pass, strange noises from his room stir her suspicion. Is he hiding something? One night, curiosity wins, and she heads to his door, bracing for the truth behind the noise.
I watched James clear out his bedside table, my heart sinking with each item he placed into the small wicker basket.
Five years ago, a car accident left me paralyzed from the waist down. James had been my rock ever since. Now, as he packed up his things, I couldn’t help but feel like my world was crumbling all over again.
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“I’ll still be here if you need me, Pam,” he said, his voice soft but firm. “This doesn’t change that.”
“You just won’t be in the same room anymore,” I mumbled.
James nodded. “Like I said, I just need a bit more freedom while I sleep.”
I nodded, not trusting myself to speak. How could I tell him that this changed everything? That the thought of sleeping alone in this big bed terrified me?
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As he left the room, basket in hand, a crushing wave of insecurity washed over me. The thought that James might not be able to bear sleeping next to me anymore made my chest tighten with fear.
The weeks that followed were a blur of endless doubts. I’d lie awake, staring at the ceiling, wondering if James regretted staying with me after the accident. Was I too much of a burden? Had he finally reached his breaking point?
Then came the noises at night.
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It started as faint scratches and muffled thumps coming from James’ new room down the hall. At first, I brushed it off as him settling into his new space. But as the sounds grew louder and more frequent, my mind began to race.
What was he doing in there? Was he… packing? Planning his escape? Or worse, was there someone else?
Night after night, the noises tormented me.
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I’d strain my ears, trying to make sense of the shuffling and occasional clank of metal. My imagination ran wild, conjuring up scenarios each more heartbreaking than the last.
One day, as I passed the door to his room, I couldn’t resist the temptation anymore. I reached out and grabbed the doorknob. I was going to see for myself what he was getting up to in there.
But the door was locked.
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I stared at it in shock. Sleeping in separate rooms was one thing, but now he was locking me out of his bedroom, too. Maybe he had been all along, and I’d never noticed.
A weighty dread settled over my heart. Now, more than ever before, I couldn’t help but feel like I’d lost James for good. He probably felt guilty about leaving me outright so now… now he was torturing me instead.
That night, when he came home from work, I confronted him.
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“You think I want to leave you?” James gaped at me across our dining table. “Why would you think that?”
“The separate rooms…” I glanced down at my plate and pushed some rice around. “I don’t want you to feel burdened by me.”
“I told you, I just want to sleep by myself,” he snapped. “I… you know I’m a restless sleeper. I don’t want to hurt you.”
None of that had ever been a problem before, but I just nodded. How did our relationship erode to the point where he couldn’t even be honest with me anymore?
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That night, the noises were louder than ever. I couldn’t take it anymore. Ignoring the pain shooting through my body, I heaved myself into my wheelchair.
The journey down the hallway was agonizing, but I pressed on, driven by a desperate need to know the truth.
As I approached James’ door, the air seemed to grow colder. The house creaked and groaned around me, as if warning me to turn back. But I couldn’t. Not now.
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With a trembling hand, I reached for the doorknob. My heart pounded so hard I thought it might burst out of my chest. Slowly, I turned the handle. The door was unlocked this time.
“James?” I called out, pushing the door open.
The sight that greeted me brought tears to my eyes and left me speechless.
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James stood in the center of the room, surrounded by an array of half-finished furniture, paint cans, and tools. He looked up at me, surprise etched across his face, before his expression softened into a sheepish smile.
“You weren’t supposed to see this yet,” he said, running a hand through his hair.
I blinked, trying to make sense of the scene before me. “What… what is all this?”
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James stepped aside, revealing a small wooden structure behind him. “It’s a lift system,” he explained. “To help you get in and out of bed more easily. I know we’ve been struggling with that for a while now.”
My eyes darted around the room, taking in details I’d missed at first glance. There was a beautifully painted bedside table with drawers at just the right height for me to reach from my chair. Sketches and blueprints covered every available surface.
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“I’ve been working on this for our anniversary,” James admitted, his voice soft and warm. “I know you’ve been frustrated with how hard it’s been to move around the house. I wanted to make things easier for you.”
Tears welled up in my eyes as the full weight of his words hit me. All this time, when I thought he was pulling away, he’d been working tirelessly to make our home more accessible for me.
Then, James walked over to a corner of the room and pulled out a small, beautifully wrapped box.
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“This is part of it too,” he said, placing it gently in my lap.
With shaking hands, I unwrapped the gift. Inside was a custom-made heating pad for my legs, something I’d been needing for a while now but never got around to buying.
“I wanted to make sure you’re comfortable, even on the worst pain days,” James explained, a shy smile playing on his lips.
I looked up at him, my vision blurred by tears. “But… why the separate rooms? Why all the secrecy?”
James knelt beside my wheelchair, taking my hands in his.
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“I needed space to work without spoiling the surprise. And honestly, Pam, I was scared I’d let something slip if we were together every night. You know I’m terrible at keeping secrets from you.”
A laugh bubbled up from my chest, surprising us both. It was true; James had never been able to keep a secret from me for long. The thought of him trying so hard to maintain this one was both touching and amusing.
“I’m so sorry that I made you worry,” he continued, his thumb tracing circles on the back of my hand.
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“That was never my intention,” he continued. “I just wanted to do something special for you, to show you how much I love you and that I’m here for the long haul.”
I leaned forward, resting my forehead against his. “Oh, James,” I whispered. “I love you too. So much.”
We stayed like that for a moment, basking in the warmth of our rekindled connection. When I finally pulled back, I couldn’t help but smile at the mess around us.
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“So, do you need any help finishing up these projects?” I asked.
James grinned, his eyes lighting up with excitement. “I’d love that. We can work on them together, make this place truly ours.”
As we began discussing plans and ideas, I felt a weight lift from my shoulders. The room that had once represented distance and suspicion now stood as a testament to James’ love and dedication.
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Weeks later, on our anniversary, we unveiled the renovations to our bedroom. The lift system was in place, along with the custom furniture James had crafted.
As I watched him carry his things back to our room, setting them on his bedside table, I felt a surge of emotion.
“Welcome back,” I said softly as he climbed into bed beside me.
James pulled me close, kissing the top of my head. “I never left, Pam. And I never will.”
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As we settled in for the night, I realized that our love, like the room around us, had been transformed. What once seemed like a growing distance was actually a love so deep it had found new ways to express itself.
In the end, it wasn’t about sleeping in the same bed or even being in the same room. It was about the lengths we were willing to go to for each other, the sacrifices we’d make, and the love that bound us together through it all.
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