According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
A Cat and a Newborn Went Viral for Being Best Friends but People Are Worried, «Please Be Careful»
In the world of pet companionship, dogs often steal the spotlight for their perceived loyalty and affection towards humans, especially babies. Cats, on the other hand, have long been labeled as solitary and indifferent. But a heartening video shared on TikTok challenges this stereotype, showcasing the remarkable bond between a protective feline named Teddy and his human baby brother, William.
A bond that started from day one.
From the moment William entered the household, Teddy, the family cat, embraced him with open paws, assuming the role of a caring and watchful «big brother.» Contrary to expectations, Teddy didn’t display an ounce of jealousy but instead showered the newborn with affection and protection, much to the delight and surprise of his owners.
Capturing these precious moments on camera, William’s parents shared their growing friendship on TikTok, where it quickly gained attention from viewers worldwide. In the videos, Teddy is seen gently interacting with William, ensuring his safety and even playfully engaging with him in his baby seat. It’s evident that Teddy sees William as his own, forming an inseparable bond that transcends species.
One video went viral.
William and Teddy’s TikTok videos are a massive hit, with one in particular reaching almost 12 million views. Witnessing the cat’s tender and affectionate behavior towards the baby brings joy to all who watch their interactions. Whether it’s sleeping next to him, keeping watch over his dreams, or delicately holding him with his paws, the cat’s unwavering commitment to the baby is evident. Refusing to leave his side, the cat seems to intuitively understand the fragility and vulnerability of the little one, embodying a protective presence that touches the hearts of all who witness their bond.
Happy comments flooded in.
The touching videos shared by William’s parents evoke a range of emotions from viewers, with many expressing admiration for Teddy’s unwavering devotion to his baby brother. Comments flooding the videos reflect the universal appeal of their bond, with some jokingly suggesting that William may have become Teddy’s surrogate. «Could anything be more precious?» one user mentioned. Indeed, Teddy’s nurturing instincts and affectionate behavior have earned him the title of a first-rate babysitter in the eyes of his adoring fans.
While others worried about the cat and baby close together.
Some people expressed concerns about allowing pets near newborns. In one of the videos, we can see comments saying «Please be careful.» Allowing cats near babies is a matter of personal choice and depends on various factors, including the temperament of the cat, the health and safety concerns of the baby, and the supervision provided by the parents or caregivers.
While many cats can coexist peacefully with newborns and even develop strong bonds with them, it’s essential to exercise caution and take appropriate precautions to ensure the safety of both the baby and the cat. However, Teddy and William’s interactions challenge preconceived notions about cats’ personalities and showcase the depth of empathy and compassion these creatures are capable of displaying.
As Teddy continues to watch over William, offering comfort and companionship in his own feline way, their story serves as a heartening reminder of the transformative power of love, transcending boundaries of species and age. In a world often divided by differences, the pure and unconditional bond between a cat and a baby provides hope and warmth, reminding us of the inherent goodness that exists within us all.
Preview photo credit williamandteddy / TikTok, williamandteddy / TikTok
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